Some Lovely Family Time At Last!
By mummymo
@mummymo (23706)
March 24, 2008 2:06pm CST
Well as some of my friends here know my other half has been working 12 hours a day, 7 days a week for the last few months and he has an hours travel on top of that! When he gets home he has been not only exhausted but has chores to do in the house that I just cannot manage due to my mobility problems! Bless, it has been a hard time all around and the only 2 days he didn't work were the two days he needed to take holidays for to take me to medical appointments! Finally today we all got to spend some time together and it was wonderful! The kids were off school and he didn't leave for work til 2:30pm! We spent time together , caught up with each other and the kids and then went to the computer shop and he got me a new laptop (but that is another discussion) and we all went out for luch! We only went to Pizza Hut but I can't remember the last time all 4 of us sat around a table and had a meal together, it was lovely! He may still have to do some overtime but hopefully not quite so much for a while! Have you ever gone a long time without being able to get together as a family? Do you enjoy family time? What is your favourite way to spend time together? Would love to hear any of your answers to any/ all of these questions or just to hear you say Hi! lol xxx
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@weemam (13372)
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24 Mar 08
He is a great guy and you don't need me to tell you that , I think the world of him and so do Ross and Jim, I am so pleased you all got time together , You know how much family means to me and my adopted family too :) . we don't get along to see you often enough , we both enjoyed being with you and the kids on Friday , it was a family outing xxxxx
@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
24 Mar 08
Hi weemam! I'm so glad you were all able to spend some time together. Hugs to you, too.
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@mummymo (23706)
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24 Mar 08
Only you could turn doing me a massive favour into a family outing sweetheart! You know that we all love you guys too , don't you? Love you loads and always will! Hugs for you all ...but no nookie! lol
someonesmom sweetheart it is wonderful to be able to spend time with my 'wee family'
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
24 Mar 08
Sweetie I am so glad that you all got this time together today I know he has been working hard and it is about time he has a rest
You know about me so I will say no further lol
And he was working again today as well as he rang me
Did you get the Photo by the way that I sent to you
@mummymo (23706)
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25 Mar 08
LOL I am beginning to feel unloved today as you keep forgetting my kisses! It was a really good day today sweety - even though David did go to work at half two it was wonderful to have that much time with him! I know you worry but 'he' is a big boy and worrying will only make you ill so stop! Hugs xxx
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
24 Mar 08
I love nothing more than taking mum out for a drive, we both love the countryside and sometimes we go and see her sister down in Kent and instead of taking the motorway I take the most scenic route around the country and down the lanes through woods and fields and little villages which you'd miss if you went by motorway. I enjoy our time when we can talk away from dad, who doesn't understand my depression. I love going out for a meal with mum she is a great laugh and when the warmer weather comes I have promised her I will drive her to the seaside or take a train down to the coast. Family time is quality time and sometimes in this mad rush rush world it is so easy to take our nearest and dearest for granted. Love you sis xxxx
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@mummymo (23706)
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24 Mar 08
Maybe one of these days I will surprise you and insist on coming along for one of those drives or a trip to the seaside - sounds idyllic! I have had yet another reminder just how precious family time is and I plan to make more time for my family now! xxxx
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@gemini_rose (16264)
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24 Mar 08
Hiya mummymo, have you had a good easter? I do not do too bad for time with my hubby, the job he has now is really good, he works 8am - 5pm mon - Thurs and then 8am - 1pm on a friday, the only time he works more hours is if there is overtime and then he will start work at 7 am instead of 8am and he will also work for a few hours on a saturday sometimes. He also gets set holidays of about 5 weeks a year and these holidays are set to fall at the same times as the kids holidays. So we do get a lot of time together as a family, sounds perfect ah? Well it would be except hubby hates it there! I am glad that you managed to get some time with your other half and it sounds like you really enjoyed yourself and I cant wait to hear about the laptop!
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@mummymo (23706)
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24 Mar 08
We had a nice but quiet Easter sweety - today though was the best day of the year so far! My partner usually works 7am til 3pm one week and 3pm til 11pm the next with some overtime when needed but this has been sustained 12 hours , 7 days for more than 2 months! It has been a real wake up call as we couldn't afford to turn it down but I didn't realise just how much we all took each other for granted! It is a shame that your other half hates his job but it is good that he has hours that fit in well with family life and that isn't that common these days! I am getting to grips with the laptop but there are so many features i have still to explore! lol I will keep you updated as I go along! Hugs xx
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@Swaana (1205)
• India
24 Mar 08
Yes,
It had been like that for a long time. And after DH changed to a new job, which has no outstation travel, we all have our dinner together at an appropriate time. We all sit around, chat about that day. I tell what the kids did. Daughter tells her school stories, son relates the story that I have read him. Yes, it is a real nice thing to get bonded and I am really happy.
