I Am Happy…Don’t Know How to Celebrate!

@kamran12 (5526)
Pakistan
March 23, 2008 2:50pm CST
I woke up to another beautiful day today, got a call from my father who informed me with the delightful news that I am blessed with another niece. I am over the moon! After talking to my family and sister, I didn’t know what to do to celebrate her arrival and how to express. And so, I finally decided to take a walk outside. It’s cloudy since morning, it usually is, though it’s usually windy here but today it was calm. I breathed the air and walked with the breeze and saw the trees slowly dancing with it. Traffic is low today as it’s holiday and I live in outskirts. But, I did get a chance to see playful children and imagined my lovely niece. So, that was my simple celebration! Do you get too overjoyed sometimes to know, and decide, how to celebrate? If you do, what then, finally, you usually do to celebrate? Can you celebrate with simple things or there has to be a special arrangement?
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UBiquitous
@UBiquitous (195)
• Pakistan
23 Mar 08
hello kamran :) well congratulations first of all :) i can see that excitement there on your side :), i am just imagining how happy her parents would be right now ? i mean they will be feeling like they are on cloud nine indeed. Yes i can guess how happy you will be as i already know how much your are attached to your child too. And now i can see that you must be right now feeling more to go back to your family and celebrate with them right kamran? Obviously when your are out there you feel everytime to go back n after havin such a delightful news it will be urging you more to go back and share the happiness with yur family.:) As far as my happiness is concerned when i am happy or better say excited,a lot of butterflies start wandering in my abdomen and i just cant help it :P i know its funny but very true.And the person to whom i like to tell first of al is my father and sometimes mother depends on the news:) After telling to my parents my first wish is to go home and meet them and to see their expressions and collect their comments :) If i am happy everything seem to be calm good out there :) this is a human fact of your inner wether is cool then everything seems to be good when you went out and the same happened to you too:) When i am happy i just cant wait to tell everyone,my face shows my inner expressions,i cant hide them. n then even if a stranger passes me,i just think and smile by saying he didnt know how happy i am,and there is a happy kind a feeling when you walk out.Every other person to whom you dont even know but while talking you just try to show him/her that your are happy. So that was a happy thought of the day :) Say my congrats to the parents of your knees,and i am just dyeing to see my mamis baby :P soon we are going to have it and everyweek when i go to meet my mami i just ask her how many days left? :p i just cant wait to see,its been years we aint have got any new born in the family :)so everyone will be happy to see the baby :) Take care!
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kamran12
@kamran12 (5526)
• Pakistan
23 Mar 08
Hello UBiquitous!:-) Thank you very much for congratulations. Yes, I, her parents and both families are very happy today. You are so right, I can't wait to go back and see them for myself and take them in my arms. I haven't yet met my other two nieces either, so I just wish that this period ends soon. You are also right about your observation with regards to inner happiness and coolness expressing itself in body language and that's natural. I can't hide it either. My parents have done much for me, since I was a child, and whenever I had some achievement, I wanted to see smile on their faces. That's priceless and even more enjoyable than the achievement itself. So, I can understand your inclination to share happy news with your parents first. And, I'll definitely convey your prayers and wishes to my family, Thanks! I would wish and pray that you get your cousin soon and that he/she may have a happy, healthy and prosperous life full of wisdom and bliss! Thanks for sharing!:-)
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UBiquitous
@UBiquitous (195)
• Pakistan
23 Mar 08
yes obviously your parents are the one who make you the capable to doing or achieving anything :) so the first preference is to the parents. If there is noone to share your happiness you know you cant be happy ? even if you get the most precious thing for which you desired for. You definately need someone to tell otherwise you wont feel happy and thats my own experience. Yes indeed i am just waiting for my cousin :P lol i am not good wid kids case but still new borns are much more easier to handle and adore while a kid of 2 3 year is just out of control :P and u cant help taking care of him.
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UBiquitous
@UBiquitous (195)
• Pakistan
23 Mar 08
*make you capable of*(sorry for the mistakes) lol! i have reached my posts to 64 :D ..my lucky roll number.
sudiptacallingu
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
24 Mar 08
Hi Kamran, Heartiest congratulations. Niece as from which side…you know we people in India, Pakistan have different names for different relations, its not a simple niece and nephew for us. From your mail, I think you have again become a mamu, right? No, grand celebrations can be had later when both mother and child return home and meet with all relatives. But for now, I think you actually wanted to hug somebody in joy. Is she your own sister…then the joy is many times more. For me, I like both simple and elaborate celebrations. Maybe in your situation, when there is family nearby, I would have taken a walk like you just to enjoy life and thank God for His mercies but then later I would have had a great get-together. I love parties with family and friends…very close ones, not the entire neighbourhood or office you know.
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kamran12
@kamran12 (5526)
• Pakistan
24 Mar 08
Hello sudiptacallingu!:-) You guessed it right that she is my sister's daughter (i.e. Bhanjee in Urdu as opposed to bhateeji english is not very rich in relations' nominations!) and yes she is my own sister, the second one; it's the first one who is abroad. I am not fortunate enough to have my family here, and I haven't seen any of my three nieces and haven't taken them in my arms yet. I wish I was there to greet them personally and celebrate with my family. Still, I have some friends here, and of course in this community to share as well as our beautiful nature. I do love get-togethers with family, close friends and colleagues (who happen to be my close friends anyway!:-)) Thank you for sharing it with me!:-)
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sudiptacallingu
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
25 Mar 08
Hi Kamran, Of course I know its bhanjee, bhateeji is your brother’s daughter. Urdu is my favourite language and I try to follow it wherever I come across it, though even in Hindi its also bhanja/bhanjee and bhateeja/bhateeji. But I must tell you that I liked the fact very much that you and your entire family is so happy with the birth of another girl child. As it is you know how, inspite of so much awareness, our societies still remain male-oriented, so I am very happy that your family is one of the emerging exceptions.
