Fairweather Friends

i have spent most of studying years in hostel. so i have seen lot of guys like that. i was always trying to ignore them whenever they were around me.but still there were times cheated by those guys

yup! i have had a few of them. i was a hosteler till about 2 years back. and you can get to see all sorts of people from all walks of life and varied interests and personalities under one roof. there are from the rags to the riches. it is hard to judge many of them. what they have in mind and what they are up to? there are a group of parasites among these and these creatures suck out the life out of you and you can never know. most of them depend on others financially and ask money on debt. but they do not return the amount borrowed. when asked they will say 'later'. if asked later they may even deny having borrowed money or lie that they have returned the money. i have lost at least a 2000 bucks by helping others financially during my college days. another item that i had shared were my shirts. i never got a few ,the ones i got was delapidated and not fit for use. they never even bother to say sorry. these parasites can give us a good stab in the back when it comes to political rivalry even if we are not actively involved. so they do not value the friendship but their principles. they laugh with us ,play with us and stick with us just for their pleasure and leave us in the lurch when we get stranded. i remember one of my batchmates who supported a party and worked for the campaigning during the college elections. he was no candidate but was an overall student and was famous in campus for his co-curricular activities. so knowing that his campaigning can cause trouble to the opposition , my another batchmate who was a supporter of the opposing party assaulted this guy with the help of local hooligans and called his parents and warned them to persuade their son to keep off the party work for good or face disastrous consequences. he backed and the opposition won with minor lead. and this guy still calls him a friend. what a jerk!! people nowadays like to get things going good for them and they utilise anything , take up any route, perform any deed that will result favourably for them. personally i have a few friends i can rely on with my eyes closed. but making new friends is a tough job particularly when you had to experience bad consequences. i now keep a distance while interacting and wait for some time maybe months before i can certificate a character. it usually helps and gives you time to think and judge the person. i normally do not jump into conversations when i meet someone... every body calls me reserved and shy... but i feel like talking to someone only after i have come to know about them and there is no factor of shyness in it. but i get too talkative with close ones .so its not verbal emptiness. to keep a distance and to smile superficially and learn not to indulge in the affairs of these fair weather friends is the only solution out of it. it is better to keep them as friends for namesake . because rejecting or frustrating them can cause more harm. there is a say in my language 'a policeman who knows you well , will give you two punches more'. it means turning a friend into an enemy can be disastrous as he knows your weaknesses and strengths.

i have already had someone in mind while answering this post. i used to have a friend and claimed we are best of friends but he disappeared in the darkest days and months of my life the moment i said "can you help me?" he just disappeared like a bubble into thin air. i remember updating my friendster account and maybe he has seen i am all better with my finances than before and he has come back.. we talk again and he acts as if nothing has happened. i did not mention it to him but i sure did not forget what he did to me.