why can't i be more like you sometimes?
@frecklelip334 (1668)
United States
March 21, 2008 8:48am CST
Of course there are several times we say, "I will NEVER do that like my mother did", or, "I will never treat my child the way my mother treated me", or however you want to say it. BUT are there times you go back and say, "Dang I wish I could do that like my mom used to"?
I just caught myself this morning, opening up a new box of cereal, and realizing that EVERYTIME I do, I rip the box top somehow. Can't open a box of cereal very well for heaven's sake. So I said out loud, "When I was younger, the cereal box tops were never ripped like this, why can't I open a box of cereal, Mom never had a problem with this."
Made me wonder if something was wrong with me, LOL! I can't cut apples for my son like my mom used to. Does that mean there's a wrong or right way to do it? Doubt it. My mom told me that by the time I noticed how things were done, she had had A LOT of practice at it all. Well I have opened up hundreds of cereal boxes before, so that seems silly, BUT don't cut up apples very often! I eat them whole, but now that I cut them up for my son to eat, well so it takes a little practice!
Sometimes things come so easily to mothers, second nature, but other's DO take practice I suppose! LOL!
Is there anything you WISH you could do more like your own mother used to? Things you wish you could do for your kids? OR do you just not care and do your own thing? I don't strive to be just like my mother, BUT she was/is a great mother, and sometimes it takes US to become parents ourselves, to truly appreciate what our parents did for us. Even the smallest things like how they used to cut our sandwiches (my son likes them cut into triangles), OR slice a dang apple!
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@austinbell (491)
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24 Mar 08
When I was younger and my mum & dad were getting older we sometimes smiled at some of the things they came out with and I said that I would never say those sort of things or do that sort of thing. Now I am getting older and both mum & dad are no longer here I sometimes catch myself doing/saying the same sorts of things.
I went out for coffee the other day with my daughter who is now in her middle years and she said that she had caught herself doing something I used to do when she was youngher and which at the time she said she would never do. We both ended up in fits of laughter
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@frecklelip334 (1668)
• United States
7 Apr 08
that's a great story, thank you for sharing. this is exactly what i'm talking about, that we may have giggled at something our parents had said when we were younger, but then as we get older it just happens to come out when we are talking to our own kids! that's too funny! thanks so much for responding dear friend.
@austinbell (491)
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8 Apr 08
I have caught myself doing or saying something mum did when I was younger, I think it must happen to us all in time
@jona_jz (80)
• Philippines
21 Mar 08
This is great! I have experienced being that situation too that sometimes I think that I don't want to do my things that my Mom did and sometimes, I would say that I wish I can do the things that my Mom does.
I don't think there's wrong about that because since they're our Moms, it would be normal for us to say that they're great(if they really are)and wish to do things like they do. But being their child, not of the things that they did for us is likable for us, most especially, when we're growing up with them. Sometimes, on our childhood, we even think that our Moms are so unfair because they don't let us do all the things that we wanted. But, yes, it is true that you'll only appreciate the things that your Mom, even your Dad had done to you until you'll be in their shoes, being a parents like them. And then we can say, now, I am acting like my Mom and my Mom is always the best for me. =)
@frecklelip334 (1668)
• United States
21 Mar 08
thank you jona! it's true that while we are growing up we say it's so unfair, or i hate that, but when we finally grow up a bit, we understand a little more as to why some things were done the way they were! if you have positive memories from your parents, then you work with that later in life. if negative you try to improve YOURSELF and how you parent your children then! we all learn from each other, whether we end up just like our parents, OR learn how to change what our parents did before. thank you for responding!!
@frecklelip334 (1668)
• United States
21 Mar 08
and thank you mrs for responding. you have made the decision to do things differently, and that's good, cuz you have to do what's right in your heart. if you were mistrested as a child, or things weren't done how they maybe should have been, you took a different route, a maybe more mature route and changed things to make YOUR life better and that is admirable! good for you!
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
22 Mar 08
No I don't think so
I have done everything my way and I think I have done well and it makes me feel I am my own Person
But that is just me Sweetie I never wanted to be like anyone I just always wanted to be me and do things my Way
@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
7 Apr 08
Good afternoon FreckleLip :))) good to see you my friend. My mother had a real talent for making pie crusts and biscuits from scratch, in fact baking was her forte altogether. She left no recipes, and everything she did was eyeballed, she just knew how much of this or that went into her baked goods. I can hardly roll out a cookie. I miss those biscuits and gravy dinners. Not to mention when I try my hand at a pie crust I get something that is either to touch to eat or falls apart in the baking.
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@frecklelip334 (1668)
• United States
7 Apr 08
this is a great response, because it shows that your mom was so good at all that, that she didn't even have recipes, but it would be nice to learn for you....but you say you're not even good at rolling out cookie dough, lol, not laughing cuz you can't, but i can't either, lol. i love to cook, but not bake, yuck! haha. but that is something you remember of your mom, and that was a great quality. what a great thing to share, thank you! good to see you too, hope all is well on your end?!!!
@Mamagee (392)
• Malaysia
24 Mar 08
Ya, sometimes I cannot do what my mother do. My mother have 10 children including me and she have done an excellent job to rise up the 10 of us. I have 4 children and i cannot do the same thing as she do. I felt headache with 4 different characters.
As a mother, I will do the best for my children. I hope they can do the same thing as I do.
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@frecklelip334 (1668)
• United States
7 Apr 08
i bet your the best mom you can be. so you keep doing what you feel is best for you and your kids. but if there are things you learned from your mother that you agree with, it's cool to pass that on to your own kids. bless your mother, 10 kids my goodness! and you...4 kids??? keep up the good work!! thanks for responding