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@queenofarms (1659)
• United States
24 Mar 08
I'm happy to hear you finally got family time. I have times like that also. My husband has to travel out of town sometimes. Sometimes its for months at a time. So when we do get all together, we go to the movies,golfing,bowling,out to eat,or do whatever is taking place in our town at that time(truck pulls,carnivals...etc.) Family time is very important.
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@mummymo (23706)
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24 Mar 08
Sweety it is 5 years since my partner had to work away for 4 months and it is amazing how quickly you start taking family time for granted! I certainly hope that this reminder makes me realise for a long time to come how precious it is to have time together as a family! xxx
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@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
12 Apr 08
Hi,
I am so happy you had the chance to spend time together again. I myself have not had to do that with my hubby, but I can relate to not having family time.
My daughter isn't here, she is working, spending time with her boyfriend, etc. Family time has become absolete now. lol
I did tell her she had to find time to spend at home so we can have family time again. I just told her that yesterday.
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@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
12 Apr 08
Yes it is worth it to see them with the person they love and think I miss spending time with her, but how can I pull her away from him.
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
28 Mar 08
SO Happy for you its very hard when our men work all kinds of hours.
WE only got time together was mostly on Sundays if he did work very rare in all the years we were together.
I would like it just to gather around the kitchen table and just talk for hours lol .
DIdnt take much to make us happy.
Then he retired and we had lots of time together for 8 years where ya saw me ya saw him we were always together and would get the kids in there to after they got off work!
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@Darkwing (21583)
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25 Mar 08
Awww, I'm so glad you got to have some quality time together as a family, my dear friend. It really doesn't matter where you go, does it? I think it's just that feeling of "togetherness" that does it.
I manage to get together with my family quite a lot, but my younger Son was missing last time we got together, on Good Friday. He had been suffering with a nasty migraine for a couple of days. But, never mind, I've spoken to him on the phone a couple of times, and he's fine now.
Brightest Blessings, my dear friend. xxxx
@mummymo (23706)
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25 Mar 08
Oh Darkwing honey it was so nice, the four of us together and catching up and not an arument or squabble all day! i am sorry to hear about your younger son not being able to be there but so relieved he is feeling better now - I know how awful migraines can be and my son suffers quite badly with them too! xxx
@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
24 Mar 08
Hi mummymo,
I'm so happy for you! It's wonderful that you were all able to spend some quality family time together. These types of situations can be so hard. It's interesting to hear that you have Pizza Hut over there, as we have it here too. I've always enjoyed their food.
My daughter and I have become like ships passing in the night, of late, as she's so busy with her extra curricular school activities, as well as work. She's a really big help to me too, when she's home. We've actually had some time together this Easter weekend, and have been able to sit down and share dinner. Tomorrow it's back to school, and her routine.
We're also very close to my sister, and her family, who we only get to see several times during the year. It's never enough.
My stepson, daughter in law, and grandson, are other family members, that we have limited time with. It's espcially hard for my daughter in law, and myself, as we're very close. We're long overdue for a visit again.
Lastly, there's my brother and sister in law, and although we live close together, we seldom see one another. My brother's in the hospital now, with a broken hip, and will be, for at least another six weeks. I was finally able to go and visit him today, which was good.
I love getting together with family, whether we get to go out somewhere, or just visit one another. Family is so important, and you can never spend too much time with them.
Take care. Big hugs to you!
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@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
25 Mar 08
You always know how to cheer me up, mummymo! I consider you a part of my family too. Thanks for your concern for my brother. He is on painkillers, and he looked so small and frail to me, in that bed. He's waiting for a bed in a rehab. centre, and then he'll be transferred for six weeks, so they can get him on his feet again. I'll be in touch soon. Hugs to you.
Thanks, heavenschild. I really appreciate your prayers for my brother, and hope to see you soon.
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@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
25 Mar 08
I'm in full agreement with you here mom!
So glad that you were able to see your brother today (Especially since it is still Easter) and my prayers are with him!
I do hope that you get to spend some time with you daughter-in-law soon!
Love and Hugs
~Heavens~
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@mummymo (23706)
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24 Mar 08
Sweety it is so good to see you! I know how much your family love you and I know why! I am so sorry that you don't get to see as much of them as you would like Your poor brother, I hope he has plenty of painkillers? You know I love to spend time with those i consider family here in mylot and you are right in the middle of that family - I do miss you when you aren't able to get online! Hugs xxxx
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@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
25 Mar 08
So glad that you had family time today and especially with your husband I totally understand where you are coming from!
