...If you can't get a life, then sell one...

I will tell you about a brave woman who has done this twice. She lost everything and started over both times. The first time she left her husband she put the 4 small children in a van and took only what would fit in the van which was only a few changes of clothes, blankets & pillows for the kids to use to sleep on the way and drove 1,000 miles to get away from him. Due to the judge stating that she was responsible for transportation costs for court ordered visitation 3 times a year she returned home again but about 40 miles away. Of course he told her he would change, he loved her, missed her, etc. Due to circumstances she could not control she lost her apartment and had no where to go so she returned to him. Well, it is now a year and a half later and he has not changed. He moved her and the 4 boys (11, 8, 5, 4) into a one room motel room with him with the promise they would move into an apartment shortly...it never happened. He left her home with no transportation, no phone, and very little food while he went to work and ate out for lunch every day. He kept the income tax refund check which was over $4,000 and would not give her any money. The boys could not go to school for 3 days as they had no clean clothes to wear because he would not give her money for the laundramat. All their belongings were put in a storage unit until they would move into an apartment...he did not pay the storage fees and everything was lost. Yes, it was a very abusive and controlling situation. This brave woman planned her escape by informing the school of the situation and letting them know that one day soon she would be coming to get the boys out of school to flee the situation. One day she had a friend pick her and the youngest boy up and take her to where he worked so she could snag the van. She took the van and picked up the other boys from school and went to her friends house where they all took a bath, got some laundry done so they would have clean clothes to put on and eat something as they were all very hungry. She then said good-by, got in the van and drove over 7 hours to go into a shelter where he would not be able to find her. The only possessions she had were her 4 boys and a few changes of clothes and only enough money to put gas in the van to get where she was going. She is starting over again with nothing. She is a brave woman. She is a survivor and I am very proud of her. She is my daughter. I don't know if I would be able to do what she has done. As for her starting over with nothing she says, I have the most important things I need in life....my children, and they are safe, warm and have a full belly now.

I think its a great idea and he has obviously thought about it very much to come up with a massive decision like that. I hope I can find it on ebay when he does it as I want to watch it and see what it goes for, I wonder though what he would do if it all went for a really low price, I did hear that he was not even going to put a reserve on it, but surely he will? I would do it, I think it would be fantastic to just wipe away all the bad memories and just sell up like that and just start again afresh somewhere else, very refreshing & cleansing for the soul. I have upped and left everything behind twice in my life before now and started again and it was a good thing for me.

wow, that is really courageous. I do not think I could do it, but I bet it is an exciting venture anyhow. The poor guy must have really loved his wife and is just devastated without her he has to get rid of everything that reminds him of her, maybe.

Hmmm... maddysmommy. I concur with you. It's best to have the bankcard in your wallet first. For me, I make sure I withdraw cash instead of keeping the card. He might cancel the card. LOL. If I am the man, I make sure I sell everything first, cut off all cards before "judgement" day. It's woman's world today. The law protects women who are divorced :p

Hi dear Hope u must be doing well well u must be in better position to say and response if u put urself in the shoes of that person u might not know the state he must be suffering from Dejection Breaking of All Expectation all dreams he might have So after all gone he need to changwe a break and if dont have ties to the place then u might take any step u earm not only for urself for ur close one too and u have no one to share so why to expand So all can be possible i might not sell every thing, keep few with me in case think to come back take care

No, i will definitely do this if i am in a similar situation.The guy is very brave and i really admire his courage, but i don't think it's necessary, why should i do that? If i break up with my boyfriend, maybe i would be sad for a long time, i will give him back all the gifts he had sent me, and burn up all the letters he wrote to me and all the pictures with him, but i won't bother to sell everything in my life.It's just too big cost for me. I will avoid thinking of him ,and i'm sure after maybe half a year, i would cure myself, i believe that time can cure emotional injuries.

I think that I would either sale everything or just leave it behind. I am very sentimental and holding on to the past only causes me pain. I could not imagine getting a divorce, I do not believe in it. So I would want to get as far away from everything as possible. Just go and forget, so that I can heal.

I think it makes sense if he sells everything including his house, posession and his job. If he wants a fresh start then he need to let go things that he has. If he still live in his present house then he can forget all the bad memories related to that house. I agree with his way. But, I found that he also wants to sell his friends. Its ok to sell one's friend but do these friends agreed to be sold?

His job and friends are being sold too, or at least an introduction to his friends and a trial in his job! When I left my ex I took my son , most of our clothes and my car and came back to my own country! If this were to happen to me now I don't think I could do what this man is doing and walk away from my whole life including my friends - in fact I know I couldn't! xxx

I think that is really brave, and actually kind of cool of him. He isn't letting a bad breakup ruin his life, he wants to start fresh and I think that's great! I'm not sure I would be able to sell everything I owned...I would be kind of worried selling my house and not knowing where I would be living...but on the other hand, it would be kind of exciting to move somewhere new and start a new life.

Ooopss! I wouldn't leave everything. It is there so I will just live my life moving on like it has not happened at all. Well, of course, it's painful but what can I do more? Things will not come back when I will just sigh or forget everything about me or live my place just to be revived. I don't know. I hope it will not happen. I won't let it.

I dont think I would ever do anything that extreme! Although I do think it is incredible and brave, it seems like he is running from dealing with it, and in the end he is still left with the memories. Personally I would try to make the best of things, surround myself with people I love, and move on.

I will not do what he did. I know that moving on is not that easy. One must accept and forget first what had happened before he/she can move on. And it takes time to do that. Those things and the place may remind me of him, but selling them and leaving everything behind, will never be an option. If I want to be away from home, I will maybe take a vacation, to a place where I know I will enjoy or to a place where I know I will not be alone.

If I really want to forget my pass and move one, I would sell everything that we had bought. Keeping those things will just cause me more pain. Things remind us of someone you love. And also I would need a lot of cash to regenerate my life. Instead of having the same things and eating the same painful glimps of the past, why not have a new life with new things. It would be exciting and the pain would be overwriten.