Whats wrong with me

I think all new mothers have a feeling like that. I for one am the same way. But right now I can't have a child due to medical reasons so we have put that behind us for now. But we were like that. I think seeing kids that are not yours is easier than having your own. You can always give them back to their parents right. Well with yours you can't do that. I am sure you will be a great mom. You will know when the time is right for you to have a baby.

Hi, I am an expecting mom. I used to have those kind of thoughts too. But now that I'm near due I can't wait to be a mommy already. Now, I know that somehow I will be a great mom in my own way. There is nothing wrong with you, it's pretty normal to think that way but I'm sure that when the time has come you will be blessed with a baby, all those thoughts will fade away. Goodluck to you.

As a man, I loved having babies! It was great fun starting them off of course! haha I didn't feel much pain when they were born, just some sympathetic stomach pains, but I could handle that. And they are so cute when they are growing up and if they get dirty or make too much noise you can just hand them to your wife to sort out. Great! haha We had a good friend who was late having babies. She couldn't understand what all the fuss was about and the 'baby conversation' bored her. Then she had a baby and wow! - she couldn't stop talking about babies. haha Don't worry - you are quite normal. You have passed the first hurdle in getting a man! haha Now go to Stage II and have a baby. Oh yes, and welcome to Mylot where you will find strange people like me! haha

I guess you need to be well-prepared for motherhood, or rather parenthood. Read a lot of literature about it and understand the subject. It is more of vocation out of love than a task that must torment your lifetime. You will learn that you will actually come to love your offspring, you get attached. That is why you see your friends taking their kids to the mall, park, etc. It is a joy and I am pretty sure you will love it when that comes. I think you freak out because theya re not your kids that you go hang out with.

Quite often, before I became a mother, I really didn't care for other peoples children. But now that I am a mom, I just love him so much! I think you put up with a lot more and have more patience when it's your own child. Good luck!

well i would have to say i had those feelings too before my first baby came,i was so scared and all the whats if's that you think about,but i'll tell you once you see that beautiful baby,you instantly fall in love,and yes at times it might get tough,but its worth it,you always know that baby loves you no matter what you might do wrong along the way,other peoples kids are alot different than your own,believe me.well good luck with whatever you may choose to do.

I think all moms have that fear, but having your own child is a lot different than being around other peoples kids. Trust me, it's so worth it to have your own kids. Kids don't come with a manual and parents make mistakes, I know I have. But in the end you will see that you can't fail as long as you love your kids and let them know you do.

I wouldn't say all would be mothers feel this way, but definitely, quite a few of them do. When they have their babies though, their bodies adjust to motherhood, and the baby is not the scary little creature they think it might be. The new mother will take everything in her stride, and there's no feeling to match the one you get when that baby makes its first appearance in this World. Nothing can ever compare to it. I had my kids young, and only twenty months apart, and I never, ever wished I could give them back. They are a part of me, and a part of my life and I couldn't imagine them not being there any longer. My life would be empty. Brightest Blessings.

Babies are God's gift to us. They are adorable..Yes sometimes they are bad and really a mess but kids are kids. I have 5 of my own but even If I have problems with them at times I still am glad I have them. Do not think of failure in you being a mom..if by chance you see a certain kid that is giving her mom a headache...think a moment..say I can do better than this....Make yourself complete by having a child. It is nice to grow old when you know that you have kids of your own..Don't wait 'til it's too late to have your own flesh and blood around.

Oh dear jsarten, those are very normal feelings you are experiencing. Some day when you get pregnant, you might even have those feelings right up until the baby is born. But once they place your baby in your arms something happens and you just KNOW that you are the most important thing in this little persons life and you are going to do all you can to keep it safe. Don't make the mistake of comparing yourself to your friends. You might not be a very good parent to their children, but you will be the best parent ever for your child.

I agree with Nicholejade. I think everyone has some fears, maybe even strong fears, but if it's something you truly want, that's all that matters. The maternal instinct is such a natural thing that once you have a baby, everything should be fine. Plus, I am sure you have friends and family that could help every now and then. One of my best friends just had a baby. She was so scared and unsure of herself when she was almost due that she wouldn't be a good mother. Her beautiful baby boy was born December 23 and she is a great mom and said becoming a mother was one of the best things she has ever done with her life! : )

I have a friend who shared a similar story with me. Only, what you experienced happened to her on the day she delivered and continued for a little while thereafter. She was very proud of how she looked during pregnancy and she enjoyed the experience. Her boyfriend found her very sexy and she was pampered throughout and poeple couldnt help but compliment her on how she looked. Well she was one of those who really piled it on during delivery when the pain became too much to bear. She begged them to take the child and thought she would die but the dramma began when the baby was delivered and shown to her. She said the child was so ugly she told them to take it away because she did not have anything so ugly, and for some time after that no one could get her to as much as hold the baby. She finally got over it and now her one and only child (a son) is the apple of her eye and he in turn is quiet protective of her. So its quiet natural I guess and happens at different times for each woman who experiences it.

dont worry once u have a baby all theese thoughts u have will dispeare go on and have a baby believe me all ur thoughts will be changed !!!!!! good luck with raising that child in advance