are you single now or not?

@Canteen (592)
China
March 23, 2008 7:55am CST
just wanna know if anybody is a single like me. if you're a single, do you wanna have a gf/bf. i don't want to. now i just wanna enjoy my solo life. i am tired because of the relationship with my ex-bf.
24 responses
• United States
23 Mar 08
I'm single and perfectly OK with staying that way unless the right person comes along.
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@heart143 (1202)
• Philippines
23 Mar 08
I'm already married but I've been to a lot of relationships before I settled down. Some lasted for a few years, others just for months. There came also a point in my life when I got so tired of relationships that I stopped looking for one. I even convinced myself that I was destined to be single forever. I still went out with friends and other guys but I never accepted anybody for some time. My motto then was "It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" . But...after a few years, a nice man just came along. I never really looked for him but he just came and found me. I got married at the age of thirty five and I now have a kid. It was really amazing because all the qualities I'm looking for in a man was in him...no compromises... and believe me he is worth the long wait. I would say take your time in finding the man of our dreams. There's always someone special destined for you. In the meantime, enjoy your single life and who knows...the right one may be just be around there...somewhere. Don't look for him...he'll sure find you.
@Canteen (592)
• China
24 Mar 08
wow, i find i am a little envious. lol. i have to say it's so wonderful to find the right person to spend life with. congratulations. hehe, i am a little afraid of marriage, cuz to spend a lifetime with one guy, it's such a long time and who knows what could happen. anyway i will take your advice, i will wait for my Mr.Right. :)
@heart143 (1202)
• Philippines
24 Mar 08
Yup, take that advice from your "ate" here in mylot. Thanks again for the best response.
• United States
23 Mar 08
I went thru many boyfriends looking for Mr.Right most of the relationships only lasting 3 months. I could tell pretty quick that they weren't the right guy for me. Then I met Him and we got married after 2 years of being together. We've been married going on 15 years in June. Things have changed, I have changed over the years now I wish I were single again. I don't believe in marriage anymore. I think everyone should stay single and enjoy the courtship cuz once he's got you every thing changes.
@Canteen (592)
• China
24 Mar 08
yeah, that's true. people always long for what they can't get and never cherish what they have. sometimes i wonder why we should get married, can't we just be single and celibate? i can't solove that problem. but i know i will get married in the future, just to be normal and follow the invisible society rule.
• China
23 Mar 08
Sorry to hear that. I have a boy friend, we are far away from each other. Actually, I prefer to stay alone. I need my own space,which cannot be bothered by others. Sometimes having a boyfriend cost a lot of time and money. That's not easy for a student like me. I would like to look for a boyfriend after taking a job...I don't want to spend my parents' money on a boy...
@Canteen (592)
• China
23 Mar 08
totally agree with you. i spent too much money on my ex-bf. i won't have a bf till i get job.
• China
25 Mar 08
i hv kept single for a few years, and i pretty enjoying it now, i was get sick of the relatioships with my bf
• China
1 Apr 08
Nowdays,with the development of social civilization,more and more people begin to choose the style of life that out of tradition,they choose to live alone and enjoy the absolute freedom, however, a large number of people still choose to get married.people usually said: "marriage is the cave of love",but why so many people choose to get married? And what does the marriage mean?
• China
1 Apr 08
Marriage means mature.It will teach people many things, for exampe responsibility, tolerance, fealty,share, communication and so on.
@jackgym (274)
• Australia
25 Mar 08
Of course I'm not single, do you think I got this way on my own :-)
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
25 Mar 08
I am single. I have a BF who is far away from me too. At least that is what i feel in my heart. I know i have not met him but he is just somewhere and could probably thinking of me too right at this moment. I wish i will meet him soon :P Actually, I have had 2 BFs in the past but i wanted to be free and i guess i never have loved them enough to continue the relationship with them. I am happy as i am right now.
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
24 Mar 08
I spent a lil over a year single after my last divorce, and I have to say it was refreshing, to find 'me' again after that marriage. I am in a relationship now, but we give each other alone time if we need it. I don't mind him going out with the guys every great once in a while, and he doesn't mind me taking a weekend or week long roadtrip. We both work, and have our own money to spend so that is not an issue. We have both been married 3 times and not looking to run down that aisle anytime soon lol. But, we do have a wonderful relationship, and we both contribute in every aspect of it.
@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
24 Mar 08
I am married with 2 kids and happy
@moondan (712)
• China
25 Mar 08
I am a single as you.I also like single.I don't want to have boyfriend.I like the free feeling. I can do what i want to do and don't care my boyfriend's feeling. Strictly speaking,i have never had boyfriend when i born.Some of my friends say that i hardly to find boyfriend because that i always say i don't love this boy and don't love that boy.My standard for boyfriend is not very high,i don't love them because i don't want to have boyfriend.I have ever love one boy so much.i can do nearly everything for him.but i didn't accept his request that to be his girl friend.We all love each other,at that time,he didn't let me to chat with other boy and can smile or make jock with other boy.I find i only could speak to him and the feeling is so bad.The time is full of love and tear. I think i prefer liberty more.so now i only want to enjoy my life and make some good friends.
@RangaF (81)
• Sri Lanka
24 Mar 08
It seems you had a real bad time with your ex-bf...... I dont know whether you belive me or not as I'm alos a boy....... I also had a difficult period with my ex-gf coz she had another affair..... after that i also thought the same way until i find my new gf and she was very caring and loving.... Pls give some time to you and see you will find the right one soon........ since you are still 20yrs you have enough time to fond the right person....... Good luck.........!!!!!!!!
• United States
25 Mar 08
I am single right now. I am in the middle of trying to start a business, so I don't know if the time is right to start dating again. I know me, and once I get to going on one thing, especially work it is hard for me to think of anything else...
@k8lyn07 (72)
• Philippines
25 Mar 08
Well, I know I'm single physically from the outside or legally. But I really don't know the inside of me. It's kinda confusing really. Its hard to make a statement and to pretend.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
24 Mar 08
I am single. i was never been in relationship till now. I just don't want to be so. i want to enjoy the singlehood. its good with freedom.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
24 Mar 08
I am afraid, I am not. I wish I could be a single.
• China
24 Mar 08
I am single but I want to have a GL this year.Good luck to me;
@rovian (1924)
• United States
23 Mar 08
I am single and this is how I want it to stay. I enjoy it way too much to have someone there to bother me.
@s2a2n2 (1732)
• India
24 Mar 08
quite an interesting question, to say about me I am not single
@lyfhly (43)
• China
24 Mar 08
i feel lucky because i am single now. i think being single is better than having a bf. it doesn't mean i hate having a boyfriend. i just want to find a best one to be my bf and also consider about our future. so if i find one, i hope i will be with him forever. but now i think it is not the right time to have a boyfriend because i am in the college and i must study for my future life. i have no time and energy to play. i will be always single until i get a good job.