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kamran12
@kamran12 (5526)
• Pakistan
25 Mar 08
Hello sudiptacallingu, You have brought a painful aspect of our sister societies. Though it has been the case with every society (except for some African Tribes) that male birth was almost always celebrated more than female birth not only because males were the primary bread winners but also responsible for survival and defense of a society/country etc, but it’s true that our societies are lagging behind in accepting the equal importance of female births while some others have moved forward after world war 2. For me, becoming a ‘parent’ is such a blessing, in itself, that I would have sacrificed any material thing in my possession to become one. A new life is a beautiful gift which should be celebrated without regards to gender of the child. What bothers me is that people in our societies still don’t understand full potential importance of both genders and that survival of society is as much dependent on females as is on males. But the silver lining is that, in my own life span, I have seen a tremendous shift in societal attitude in this respect and I hope it will continue to flourish.
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Brian
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
25 Mar 08
Congratulations my dear friend, I am really pleased for you, when my cousin gave birth to a baby boy, I couldn't wait to see him and I got so broody! I guess men can get broody too! I have seen him twice since he was born and he is certainly growing fast, he's adorable and I have his little pic on my mobile phone and yes I spoil him by going out and buying him stuff. I can never have children myself so he's the next best thing for me. I usually celebrate by telling all my friends the great news and then taking myself out for a treat or buying myself a present, new pair of jeans, trainers or something that will make me even happier.
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kamran12
@kamran12 (5526)
• Pakistan
25 Mar 08
Hello wolfie34!:-) Thank you very much my friend! You bring an interesting point, I don’t know how exactly it is in England, but usually I have seen that Men are supposed to be a little reserved with their children or other children. The argument in my society is that it is for disciplining children when it’s required because mothers are just too ‘loving’ to discipline. It does bother me sometimes. I believe your cousin’s boy is fortunate to have such a loving uncle. And, I think children reciprocate what they receive so I believe that he loves you too. I can’t describe the pleasure when my first nephew (then 4-5 years old) said that I am his ‘only’ friend! You have a good and interesting way of celebration, that way you become a part of the reason to celebrate! Thanks for sharing!:-)
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polachicago
@polachicago (18716)
• United States
23 Mar 08
You ask very good question my friend. I tried to answer your question and the answer is...... I don't know how I celebrate.... It is not about being happy or not, I no longer know how to celebrate. I like to be with family and friends when celebrate or going on vacation. My simple celebration is my time off, when I let myself just be....calm and happy.... Congratulations, HUGS
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kamran12
@kamran12 (5526)
• Pakistan
23 Mar 08
Hello polachicago!:-) Yes, it's sometimes difficult to figure out how to celebrate especially when it's overwhelming. Being oneself can be very enriching experience and I do like that often times. Thanks for sharing and congratulating me!:-)
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Angelwhispers
@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
25 Mar 08
My Dear Friend, Congratulations on the new life of your niece. I see no greater tribute to her new life then you out appreciating life itself. I probably now would send a card with a handwritten letter telling your niece how you felt on the day of her birth and how you celebrated her life in quiet contemplation. This will be very precious to her in years to come.
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Angelwhispers
@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
25 Mar 08
Being Easter weekend my life with the family has been a whirlwind. I took yesterday off and did nothing but lay in my bed, read and watch TV. Some Times Nana's have to recoup energy ya know:))) I do have to at least check in and see what I may be missing even if I do not have the time to say anything. As always its so nice to be missed Kamran :))
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kamran12
@kamran12 (5526)
• Pakistan
25 Mar 08
You were missed, my friend, and it's very healthy to have some time for oneself! It just struck me with your use of word 'Nana', that in our language, 'Nana' is used for maternal grandfather and for maternal grandmother, we use 'Nani'. How similar languages or nominations can be sometimes! There are different words, however, for paternal grandparents there, like paternal grandfather is called 'Dada' and grandmother, 'Dadi', both with soft 'D' in sound.
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kamran12
@kamran12 (5526)
• Pakistan
25 Mar 08
Hello Angelwhispers!:-) It's good to see you back, my friend! Though I noticed your visits here but without any participation. Thank you for your kind words. And, though there could be nothing equal to take her in my arms and feel her directly, I can still celebrate with all other life around me. Thank you for your kind gesture, I really appreciate, and thanks for sharing it with me!:-)
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APasserBy
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
25 Mar 08
yes I get overly excited many times and if only we are not in tight budget I will go on spending spree which is bad. but this year it won't happen because we are focusing on paying the loan. congratulations by the way
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kamran12
@kamran12 (5526)
• Pakistan
25 Mar 08
Hello LittleMel!:-) I agree that one is more willing to spend when he/she is happy. It is wise of you to payback loans first before considering any extravagant spending. Thank you for your wishes and sharing!:-)
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kezabelle
@kezabelle (2974)
•
23 Mar 08
If i want to celebrate simply its normally with my children and often with them we have a lot to celebrate if say the eldest does something good at school, so we might play in the garden or just have fun and be together just to keep up that happy feeling
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kamran12
@kamran12 (5526)
• Pakistan
23 Mar 08
Hello kezabelle!:-) Playing with children is one of the most happy experiences for me too. I hope you continue to enjoy and have fun with them. Thanks for sharing!:-)
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