"I Want To Be Alone"

girl i am there right now. honey i got a nice cocktail looking out the window watching the snow. Asking you if need a refill.

Hick - refill? Bring it on......Thanks honey...

We can all dream huh momma. I can see you and me sitting with out feet up in front of a roaring fire inside a ski lodge, drinking cocktails, listening to the snow fall...lol---sigh

I happen to agree with you very strongly luv. It's hard to teach ourselves to focus on ourself when we are so wound up and focused on everything else. It's also hard for some people to distinguish the importance of time management. That might sound like it belongs in the work place or something, but proper time management can easily find its way into your personal relationships if you understand it correctly. Thanks for your great thoughts.

I know what you mean luv2cook. Taking time to unwind helps us deal with the rest of the horror. LOL A weekend would be a nice thing, but I still wonder if I could stand a vacation all by myself?

I don't think I could have imagined it had it not been for the conferences I attended. During one of my trips, I left a day early because I had won a spa gift certifcate that I was going to redeem while I was there. It was difficult for me to "focus on me" in the beginning of the spa day, but I knew that if I just let myself completely relax, I would be a better person for it. I had chosen to redeem the gift certificate during the trip because I knew it would be harder for me to relax knowing my family was "just around the corner" waiting for me to come back. Don't get me wrong, I would also enjoy a weekend spa trip with just my husband as well so we could take some alone time to re-connect without outside distractions. One thing I have learned over time is that enough people do not take the necessary time to themselves (not that you need an entire vacation to do so) because they feel it would mean they are selfish, but if we do not take care of ourselves, physically, emotionally, and spiritually, it is impossible to give our best to those we care for. I also believe that too many couples these days do not take the time to re-connect with each other (again this does not mean you have to take a whole vacation to do so) on a regular basis, instead they both focus their attention solely on the children and household tasks, and eventually realize they do not know or even like their spouse any more. Then they end up raising the children and performing all the household tasks individually. I am very glad to see so many people here hesitate to take a vacation alone and that a good number would want at least their spouse/partner with them.

Doesn't hurt to dream does it whit? Ahhhhhh, just sitting back, relaxing, with no one to bother you, no deadlines, no phones, no - - - - oh wait - I'm getting a little drowsy..........lol

It sounds great nova. It's nice to hear you two have it worked out. Takes great people to be able to do the things you do.

It's still a nice thought to contemplate isn't it ruby.

It's not wrong to be alone harrish. Sometimes we need to be alone and away from our families.

That's right luv. I have too many things to do to worry about the being idle and besides, when that old devil tries to invade my space he's in for one heck of a thrashing.

I do not agree that it is always wrong to be alone. Being alone is often the best time for reflection. I do agree that idleness CAN be the devil's workshop, but no one said you have to be idle if you are alone, nor that you have to choose activities that are "devilish". I can find plenty of wholesome activities to do alone that keep me far from "devilish" temptations. Just a few: hiking, fishing, reading a good book/scriptures, writing in a journal, just driving and listening to the radio, enjoying a cup of cocoa (I don't drink coffee) and people watching at a cafe, baking/cooking, etc. The list can go on and on.

I think being alone sometimes is a good thing. At least for me it is. I can have lots of fun with just myself - to rest, relax and listen to the quiet. I know what you mean about family though.

I can understand that Modestah. Still sounds good to me though - my age, and all.......I would love it.

I'm surprised Chey,,,,that no one is really considering a vacation without their family or husband. While we sometimes think we NEED it, we wouldn't do it.

Dang those second thoughts anyway gemini. LOL All it takes to satisfy us is a few hours of quiet time. We're so easy....

Thanks heart. It says a lot about your relationship with your family. Making arrangements to take your family is a good idea.

LOL mnsrwt. Still, alone time - quiet - ahhhhhhh

I understand wicked. Maybe a couple of hours would be enough....quiet - alone - free....

I'm not taking one serialpt. Just a question to discuss. Just an idea?

Sound like a bit of heaven to me Rozie. I love Hawaii.

I understand nyumix. Still, some alone time is nice.

Me too Hatley - Ireland.....I'd so love to go there.

I agree jewel. Alone time is alone time. There's nothing like it sometimes. It's amazing how much quality alone time can bring and do.