My girlfriend does not get tired?
By goergineo
@goergineo (1498)
Jordan
March 20, 2008 3:56pm CST
always call me at home, at work, and in my rest times. I really like her so much and consider her as my future partner. but she does not get tired. I imagine if we get married. how would my life be?
should i break up or continue
would anybody wise give me an advise?
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8 responses
@Darkwing (21583)
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20 Mar 08
Do you really need to ask that question? I think you know in your own mind what you should do.
My feelings are that you're both very much in love with each other, and she misses you a lot when you're not around, hence she phones you, because she wants to hear your voice. If you were settled down together, things would be different, I'm sure. Besides... do you really want her to be tired of you... tired of hearing your voice... tired of your company? I don't think so.
I think you have probably already made up your mind about this. But if not... ask yourself one question... are you tired of her? Do you not like the attention she's giving you? If not, and you want to continue the relationship, then it's time you sat down together and had a good chat about your feelings and the future.
Brightest Blessings.
@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
20 Mar 08
Dear freind, I am crazy about her I cant imagine life without her. she is my hope, love, and the person i live for.
thank you for reminding me how much she means to me.
but sometimes i am busy and cant just think of her all the time cause you know i have to keep going in my work that would provide both of us with better life. I wish that she could be more relaxed.
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@Darkwing (21583)
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20 Mar 08
Then, have you tried talking to her about it? Maybe you could come to some agreement that she doesn't phone you at work or something. I'm sure she'd understand. Tell her she can send you text messages whilst you're at work, and turn your cell phone off whilst working, checking them afterwards. Let her know how concerned you are about building a comfortable future life for you both.
I'm sure you didn't need reminding of how you feel about her... it positively radiates out of your words! Tell me something, are you engaged to her yet, or planning to make her your fiance?
@elainablack (34)
• United States
20 Mar 08
Very wisely spoken, Darkwing. I know from my personal viewpoint that if I could call my husband all day long I would, just so that I could feel connected to him. I know I would be hurt if he flat out told me that I was annoying him and to leave him alone. Love is never something that should be pushed away, at least when it's mutual like it is in this case.
@onesiobhan (1327)
• Canada
21 Mar 08
Wait until you've had a couple of kids together. You ain't SEEN tired like that...
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
21 Mar 08
Haha. You sounded like someone i knew from work. Her GF was such a clinging vine. She sees all the girls her BF work with as a threat to their relationship. I see how unhealthy it has become for him and he calls her a nag now.
I think if it gets to that point, and your GF do not try to give you your freedom and give you her full trust... you will get tired of her "sweetness".
Have you told her how irritating this thing that she do to you? Has it been cleared out with her that she has nothing to worry about you hooking up with other ladies? Maybe she is like that because you have not given her anything to feel secure.
Try and talk with her first, she might still change. Whene everything else fails - its time to go.
@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
21 Mar 08
That is a good suggestion dear. but i do not think i can talk that way to her cause i may hurt her. so i depend on the fact that alot of poeple tell that she is gonna change after marriage
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@aowaow (1516)
• Indonesia
21 Mar 08
You need to convince this type. They are insecure about themselves. But LOL, don't tell her about this argument.
You have to share sometimes in your job work, and tell her that you are okay, or at least tell her that you care about her for whole day. Try to calm her curiosity side, you are now gained 50% of loving wife side from this woman, she loves you, but she needs you to secure the other 50% to her.
Like small sample: It's better if you call her first, rather than she calls you first. Asking hows her day, have lunch yet, or etc about caring. Woman feels secure when you show your care to them.
It's sick at first time, but lately you will get used to it. And no matter how many times, she will convince herself at last. But don't expect it will stop, because later longer time it will come back.
You have a good spouse, she really loves you. So, don't waste this one. Seeking other one doesn't make anything better than old one, because nobody's perfect.
@goldwin65 (935)
• Malaysia
21 Mar 08
Do you really love her?
If you love her and knowing that she loves you very much, you should not consider of [/b]breaking up [b]your relationship with her. Sorry if I am wrong, it sound that you are not so sure of your own feeling towards her.
Let me tell you something. Girls are very sensitive and insecure and that is why she is never tired of trying to win your heart. My wife acted the same way too before and until today she still call me in the office oe anywhere else. It is common for girls or ladies to behave that way. Once you get married, her action and her love will never fade away. Believe me.
Good luck buddy.
@elainablack (34)
• United States
20 Mar 08
You know, this discussion really hits home for me. When my husband and I were still dating I was the same way as your girlfriend...never tired. I was always visiting my boyfriend, I'd come over after class, stay really late, and sometimes be back early the next morning. He used to wonder how I did it: how I could spend time with him, go out on dates and to parties, work 25-35 hours a week, and go to college with a 3.5 GPA. I was never tired! And that's not even as full as some people fill their schedules.
I would not advise you to break up with your girlfriend. The only way you guys can work anything out is to talk and talk calmy. Think about what the problem is and address the problems, but don't accuse her of being a pain or an annoyance, becuase I'm sure she just can't stand to be away from you and wan't to feel connected. She's probably to trying to pest you. Once my boyfriend and I became husband and wife, I settled way down, especially when we had kids. Now, nearly five years later, all he ever complains about it how tired I am :) Today I wonder where all my energy went that I had when I was 18, when I could do a million things and never get tired. Now I always feel like I need a nap.
Like I said, if it's bothering you, you guys definitely need to talk so you can come to some sort of agreement. Maybe designate a quiet time for you when you would appreciate not being called or interupted, and be sure your girlfriend is away of this time. If she loves and respects your personal time, I'm sure she will agree to give you some peace so that you can refresh during the day. Communication is key in relationships, so don't be afraid to speak to her. She may have some things she wants to talk about as well.
Best of luck to you!
@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
20 Mar 08
Thanks alot that is exactly what i wanted to hear.
Thanks again.
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@jlcastings (33)
• China
21 Mar 08
For the time being, I can see that you are in love with eachother so deeply. I personally think that if you were married, things may become a little bit different. After married, you will have a lot of time to be with eachother. Perhaps you may argue with her about sth. But I do not think this will affect the relationship between you two. just treat her better and you will be happy to be with her.
@kilani123 (864)
• United Arab Emirates
20 Mar 08
hi there my freind georgineo
well i think u should break up with her imagine if u continue with her what will happen to
any way i hope that your girlfreind will not be mad at me
your faithfull freind