Who is worth blaming?

In most cases, both parties will be at fault.. Regardless of the ex bf or the gal, because they only believe when they are in love, they should be together.. But they din think about the poor gal, she also in love with her bf :(

I think all parties are to be blamed. The way I see it, the 3rd party knew that she was stealing the guy. That makes her a bad person, thus she is counted among the "to be blamed." Then there's the guy, who already had a girlfriend, yet accepted the advances of the 3rd party. Again, that person is marked as bad and will also be counted in the "to be blamed" category. Sadly, the original gf who had her bf stolen was in all probability not taking care of her relationship. That also makes her bad and thus is also categorized as someone "to be blamed," as well. PS. Why dis I say the original gf did not take care of her relationship? Its because it is a well known fact that any person, be it a guy or a girl, cannot be persuaded to jump from their relationship as long as they are satisfied with their current relationship... but you wouldn't know that yet... wait 'till you get a bit older, then you'll see what I mean... :)

To be completely honest, I don't think there's really any fault involved at all. Yes, the girl really had no place flirting with this girl's boyfriend, but at the same time, if the guy really loved his girlfriend, he'd be able to stay loyal even if other women showed interest in him. I suppose, I guess, that if he's going to leave his girlfriend of three years for a woman that's just flirting with him, then those two don't really belong together. I suppose the only thing that can really be done now is let this guy have dug his grave. If he and his new girlfriend end up happy, just let them be happy. If he ends up miserable, well, it serves him right and it's the choice of his ex-girlfriend as to whether she wants to accept him back or not. If I were her, I wouldn't take him back, though.

At least we can talk to both side, from your friend and from her b/f (ex now). Let's hear, and you can judge which one is right. We cannot blame before hearing from both sides. Even though it's our best friend, we need to corrected if in case the wrong side is at our friend. He must have the reason to leave your friend. The boy felt more secure to go with another girl, because he found that new one is more suitable in his heart. That's the basic reason. Well, since you all are in High School and already want to graduate, don't worry, your path are still long ahead, the more you're getting older, the more you will be different in choosing men's category, and whole stuff will be changed dramatically. So, why bother?

They both are at fault. Him for doing this to his girlfriend and her for entertaining him. People like this just irk me. She will probably grow up to be a home wrecker. Sorry just my opinion.

I dont see "blame" as being needed in this situation. Falling in love is something that can't be stopped. It just happens, whether you sincerely want it to or not. Obviously it sucks being together that long and all the sudden it just stopping. But with time, people, wants,needs, and desires change. Maybe not always for the better, but it happens and thers nothing anyone can do about it. I feel for the girl, she's totally helpless and undeserving in this situation, but how about the guy that had to completely destroy the heart of someone he loved just to do the right thing?

As the saying goes, it takes 2 to tango. They are both to blame. I do think though that your thoughts and efforts should be focused more on supporting your friend rather than trying to blame people.

I'd have to say that you could really blame the guy for being so stup!d. I mean, you all know the reputation of the girl that caused the break up and why on earth would he throw the three years that he and your friend have built? Then again, blaming anyone doesn't really solve anything even when you could mention a hundred reasons. The end result still remains and your friend is broken hearted for that guy's stup!d!ty. About the girl who has that reputation of having numerous relationships that started by breaking an already starting one, I really can't blame her if she already has the reputation. There are really reasons why she ends up being like that and its not just the... oh what they heck, nothing would change if I do presume to elaborate on her side.

i am so sorry about your friend . i really donnt like that bad girl who stole your friend's bf .in my class there also has a girl like that bad one . nobody like him. all of them should be blamed except that there has a true love .

I am not in the position to judge them but I say it would be both of them. Only one thing is sure though, your close friend doesn't deserve such kind of boyfriend, she deserves someone better...

In this case the blame spreads both ways. The most I could say other than that, is that I think guy was stupid. The same knife which stick sheep will stick goat, so she might very well soon dump him. Those of you who have boy friends and may still be around her should maybe pay close attention to your relationships as well. Maybe she just gets a kick out of thinking that guys prefer her to their girlfriends.

theyre kinda both to blame. and just for the record, you cant "steal" a person.. he went willingly.

