Confused and Sad
By quawertz
@quawertz (777)
Philippines
March 25, 2008 2:44am CST
I just received a call from the company I applied at. They are offering me a job but sadly I have to turn them down. I have been thinking of this situation for a very long time already and been crying endless nights just deciding what to do. Though that job is really what I want to do but I have to refuse it because it is not inline with the course I took up in college. And besides I don't want to start a big argument with my mom because I will have to accept the job. My mom is planning for my future already. I am hurt that my plans are ruined because my mom wants me to work outside the country and is pursuing me already to go out. I feel like I am not an adult to make my own decisions and to choose what I want. 5hours have passed and up until now I am still crying and feeling frustrated about what happened.I really wanted to accept the job and I am hurt because this company is a prestigious one and only 5% % pass their standards. So for me, to be included in that 5%is a big thing. That is my first job application and I was so ecstatic that I got hired only in the end I have to turn them down. Oh I cannot pass my frustrations I hope I can get over this sadness. It's not a great feeling.
6 responses
@foundmyangel (607)
• United States
9 May 08
just remember when one door closes another one opens and if you didn't take the job then it was because you had a goal to be else wheres there is nothing wrong with that. I only hope that you do not wish later that you would have taken it because sometimes we are lead down a path for a reason that we can not see at that time. best wishes to you on your decision and I hope things work out the way you plan. I have found out in my many years of trying to find the perfect position is that it doesn't come along every day.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
6 Apr 08
I understand how and what you're feeling now. But, I know in our country, most parents intervene with the decision made by their children or will mostly decide for them. Its not fair but if we have to look at it, they are just thinking to give you a very great life at a young age. Not everyone is lucky enough to go abroad, work and earn where most of our young professionals aim to do that. But, if you will just let your mom knwo whats your feeling about it, Im sure she will eager to listen to you.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
25 Mar 08
i understand your feelings. But why you had to refuse it? as you have to go outside country?if it is not your choice, then ok. for whatever reason it may be think that you took the decision yourself. may be you thought it would be best for you. so now don't get frustrated for what you refused. i hope you get much better option.
@danzer (2723)
• Philippines
25 Mar 08
If you are grown up and have finished your course, you should be given the chance to choose what job you will accept. Well, since you give in to your mom, later you will give in again. They will manipulate you and turn your nose wherever they wish.
It's true, we must be obedient to our parents, but there are boundaries! I hope you learn to be strong. Just think it's for your future, so good luck!
@metal_monkee (930)
• Philippines
28 Mar 08
hi quawertz...i'm impressed ^_^ you said the work you applied for and the course you finish in college is not inline with each other yet you got the job! amongst the top 5% wow thats amazing ^_^...but don't despair for the spoiled job opportunity, you can still get better offer than that...im curious what course did you finished? what country they want you to work in? Singapore? ^_^
@bubblyapple (2653)
• Philippines
28 Mar 08
hi quawertz! you are old enough to decide for yourself, yes you should respect your parents wants for you but in the end of the day its you who will decide for yourself, because if keep on following your parents wants, i'm afraid that one day you will found yourself miserable because you neglect what your heart really wants. as long as you think you are doing good and not harming anybody, you are not disgracing your family, go for your dreams, because remember opportunity knocks only once, if you missed it, you may never get it forever. You are intelligent girl, you are in your right age, talk to your parents and express what you really want, be straight forward but with RESPECT and caution that you are talking your parents, with being vocal of what your heart really desire will set you free from your problem.
