A person with SUBSTANCE..

wouldnt it be great to have both, but reality is most of 'em are not that bright and it is just a bit disappointing. i thought that the girl in MS. south or north Carolina is the best example of it but then i have watched this girl running for Ms. Philippines and i just cant believe it (i accidentally watch it in a news site online). i have always thought that filipinos can speak great english compared to other asian people i have known but that prove me wrong. i am not sure if i belong to the not bright one and i can honestly say that i dont belong to the beauty part as well. i think the only way we can judge that is based on what kind of friends we have (imho). another way of knowing if you suck or not is,,,if you asked it and you get honest answer. if you see the person a bit hesitant then that is a free give away of your answer, haha! anyhow, i think you can achieve both all you have to do is learn how. takecare

Wow!How I envy you...My son and I had our one week vacation at Bataan and we got back home Saturday evening. Unfortunately, we had to postpone our plans to go swimming because my son didn't feel well. But my sister and I have plans to go to the beach this May. Anyway, I surely would like to think that I'm a person with substance. Because I truly feel uncomfortable talking to a person who lacks that certain quality. Sometimes it's hard to keep a conversation going especially when I'm certain that the person I'm talking with can't contribute to the flow of what is being talked about. I don't talk much...well, except when I'm with my sisters. You know, when girls get together, we can talk for ages! But when I am engaged in a serious conversation, I try to do my part. Listen well, analyze what was been said and as much as possible, I try to weigh my words before I let them out of my lips. Words said can't be taken back so it's helpful that a person should not be tactless. And just like what you've said, you base your answers to what's being talked about. Because that's very important. We don't want the person we're talking to, look at us and say, "Huh???". That happened to me a lot of times from some people I had conversations with. I ask something, and the answers are completely way-off topic. And I end up, looking at them, with big question marks in my eyes and a large sign that says, "Huh? What are you talking about?!!!"

Okay, I'm reading what you said about this, but wonder about the context. Are you single and looking at this from the point of view of talking to single women? .,..whit

I cannot say to anyone if I am a person of substance. The way I see it, the people around me, the way they see me and their experience of me will tell. I cannot even just judge them if that is the way they look at me. Their experience of me and how I relate to them makes them either perceive me or adore me as a person with substance.

Hi friend.. Glad to hear you had a good Easter and are less groggy three days later. David and I enjoyed our weekend and just got back from celebrating his birthday with friends in Winnipeg. Spending some time 'responding to old responses' and dropping by to visit good Cyber pals like you. This is a great observation and like you there are often times when I hear comments from seeming brainy people who have fallen in love with their own ideas that they appear to have lost their perspective. I would definitely agree with your self-evaluation about being a person of substance. By the guidelines you are measuring 'substance' I would say yes, I am. In my work being an attentive listener is key...and I also base my comments and answers on what has been said...and sometimes not said. In today's fast past world and short attention span of many out there I think it is more important than ever to remember that listening and reading 'with substance' is something that fosters genuine communication in person or on-line. Really good topic again Raijin. Raia

Haha! Cool discussion. Hmmm... I am wondering if you are one of the intellectual snobs in this world? Hehe! Just kidding. Anyways, sometimes, when i feel like the people whom I communicate with could not grasp what I mean, I just provide some space to them... and provide a little bit of possible explanation to myself... and just laugh at myself. :) I can not say that I am a person with substance... perhaps, I am just a person, who like anyone here, can share a little bit of what my reality is which sometimes could be really shallow, sometimes deep, and sometimes just like any plateau. :)

I've been scratching my head alot lately, reading some of the responses to discussions here...lol I have now decided when I see something that makes no sense I tell myself "when they were passing out heads this person thought it was BEDS and asked for a big empty one...lol It keeps me smiling and semi sane. I'm glad you had so much fun on our beach adventure. It's still to cold here in the eastern usa for the beach. I am too far north for it to be warm enough yet. My Easter was uneventful..we just went out for a late dinner. My back has been really bad for the last few weeks. I just had another back shot 2 days ago and knock on wood, it seems to be helping. The doctor said relief could come in as long as 5 days after the shot so its good that it is helping already. Ive had shots three times now and the first two times didn't work. Blessed Be, Mari

I think there are different types of persons all ovr. i have seen that there are some who are not at all good listeners, will answer in such a way that you will think they have no substance. I myself at least try to listen with very kind attention what other person has to say. you can say if it can be said substance.

the saying what is essential is invisible the eye is true. i have seen alot of people that lacks intelligence but has the overflowing charisma and i too was deceive. its just that maybe we often look on the outer appearance of the person and fail to look deep within that beauty. looks can be deceiving and oftentimes we judge people not on the content of their character but on how their alabaster skin glows under the sun.

People have unique characteristics and an area they can be good at. I don't expect all to be what I expect them to be. They might not be good in one area but they sure are good in another. We cannot really judge a person and give our "head-scratching" saying they have no substance. You mentioned that you base your comments and answers according to your observations and what you've heard. Well, your observations may not be proven to be right, and what you've heart might be hearsays. Therefore, it might be a good idea to base our comments and answers to what is right based from our standard. My standard is God's Word - the Bible!

I am sorry but Ithink that the very assumption that beauty and brains go together really irritates me what has the outsideof a person got to do with their mental abilityI have met a lot of "beautiful people" who do not have the brains of a billy goat and some people whom you might call attractive but not beautiful and they are the smartest people you would ever meet so from a senior citizens point of view beauty has little to do with brains andif you do meet a beautiful person who also had brains then that is frosting on the cake but just searching for beauty and expecting brains too is really superficial.