Do You Notice the Difference…How You Address Your Mylot ‘Friends’ and Others!?

You are not discriminating at all kamran. It is natural when addressing someone we don't know, to be a little more formal, or circumspect because we don't know how that person is going to react and we want to make a good impression. This is always the first step to making new friends. Once we become more familiar with them and their attitudes towards us, it's much easier to relax a bit and let our hair down so to speak because we know that we are accepted and won't be unfairly judged. I know exactly what you mean, and have noticed the same thing myself. What is too funny is when I'm talking to someone in my offline life and I find myself wanting to say L O L at the end of a sentance! LOL

i treat every one in the same way really because i think that every one is important

This is not about discrimination. Building friendship takes time. It is like in my favorite book “The Little Prince” "One only understands the things that one tames," said the fox. "Men have no more time to understand anything. They buy things all ready made at the shops. But there is no shop anywhere where one can buy friendship, and so men have no friends any more. If you want a friend, tame me . . ." "What must I do, to tame you?" asked the little prince. "You must be very patient," replied the fox. "First you will sit down at a little distance from me--like that--in the grass. I shall look at you out of the corner of my eye, and you will say nothing. Words are the source of misunderstandings. But you will sit a little closer to me, every day . . ." We don't see each other, but we can understand each other better every day. I know many people on Mylot for over one year....and yes, I treat them better and there is nothing wrong with it... Great point my friend... HUGS

I treat everyone the same, with respect.I tend to ask my friends more personal questions but that's the only difference.If I know you are married or engaged or have a boyfriend/girlfriend, I will ask about them.That is the only difference.

I pride myself of being fair. But being a mere human, I am prawn too to discriminate especially with my friends. It is only natural for me to be much nicer, relaxed and expansive when with friends and to be reserve and curtailed when with mere acquaintances or strangers.

Hello, Kamran! I have also noticed this. Sometimes, I'll just say: "Hello, my friend"! At other times, I won't say a name after the Hello. I try to treat always in the same way, knowing that we are all humans behind computers. Everyone gets the same respect from me. However, in real life you can call your friends by other names and they won't mind. The same is different with strangers. You can't call a stranger by whatever you want, you need to respect them. I don't think it is discrimination. With every person, you can have a certain freedom. Sometimes, you talk to the people the way you want because they are your friends, they ALLOW you to talk to them how you want! With strangers, you can't just say what you want because the person did not give you her ALLOWance to call her by the name you want. Not discriminating... Just respecting. Respectfully, Munhozmib.

Fear not it's not discrimination my dear brother, it's a rapport we build up with them, for example I would never say to a newbie or someone who has answered my discussion with thank you sis, or thank you bruv or get too familiar with them, because they may think you are being too forward and may feel uncomfortable. People that know me well and I know them I can say thanks brother, or sister or sweetheart or sweetie because that becomes acceptable once you have built up the friendship with them, you get to know your friends more and how they like to be addressed.

Hi kamran, I always treat everyone here the same. Sorry to say that I couldn’t remember all the friends in my friends list. I am very happy and also welcome everyone who likes to drop by my discussion. I am glad that they are willing to give their value opinions for my discussion. And I always treat everyone here as my friend. It doesn’t matter he is or not in my friends list. Happy posting and bye.

Kamran, I guess I missed this one during one of my absences. No I do not see it at all discriminating. First you have have to build a sort of respect for a new responder, then there is a get to know each other period where you build an intimacy if you will. Take for instance when I see your name in one of my discussions I am filled with joy and clear friendship. so I feel at ease to address you differently then I would the person whose name I am seeing for the first time. However I try and show respect, the first thing I believe puts a person at ease is by addressing that person by name. It shows you are paying attention to who is talking to you. what ever friendships are formed from there, is left to fate.

No I don't feel like discriminating at all especially after what I went through with friends and so called friends. So since then I always make it clear who are my friends, who are my acquaintances and who are none of those. That way nobody can say anything different or claim they are my friends where as they are not. I do this offline and online, no exception.

I would never discriminate to start with. what i usually do is read discussions answer them. if i do feel the person is intersting or does write discussions which are intersting i do request them on my friends list. as and whn i do get requests i do accept them. i really do not get into the depth of whether the person is white or black or which country age etc. i like discussing interesting issues. thats it.

It is more about not knowing how to approach new people with you opinions without offending. it is hard to tell how people are saying what they are saying in typing as far as in real life i pretty much great all people the same with a warm smile because that one smile can change their attitude about the whole day.