Do you every "weed" your friends list?
@desertdarlene (8910)
United States
March 20, 2008 1:58pm CST
I have been going through my friends list looking for discussions that they may have answered and that I may have missed. Well, I've noticed that way too many of them haven't been active for a while. It's kinda sad because I can remember many of these people being so active at one time.
And, a large majority of them only seem to post discussions about their moneymaking sites or other topics I'm not interested in. Some, I can tell, have been banned. So, I am weeding out my friends. If I deleted you and you didn't want me to, feel free to put in a new request to me.
How about anyone else? Do you weed out your friends list?
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@jillbeth (2705)
• United States
20 Mar 08
No because friends come and go, and sometimes when they go, they come back! If they have been banned I would certainly weed them out, or if their discussions are filled with topics you have no interest in, then weed them out if you like. I'd personally keep the ones who have been gone awhile but had interesting topics.
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@desertdarlene (8910)
• United States
20 Mar 08
Thanks for responding. I wish there was an edit button because I just realized I put "every" instead of "ever". But, I'm glad you responded. 
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@desertdarlene (8910)
• United States
21 Mar 08
Yeah, I've thought about that. But, recently, I realized just how few of the people on my friends list are starting or participating in discussions. I really want to have people on my list that are active so it's easy to find their discussions.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
20 Mar 08
I did weed it out when I found that when I talked about God and Jesus Christ I was getting a whole lot of negatives, so I deleted the ones most likely and made requests for those who were more than likely to stand up for God and Jesus Christ. So now I find there are those who have Christian and Jesus Christ as their interests and are really not for HIM. Now I find I have a lot pending. Maybe they should have what kind of Christian you are like are you a Baptist, a Presbyterian, believe in adult baptism, believe in infant baptist, and it is so confusing as they do not say "well I will not choose you as my friend because you are not ==="
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@desertdarlene (8910)
• United States
20 Mar 08
I had to delete a couple of people for that same reason. I remember one person adding me to their list and the very next day attacking me on something I wrote regarding the bible. I agree with you that some people put Christian and Jesus Christ as their interests only do so because they want to attack people on the subject.
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
20 Mar 08
I can really identify with this discussion. When we are new here, it is a bit hard to tell whether to accept or reject new friends, and one does not like to hurt anyone's feelings. Then, after we start feeling our way around we find that some people are users and only wanted to be "friends" as an excuse to spam our profiles. Then there are other very nice friends who are inactive for a while but we treasure them and hope they will come back. Sometimes when I am weeding I try to be very careful and try not let my mouse slip, and delete the wrong person. I guess if I made a mistake I could send the wrongly deleted on a new friend request. Ah, but some, as much as I hate to say it, truly are weeds. 
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@desertdarlene (8910)
• United States
21 Mar 08
Yeah, I think I really did delete someone I didn't mean to, but, luckily, they requested me to add them again.
I know of one person in particular that only asked me to be a friend so she can scam me. Funny thing is that when I was going through all the profiles, I noticed that she put spam comments on a lot of profiles. Most of the people I have deleted haven't been active for very many months or have only posted one or two discussions about their paid programs.
@kolleenwilson (94)
• United States
20 Mar 08
I just started on MyLot so I am not looking to "weed" anyone out yet. I will I know if you weeded me out? I am still trying to figure out how to use this social network successfully...
@desertdarlene (8910)
• United States
21 Mar 08
I didn't weed people here when I first started because I wanted as many friends on my list as possible. If I have added you as a friend and you suddenly stopped seeing my activity, then I might have weeded you out. On your profile, you would see that I'm not on your list. Other than a few troublemakers, I had never deleted any of my friends for over a year. The only reason why I'm doing it now is that I've been a member so long and there are so many people who are no longer active on my list.
@desertdarlene (8910)
• United States
21 Mar 08
Yeah, that's how I feel, too. Though, I do like an alternative point of view, but if they attack me at every turn, then I don't need them as a friend.
