abused?
By BYOLA2871
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
South Africa
March 21, 2008 10:35am CST
i was reading about a 16year old girl who was sexually and physically abused by the step father and the mother could not or did not do anything about it.
what advise do you have for such a girl who as she now find it very difficult to trust anyone.?
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3 responses
@vibbsdod (24)
• India
21 Mar 08
hey it is not that what she will become or weather she becomes strong or not .
the main thing here is about her mentality which will affect her in the later stage of the life .
The solution to this problem lies in her self ,if she is matured enough she should go and lodge a complain against him.But if they are financially dependent on him then also lodge a complaint and ask for the compensation, this is possible if her mother is supportive to these....
if not then the best thing run out of your house and join some orphanage till she is capable of doing some thing
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@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
22 Mar 08
the case is actually in court and she happens to be a member of my church the church took her in and she was assigned to spend time with me and my family so she could regain her personality.we hope we will be able to help her.
@34momma (13882)
• United States
21 Mar 08
i will tell her she is a strong young lady. I would let her know that what happened to her does not make her who she is going to be. I would let her know that she has choices and she can choose to moment by moment to move on past thing and begin to take steps to start a new life. i would let her know that every question does not have an answer, but everything happens for a reason. i would tell her that she is not alone and she doesn't have to be alone any more. i would tell her that, God as a plan for her and if she listen she will hear what it is. then I would give her a hug and tell her i love her and she is not alone
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
21 Mar 08
she is right here with me as am reading your response and i am trying to get her to sign up here in mylot,she seems to have a kind of attachment with me right now and i want her to make friends of her own age.she is reading your response and she says thank you for your response inspite of you not knowing her,i told her you guys on my lot are my good friends
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
21 Mar 08
Tell her I said, sign up. make some friends and start working and building up her self back up. no one has the right to do what they did to her. but now only she can make her life what she wants it to be. Tell her she has a friend right here from New York!!!
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
22 Mar 08
thanks i will see her later today and i guess we should be able to register her here so she can start living again
@olivemai (4738)
• United States
29 Mar 08
I would advise her to get counseling to help her deal with her feelings of resentment and anger! She will be feeling strong emotions after a terrible ordeal like this. She should understand that she is not alone, that unfortunately there are many others in similar situations! Also she should take a visit to the doctors to get tested and to record the event medically! This will help if the case has to go to court to prevent more girls from being harmed!
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
30 Mar 08
thanks so much as at the time of my response to this post i can say she is getting better we have registered her with a group where she meets with girls her age who at one time or the other have gone through the same circumstances and also the case is in court and i know it will do her a lot of good,she is set to start school when school resumes and she now has two friends,am happy for her,
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