Saying "I love you" to my friends...

i do say i love you to my friends but those are people i have known for years. when i say it i truly mean it. i dont just say it for the sake of saying it... :) i dont utter those words too just to make someone feel better cause that would be the same as lying.

hi lecanis . Noooooo I have never said "i love you" and not mean it. As far as i can remember, off or online. If i dont "love" the person, I'll look for something to like or love about her/him and say maybe something like "oh i love your hair today!" I take the responsibility of loving a person quite seriously. If I dont feel it, Id rather not say anything even if it is expected of me to say it. It just wouldn't feel right and I know the person I'll be saying it to will feel that Im not sincere. I cant think of anyone who expects me to say "iloveyou" and I cant Saying "please" always (almost) works in getting me what I want Have a lovely day my friend. *hugs*

Hello lecanis!:-) This is a question, rather questions that have left me thinking many times in my life. Love is such a lovely emotion; I have always wanted to give my special respect to. I really don’t like confusion in this emotion especially when I recognize that there are many, many levels and types involved with it. Specifically, I don’t like that when I say it and mean it in a particular sense, the other person take it in slightly or totally different sense. Moreover, there may be, rather, IS possibility that I may love one aspect of someone’s personality and not the other and may even despise some other aspect. Saying that “I love you” in ‘totality’ would mean (for me, may not for others though) that I am approving everything about that person since how can I love one “as a whole” when I don’t like certain aspects about that person. It doesn’t mean that I am saying that the people who say it are dishonest, no, not at all; it is just my way of looking at it. So, out of my utter respect for this emotion and recognition of levels, I don’t say it! It may come as strange to you that I have never said it to any of my friends, in my conscience, and I don’t remember saying it directly to my parents either. I haven’t said it to even those friends for whom I would gladly lay my life. There is only one ‘adult’ person, I have said this to, and she happens to be my wife. I said it to her probably because I didn’t have fear that she will misunderstand what I mean or because I truly meant when I said. I have said it to many children though, probably because in my subconscious I think that they will not dishonor it or take it in some uncalled for dimension. Interestingly, I have said it many times for some people indirectly i.e. not in front of them but while talking to others about them. More easy and possible for me is to tell people, and my friends, that I love this and this aspect about them, still it happens fewer times than I would like to say. I do love my friends, lecanis, and I wish to say ‘I love you’ to them, but I don’t know why I can’t make myself say it actually!

I know what you mean, there are some I can think about off line that if I were to say, I love you, would be very hard.. Because of my beliefs, I do try to love everyone, even though they may not deserve it because I am loved and don't deserve it..

I can't bring myself to say, I love you, to anyone if I don't mean it. Those are words that I reserve for the people whom I feel closest too.

i dont say it unless i mean it. it makes my skin crawl when someone will casually say "oh but we love you tess!" when i know it is said just that way, casually. i dont like throwing around the word "friend" either, and that seems to offend quite a few people on a regular basis. if my honest emotions dont make someone feel better, thats kinda tuff, i wont profess to something i dont feel to coddle anyone.

I can easily say I love you to my friends, but when it comes to partners I just can't say it and mean it. My ex was forever saying it, mind you the way he said it was manipulative to get round me and when you constantly hear it day after day you know it means squiddly dot, FA! basically. I never said it once to him, sad. But looking back I don't think I've ever really really meant it, I've never experienced real love, the love that you get when you pine away, feel funny inside and feel sick when you can't be with them. Love is a rare emotion to me. I love my sisters and friends on Mylot truly that is honest love but it's a different kind of love isn't it.

I say "I love you" to a lot of people. My husband used to complain about it when we first started dating. He would say "Doll, you love everybody, how am I supposed to know if you truly love me?" I told him that I love lots of people, including my ex-husband, for who they are and what they mean to me in life. I told him that even though I love lots of people, HE is the only one that I want to be with me for the rest of my life. Now I still say "I love you" to him often, but when I can tell by the look on his face that he took it as an empty "I love you", I simply say, "forever and always". Now THAT I only say to him. LOL

i love my wife n my kid oh yeh, and my momma. I dont go round sayin that to my buddys at the bar and other people im close to. i reserve it for only the people closests to me.