Oh, oh and more oh. I've been there. My boyfriend's the total dream boy in church. He sings. He plays the organ. He takes care of his sibs... you get the picture. And the moment I met him I liked him... and then he liked me... and a few years later we finally took the plunge to get in a relationship. Just before we were about to celebrate our first anniversary, we had a major argument, and we left it at that. Weeks and weeks rolled by and just when I was about to negotiate [and save our relationship], rumors were going around that he was going to court some girl in church--the same girl I confided in when I have problems with my boy. Needless to say things were never the same again. In the end, we got to fix our problem and the 'mistress' became a church outcast. I talked to a friend of mine and she told me the exact same thing: she [the girl who tried to steal my boyfriend] was also trying to steal her boyfriend back in elementary school. In the end--who is to blame? Well the mistress, of course. She knows where she's supposed to be, yet she--doesn't. You just have to hate people like her. For real. The next thing you'll know she'll either be stealing your man, or other people are backstabbing her by know. Unfortunately, she's thinking she's better than the rest of you combined because she has this great a number of men who hooked up with her. The good news is, people like us know better. Just don't get into a catfight with her and everything's going to be fine. And make sure she's someplace far from your man. That way you're safe, too.

I am sorry to what happened to your friend. In this case, both the ex boyfriend and the girl are worth blaming. If the ex boyfriend really loves your friend and value their relationship, he should not have cheated on her. On the other hand the girl who "stole" the boyfriend should know what her acts could impact other person's being.

sometimes we think that this stuff is pretty easy to answer but what we usually forget to think of is that there are many things that we don't know for sure. all the information here is not to be treated as facts. some of them might not even be true. what i'm saying is that whatever happened, it happened for a reason and purpose. nobody is to be blamed. things happen and you just have to fight a fight when you can and however you want to do it. all i'm saying is that nobody is the bad guy here. if i was her friend, i would be on her side nomatter what because i value our friendship than her boyfriend cheating on her. try telling your friend that there are a lot guys out there. her ex-boyfriend is not the only handsome guy out there.

Boyfriends and girlfriends don't belong to anyone! This is silly, and when you are grown up you will realise this. No one is to "blame," and nobody steals a boyfriend or girlfriend. If boys could be owned by girls, or girls could be owned by boys, it would be like an arranged Marriage. Nobody likes Arranged marriages but the Parents who sell their daughter for a dowry. There is an old saying that you would do well to consider! This is a True-ism-" All is Fair, in Love and War!"

i think it is both sides, but the fact that you guys are just kids (not to degrade you or something) its just that we all have to experience such thing. anyway, i said this is both sides because the guy already know he have a gf and he shouldnt even flirt with anybody else (this apply even when you get older) and the guy should realize that it will hurt her gf's feelings. if he wants another girl then he should have ended the relationship first then go on to another. i said it is the other girls fault as well because she still entertain it, i feel if you dont like the guy no matter what he do it will nit gonna happen but since you let it be then you are taking the responsibility out of it. i dont want to break your friend's heart either but i am not sure if she is really a victim or not. maybe she is nagging her bf so much that her bf is no longer affectionate to her or maybe she neglects him or maybe she is a real sweetheart and accepts everything about his bf even if it pains her. either way, tell your friend that she dont deserve such guy, she deserves better and it is not the end of the world. the fact that you guys will be in college soon makes it more easier to move on coz you will find new faces and who knows maybe that will be the right one for your friend. i am not discouraging you guys, but i have been there done that but NO i am not saying i have the answer it's just that this situation happens to almost 90% of the teenagers now and even back then. goodluck and congratulations on your graduation. takecare

ill say blame the guy , he obviously didnt care about the relationship so and now its over , but overall this might be a good thing for the both of them espically your girlfriend , now you guys are going into the real world now there are more better floks in college better for this to happen now than later in life , and this was a High School realationship was they thought it was something hughe but merely its something smalll ...its just high school

tell your close friend to just find another guy :-)