Helped or hurt?
By hallmarkjl
@hallmarkjl (500)
United States
March 19, 2008 6:44pm CST
Has online dating helped or hurt relationship building? I know a lot of people who have found someone online and got together with them and it did not work out. When they get back into the dating game and actually try to go out and meet people it is hard for them. They have been so use to being on the computer and typing that they have pretty much forgotten how to try to meet someone. On the other hand I know people who date online get together and end up getting married.
My main question is, do you think online dating hurts or helps relationship building? I tend to think it hurts it more than anything. If you have never met the person face to face you never know who you could actually be talking to. There are honest people out there, but there is also the ones who will pretend to be someone they are not. You can end up meeting the person face to face and really hitting things off. On the other hand, you could meet them face to face and they not be who you really thought they were and they could harm you.
What do you think? Also, do you know someone who has dated online, what happened there? or have you dated online?
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4 responses
@kezabelle (2974)
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21 Mar 08
I met my partner online, we chatted for a few months online before meeting up, for us it worked we have been together 6.5 years now and have two beautiful little girls together. I think if we ever split up dating again would only bea problem due to having children and having them makes a social life more sifficult sometimes.
@hallmarkjl (500)
• United States
22 Mar 08
I can see where that would be a problem if you did split up.
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
20 Mar 08
I'm not sure I can speak for anyone else, but it certainly helped me. I met my husband online, and we'll have been together 9 years in May.
I do think that some people have unrealistic expectations when they start out doing online dating, or are more trusting than they should be right away. What worked for me was becoming friends with someone before even thinking about "dating" them.
What I really like about online dating, though, is that you get to know a lot about someone's ideas, beliefs, values, and goals before you meet them.
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
20 Mar 08
The difference there would depend on how long you're talking about online dating before you meet offline. I was talking to my husband for several months online, but our relationship did eventually move offline. I suppose if you were "dating" online for years, those things would become an issue, but I don't usually see that much of that kind of bonding really early in a relationship anyways.
Then again, I'm a bit of a no-touchy person until I really get to know someone, so a new partner would likely get decked for some of that stuff with me, even if it was meant honestly.
@jc00771 (155)
• China
26 Mar 08
it depends, if you have done well before dating it may help. for example, you can see each other first with pc cam so you become aware of each other's appearance before you really meet. this may reduce much misunderstanding and rediculous imaginations and more close to the reality. and also, before you date in reality, you'd better chat much and get to know each other better and find if you are so closed in mind. if the answer is 'yes', go ahead and see each other,you will have relationship promoted.
@Jennifeer (15)
• China
20 Mar 08
I never met someone online, i do not like to get to know each other with this style. i think it's hurts or helps all about the peope you met. some of my friends knew her boyfriend online and now they got married and with a happy life. i think most of the dating online would hurt you.