My husband leaves five mornings a week at 2:30AM and one morning at 1:30AM for work leaving him with day (Mondays) off.....I work at least four days and often five starting between 1:30 and 3PM Until between 7 and 10PM...When he is working I am home and when he is home I am woring...I do not always Mondays either as my days off vary and are different each week leaving us with little time for anything
When we have family time we like to go to Chuckie Cheese with our son or to the beach/park in warm weather ~ Just the two of us ~We like to go mini golfing, bowling, or out to lunch/dinner
As for the rest of my family well my parents live an hour and a half away but it may as well be a million miles.....My husband's birth mother and step mom live here in the same city as we do but we don't spend a lot of time with either one of them either! Work schedules, therapy/school schedules and doctors appointments keep us running all the time and not much time for anything else!
However, on the bright side, we have seen my parents three times in the last month now after not seeing them since Christmas and It has been great to spend these short times with them after not seeing them at all! I hope to spend some time with both of my Mother-in-laws soon as it has been too long for both of them!
Love and Hugs
~Heavens~
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@mummymo (23706)
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25 Mar 08
Heavens I know how hard it must be for you guys, soecially with the added pressure of therapy etc for your gorgeous son! Spending any time together must be really precious for you and your hubby - I am lucky as he doesn't work this hectic schedule all the time although it used to be hard to spend time together when I was working as I work the opposite hours normally! I am glad that you have been getting to spend times with your parents lately and hope you get to see your mother in laws soon! Hugs my beloved friend, speak soon! xxx
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@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
25 Mar 08
Yes, opposite shifts makes my hubby and I pass like ships in the night and means my hubby is also often making our boy his dinner and putting him to bed without me It is very hard for all of us!
Thanks so much for all of your love and support as always!
HUGS
~Heavens~
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@mummymo (23706)
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29 Apr 08
That sounds great - we used to have great fun going on magical mystery tours and letting the kids choose which direction we went and ending up wherever we ended up! I never made it to your area but I believe the scenery and views are stunning! Who knows maybe one day when I am more able to sit in the car for a while I will end up knocking all the doors in your area asking where xboxboy lives! xxx
@Eskimo (2315)
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25 Mar 08
Hi Mo, it's great to be able to get some 'Quality time' (I hate that expression but its probably apt in this case), with your family, I had years of working weekends and overnights which can spoil family time, even worked several Christmas days in a row. Now I only work 9-5 most days (and seldom at weekends), so now get a lot more time with the family.
I don't mind what we do together, stay in and have a meal, go out and dine. Actually we often go to Morrisons because they have a nice reasonably priced restaurant (I love having their all day Scottish Breakfast), I also do some surveys which pay me in Luncheon Vouchers which Morrisons accept, which can mean a very inexpensive day out.
In fact one day we dined at Morrison's for free(using vouchers), then went to Argos, paid with Nectar points (and got cashback), went to the cinema (again with vouchers for doing different surveys), and bought ice-cream with the cashback, so had a totally free day out. How's that for a canny Scot?
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@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
25 Mar 08
Oh it sounds wonderful that you were all able to be together if only for a few hours. I myself have spent all weekend cooking and playing Easter bunny, and Church on Sunday morning. Yesterday I found myself just plum wore out and spent the day in bed watching TV and reading. I am pretty lucky in that I have my children close to me and that Dad works second shift with spurts of overtime. He never has to go months with out weekends anymore but there was a time he did. I am happy you had that chance my Sweet friend.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
27 Mar 08
That certainly sounds delightful and well earned too I must say. I'm really happy for you all that you got some great family time together. Makes you really appreciate each other and not take things for granted. Bless you and your family and love and hugs. xxx
@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
25 Mar 08
Honestly speaking, we really don't spend alot of time together as a family. In the evenings after work, we all vie for the computer, do homework, watch tv that kind of stuff, but its either seperately, two of us, but rarely as a threesome. About the only time all three of us spend together is going to the store or out to dinner. We have talked about putting money aside to do things together on the weekends, but up until now just couldn't really afford it. Now that I'm working, perhaps we will start doing some of those things we have talked about.
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@mummymo (23706)
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25 Mar 08
Hey Honey I do hope that your new job opens up more opportunities for you! To be honest with you we tended to all be doing our own things before my partner started working all those crazy hours and not getting to spend any time together as a family really hit hard! At least you guys go out together for dinner and spend time together then! xxx
@longsperes (64)
• China
25 Mar 08
Hi,It's always happy when togeter with family. It's hard for somebody to acompany with the family. They have to work hard to feed them. and maybe they have to work in another city. They can't often see each other although they miss each other strongly. So if you are living together with your family,just share more time with them. It's very important.