What do you want people to say about you?

When i die,i want people to look at me and say"she was funny " a lot of fun", i really like her,she was sweet and kind...She was a good mother...We loved her..and along comes my friend and as she looks upon my face she will say "she was my best friend"..She will be missed ...Hopefully this is what they will say..I always try to be kind and i love to laugh and have fun.....I do not have any enemies at all that i know of....

This is a great discussion. People will say "Amber was a very giving person, willing to help others in any way that she could. She had a good relationship with friends, family, loved ones. She definitely knew how to have fun. She was very optimistic and level headed and definitely not one for alot of excitement, not one to be spontaneous. The downside of her was that she liked for things to be the same way, not a big advocate for change. She tended to be anal and analytical, sometimes too honest and if you didnt know her well, she could be taked the wrong way..."

I would hope they would say Margaret loved her family , she saw the best in everyone and she always had a smile on her face , she will be sadly missed by all who knew her xx

Hello I_LUV_U!:-) I would just wish people say about me: "He lived like a father to us!" That's how I try to live in my life. Of course I fail too, on ocassions, and in times when I am weak! And, for my partner, I would like her say: "He was my life!"

All, I want is to be remember as someone who made a difference and took the time to listen and help those in need. I don't have much ,but everything I have belongs to my family and friends. just a smile can brighten a room full of sadness.

I know how people will talk about me, because I've lived my life being the best, most decent person I could be. I've never hurt anyone, in any way... I love people, and especially my family and friends. I didn't do it because I had to, but because everyone I've known has inspired me.

When I pass away, I want people to say that I was different and that I did not go die without fighting to live first. I want people to say that I changed their way of thinking.

she was a bright joyful person who brought joy to the life of everyone she met, she took the time to help the poor and rejected, she cared, we miss her, love her and wish she was still here with us.

Thanks for a great discussion and a chance for other members to hopefully get to know a bit more about each other. At my service I would want my wife to state that I was a loving man that showed his love to all he came in contact with and shared his soul freely even after giving it to her. Some friends would be there to celebrate my life and not my passing saying I would be with my Higher Power telling him jokes and tales of my life even though He knows all. We would both be laughing. Some other friends would be telling others how I had given my life basically to help others in the quest to attain great long lasting sopbriety in their lives to allow friends and loved ones back into thier hearts and lives as once before. My friends would also be talking about how I would give up almost aything to a person in need even if it meant me losing something very valuable to me. They would state that I gave my heart and soul in my friendships with opthers. Some people would say that I always greeted them with open arms for a hug and an open mind and ears to listen to their trials and tribualtions no matter how minor they may have been. family would state I was a great man, father, grandfather, son, brother,Uncle, cousin etc. They would not be crying they would be celevrating my life not my passing. Once again thanks. This sure was hard being so open and what not. Great discussion. This actually sounds like I rambled on. Maybe I did but that;s how I feel my friends, family and loved ones see me today and will see me when I leave them for my Higher Power. I think this may be my longest response ever in over a years time here as well. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~

I wanted to be remembered as sexy and pretty..lol..Well, want to be of course remembered as a good person but I cant be good to all and cant please everyone...just enjoying my life with the people around me and whatever they say after, it will be fine!

"She always told you exactly how she felt". If there's one thing they will say, that will be it. I've always said, "If you don't want to know, don't ask", because I'm going to tell you what I think. I've always been told I saw things differently from everyone else too. When things are a bit too serious, I'm the one that looks for the lamp shade. When things are way too funny, I'm the one who is laughing my butt off. "She was a good old soul", is another one they'll say. "She always had time for everyone else", is yet another one. There will always be that one person who brought a friend that agrees with them who will say, "Yea, but she was a real B * t c h about it too". What's most important is when I hear HIM say, "Job well done, my good and faithful servant". That's the only comment I'm gonna be concerned about. Great discussion LUV.

Hello dear I_LUV_U. It is a long time since I last saw you around at Mylot. I am very happy to see, my old friend, with a new discussion for us mortal beings to think about. You have well imagined that situation when we are going to face some day. So I think that it is necessary for us all to change our life from today for the better to make a difference in the end result because all of us would like to have some nice comments after the end of life. This is a topic full of philosophy. Thanks and welcome back to mylot, my dear friend.

This is a very interesting question. I would hope they would say everything that needed to be said about me and not just the good stuff. People tend to feel sorry for you when you die. I would like people to say: "She was a fun, genuine, opinionated, passionate, loving person who made some bad calls early in life and some even later in life. But in the end she learned from them and finally learned to love truly with her big heart instead of just a piece of it and made her life whole and right. A dreamer who never ever gave up on her dreams or herself no matter how bad things got." Noone needs to say anything about my mothering skills, if all goes well my kids will be a testament of the mother that I was and they as well as I, know my skills in that area. I don't want anyone to be sad. I want them to recall some of my crazy pranks and even some crazy mistakes and laugh at them because I had the nuts to pull them off. I want a fun party not a sad affair!

With all the good or bad comments which may be piled on I would like it to be said that I always held my own inspite of what others think or say. Whatever is said I would like it to inspire others.

The only thing that I want people to say about me after I'm gone is that I did everything in life my way, and that I had full control of what happened to me, and how life affected me.

I f I changed now no one would regonize me lol to late I am still there with a helping hand and smiling all the time. dont think I need to change in this day in my life . They will say wheat they will say when I am gone they have already said it now but not to my face lolololol hugs

Very interesting Post! Wonderful! You are right, we would like to assume that how people evaluated us, when we are no more. I believe, when I am no more, there would be some very close relatives who will cry endlessly...thinking that a Good soul is not alive now, I am sure they would like to recall my good deeds and my caring attitude towards them. They would like to discuss my role in the society in general and how did I contribute towards well being of my family and Society. There would be few, who would be nuetral and would talk philposphically, saying that everyone has to go one day...it was God's will. There might be few - who would say although He was good man, yet he had some negative points.

I am sure that it would depend on who the person answering the question was. If it was a co worker, then I would want to know that they thought that I was a hard worker and that I went out of my way to get jobs done. If it was my kids, I would want them to say that they always knew that I loved them and that they always knew how special they were to me. If it was my husband, I would want him to say that he never regretted the day that he married me and that I was always showing him how special he was in my life. If it were my friends, I would want them to say that they always knew that they were special to me and that I was always honest with them and a great friend.

I might not probably like what other people will say about me... most especially those who do not really know me that well. But for the people who truly know me, the following would be great to hear:From my parents: She was a good daughter... From my sister: She was so loving and kind to me even if I am just her adopted sister... From my boyfriend: No one else comes close to you... From my cousins: The best cousin ever! From my other relatives: She was very thoughtful. She never missed sending us anything during Christmas! From my students: A great teacher! From my friends: The coolest friend! From my enemies or those who hate me: I am sorry.. I wish I knew you better.

I hope the people I helped in this life are there to comfort my family. I hope they remember the things I did to help them and I hope they retell some of the stories I told.