No children..Would it break a marriage??
By mycharm88
@mycharm88 (2288)
Philippines
March 20, 2008 7:39am CST
Hello guys c",)
My cousins had a visit at our house this morning, since today is holiday (holy thursday) my cousin lita also came and jump into my bed just for a chat. We came to a serious talk about her marraige. I was surprized because they both seemed fine and in love and caring for each other. They are married for 10 years and still has no children. She seemed envious about my elder sister who has now three beautiful babies in 6yrs of marraige. And she is worried about their (she and her husband) arguments on having a baby. They have already gone for check-ups to find out who might be needing help but the doctor would always say that they're both fine. And my cousin in law is not open for an idea about adopting a child. I'm not really sure if they already did everything possible, but my question is, if they will never ever have a child, would it lead to devorce? Does anything like this happens?
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9 responses
@wnbwnbwnb (426)
• China
3 Apr 08
I cannot say that a marriage without children would definately be failed,However, a kid is the key factor that keep a family closed.
My sister in law cannot have a baby,this makes her really sad,since she and her husband love kids so much,and they tried so hard to have one.I can feel their depression,and they told me that this would be a huge regret for their lives!
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@jinduoyinqing (88)
• China
3 Apr 08
What you said reminds me of the soap Friends. Have you ever watched it? Ross, Rachel,Phoebe.....I remember when Chandler and Monica get married, they are not able to have a child of their own. However, both Chan and Mon are healthy. It's just that Chan's sperm can't live in Mon's uterus. So they adopt kids at last.
Maybe it's the same situation with your cousin and his husband. I don't know.
But I don't think baby is a problem if they love each other.
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
3 Apr 08
Look it depends on how she and her husband handle this issue. May be we have heard many go on divorce for this reason only. as they have no problem, miracles will happen as i believe.May be it is taking time.If they take i sincerely and can understand both way the sentiment, it can never break the marriage.
@headhunter525 (3548)
• India
3 Apr 08
I think the chance of divorce or marriage break up is lesser when couple have children/child. The child somehow acts as the uniting factor. However, I think it is important to learn how to live together in spite of not having children. Divorce is generally speaking not healthy.
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@jofeli (502)
• Indonesia
28 Mar 08
As you can see from one of my discussions I've started, about how to have kids, we also wish to have babies. I don't think that we should break the relatioship just because of babies. If so, then the reason of us being married is merely of kids. I tried to think about this lately and come to conclusion that if we can accept whatever given to us, then we won't have to worry about anything. I'm sure that each of us has something special "task" in this world, whether to become mommy, daddy, wife, husband, kid, doctor, etc. Just follow the flow then we'll see the way... :)
PS: Have your cousin considered alternative healing? It might be one solution other than doctors.
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@lovedeww (5)
• China
21 Mar 08
Don't be afraid about the thing.You say they love each other.If that is real,i believe they won't devorced for that reason.The most important thing is that the doctor say they're both fine.So i think all they need is waitting.At last,i wish your cousins would had a beautiful baby.
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@p3halliwel2005 (3156)
• Philippines
21 Mar 08
If they both love each other so much they will not end up divorcing each other just because they can't have kids. If they both don't have a medical problem in conceiving then it is no problem it is just not their time yet to have a child. I have a sister they were married 5 years before they had a baby. They went to different places like in Obando Bulacan wherein they have to dance to conceive. They also touched that fertility statue..They did almost everything crazy just to get a baby and finally they did. They have 2 girls and a boy..Constant prayer would help as well.
@alexdra77 (147)
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21 Mar 08
It has happened before where marriage breaks down because of not having any children. However, it still depends on both the man and woman, other marriages coped fine without not having any.
If they really love and want to be with each other then they will work it out, plus so far the doctor says they are both fine. probably they are putting themselves under too much pressure! Hopefully this helps.
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@purelytrina (11)
• Philippines
21 Mar 08
it depends... as long as they love each other with or without a child. i have a friend who has been married for almost 10 years but still they dont have a child of their own... so they decided to adopt one... adoption would be an option... they are happy with what they have decided.