I really really try to be sincere when I say I love you so I do not say that casually or very often. I had learned the hard way that some people will say that to you the same way they say have a good day and in about the same tone. Its as if they are looking around to get approval or brownie points for being so darned loving. a lot like air kisses a lot of women give other women. they do not mean a darned thing just so much hot air besides they do not dare smudge their inch thick lipstick. I have some relatives to whom I really cannot say it as the words would stickin my throat. these ladies are the air-kissing type. When I saw one of her air kisses coming I moved back out of the way and was she red.

I find it extremely hard to say "I love you" and "I'm sorry" to people I actually do feel that way about. I just start to stutter and I don't know why that is. But fortunately it's been getting easier for me to say "I love you" to my husband ever since we got married. Maybe it's a phsycological thing.

i think the words "i love you" is so overrated. i always hear it from friends... well, i always say it too and sometimes i mean it, sometimes i don't. often times, if somebody says "i love you", my tendency is to reply "i love you, too!" yeah... and for me, i think i can distinguish who is serious or not serious in saying those magical words. hehehe, like for instance, if it just came from a friend you're not that close to, you'll know that it's just a casual way of i care or something like that. i don't often say i love you to my parents. tho i know i should. i dont know why, maybe i'm just not used to it. and besides, i think if you really love someone, actions speak louder than words. so its better to show it than to say i love you everyday! hahah! and... like, i have a couple of friends who seldom say i love you. and when do say it, i just makes me happy cause you know they mean it.you know what i mean? lol. and yea, it doesn't make me feel horrible when i say it and i don't mean it, cause even if you don't really mean it, it'll surely make somebody happy!! boost their ego and all that stuff, cause you'll feel good when somebody loves you! lol.

For me it is normal to say i love u to my friends.. But it is more normal if I say i love u to the one i love right? Saying i love you to your friends are not a problem .. Its just your loving your friends right? ehe

Their are sertan people that i can't say that to but i usually say it to all my freinds (that are girls) because here it is just normal. Everyone is joined together.

OOoh do I ever know what you mean about the whole nasty taste in your mouth..I get that nasty taste whenever my mother says it to me since I know she's beyond full of it As for saying it myself...I try to only say it when I mean it but for me its more in the showing that I love and care about someone thats important..talk can be cheap so if I really want someone to know or if someone wants me to know that they care actions speak far louder than words do ya know...And of course actions doesnt mean going out and buying me things or doing stuff for me etc etc..it could be just a simple "hey how you doing today" when I'm having a bad run or even just a "hi, hope you have a great day" for no apparent reason ya know..

I use those words with extreme caution Lecanis, and I don't say it unless I really do mean it. Still I may feel it and not say it, because those words, when uttered can have some very unexpected, and often negative effects.

I don't say it when I don't mean it. I can comfortably say it only to someone who understands and who has the seemingly the same wave length with me as to saying I love you is concerned. Not all people are comfortable with saying or receiving, "I love you." Others might maliciously judge you for hearing such from you. Personally, I make it a point to tell it to those who are comfortable with it and is used to it. So, shall I say, "I love you?" I mean, thanks, have a wonderful day ahead, I wish you good cheer and take care!

I use the words I love you online more freely then I do in person. I can honestly say I love a few people here. Not love, like want to marry and spend the rest of my life with love them, but love them like I love my real life friends. As far as relationships go I said it once and didn't mean it. I knew I didn't mean it when I said it and nothing good at all came from that relationship. Now I make doubly sure how I feel about someone who I am planning on spending any significant time with before I even allow myself to think it. I rarely say it first and never say it if I don't mean it.

Hey I think it depends on how well you know them if at all or weither you are just saying for the sake of saying it or not a.

If I say "I love you" it is because I mean it. I too have said it to on line friends, people that I have never met, never spoken to, and in some cases people that I have never even seen a photograph of. But our communications have been such that I have been moved for their love and support to me. I am a habitual sayer of these three magic words to people that I have an affection for. I try not to say it glibly and never because I think that it is what the other person wants to hear. I tell my wife that I love her all the time. Because I do. Same with my daughter and my Mum and Dad and sister. My closest friends know that I love them. There are loads more that I like, but stop short of love. I think that you have to somehow experience something special together before you take that final step. Hope that helps.