Cutting

I'm a Self Injurer and have been for well over 20yrs now so I know what you are talking about...Best things that work out for me these days is finding ways to get that out in a physical way..For some ppl doing things like drawing, writing, reading etc works and during mild moments i can pull it off doing that as my substitute but for those intense times I have to do something extremely physical like going for a power bike ride for a few hrs in the warm months or doing a hardcore workout..THEN I can top it off with writing/painting/drawing etc etc ya know..... Also leaning on ppl who understand what it truly means to be a self injurer is helpful too..If you dont have anyone like that in your real life then talking to those of us online like you did here will help AND I also want to suggest a book called "The Scarred Soul"...see if your library carries it...there are also some very great online sites that I found helpful in the past if you'd like me to post some links for you.. Hang in there Midnight...

I'm not a former cutter, but are there any hobbies that you enjoy or want to learn? That can help take your mind off things and maybe help you. I know this is a tough time for you, but hang in there. Things will get better! Best wishes!

I saw you post this sometime ago, and I'm hoping that you had the strength not to revert to destructive behavior as a coping mechanism for dealing with things that are hard to deal with. I can relate to this. I have food issues. And whenever something really upsetting happens I tend to want to revert to my destructive food behavior. Mostly, though, I don't. I hope you have the same luck.

You have to remember that your boyfriend wouldn't ever want you to do that. He loves you and wouldn't want you to be in pain, but he also has to do what he wants with his life. I know, it hurts not to be loved by the person you love...but you can't give up the strength he's helped to give you. You, slowly, but surely, need to untangle yourself and your identity from him...you will find another.

i'm also tempted in trying that 8 months ago. but i stopped myself from that temptation by going out with my friends just to forget the problems that i have. when i'm at home, i just watch some funny movies, and play some games. also, chatting with other people help me escape from that temptation

Hi, midnightuser. I have never cut myself on purpose. But I can say that, you can get some help for this. Maybe medication. You also need the love of prayer too. I will keep you in my prayers. Take care of yourself.