Are You A Slacker Mom?

Well good for her if that's the way she wants to celebrate Easter. I must be way less than a slacker mom because we didn't do anything for Easter - didn't even eat chocolate Easter eggs ... why? don't know why, Easter came and went without us noticing and my son still thinks I'm the best mom ever

not everyone has the time,energy and/or money to go all out like some do. That does not make you a slacker mom at all. I once held a birthday party for my daughter who just happened to have some very wealthy friends. It was just a bunch of girls getting together to have a fun time. I did my own decorating and made her cake myself. One mother was a bit surprised that my only agenda for the party was that the girls have a good time. They had all afternoon and we played it by ear. We ended up going ice skating and then renting some movies and it cost us next to nothing. As long as the kids are happy then that is all that counts.

Personally there is no way I would call you, or consider you a Slacker Mom, and if your friends or neighbors think this of you, who are they to judge? And what is wrong with using plastic eggs and hiding chocolate and money in them? I am sure this is a lot cheaper in the long run to do and you do not have to worry about any smells if you forget one. Don't let things like this bother you. If your kids are Happy, and you don't hear any complaints from them, I would think this would be what counts most. Right?

When my boys were younger and I was able to do more because I was working and such, I would go all out. Now that they are older, I tell them theat they are getting a big dinner and we are going to sit at the table and act like a family for once. Also for thier birthdays I have small picnics for the birthdays that are not MAJOR events and like this year I have 3 big picnics to give for 13, 16, and 18 years. My boys love having friends over and eatting, cake, and a bondfire toward evening. My problem is that two of the birthdays are back to back, May 18 and the 31st. My oldest turning 19 is on June 5. My ex-sister-in-law would get so mad that I would have one big party for them when they were younger. I am NOT having 3 birthday cakes within a month, let alone the expence of doing the parties. The firends like coming and eatting and hanging out. Just let me goto bed by 1 am. and help clean up before the fire. So, I guess in ways I am a "slacker mom."

I guess i'm the biggest slacker mom in the world if we go by your friends standards. I'm afraid i dont go all out on any one occassion. It's hard enough keeping them fed, clothed, and housed. You'r a great mom in my book as long as your kids are happy the extra can go for things that they really need.

Well I guess I'm with ya on being a slacker mom. We did color eggs, we do every year, but it's a family event, the kids get involved. I wouldn't do it myself, because that's half the fun for the kids. I also buy the plastic eggs to hide around the living room and dining room (I fear the real eggs will go bad overnight). Personally I think I'd be upset if I were called a slacker mom. Yes I do slack off on a lot of things, but so what? My kids are fed, clothed, and usually clean. They're also happy and greatful. I know there are a lot of parents out there who go to greater lengths than I do, but that doesn't make them any better than me. We all do the best we can, and as long as our kids turn out allright, that's what's most important.

I used to be that mom that spent hours boiling and coloring eggs just so my child could hunt and then basically leave them around to go bad. Now with 2 kids, it's just easier to buy plastic fill them with candy and let the kids get excited to find things in the eggs. You give your kids money in the eggs, I bet your friend's kids wish their mom was like you. Plus with plastic eggs, you can put them in a bag and save them for next years Easter, so your saving money, and you can use eggs like your suppose to.

First let me say you are not a slacker mom. I am a mom that does tend to have large events but I have a large extended family so it is always a big deal. I don't spend a lot of money but do give a lot to my children. Their Grandmother (on their dad's side) thinks it is awful what I give my girls. What she doesn't understand is that I do look for things on sale and my girls know the value of money so they don't "expect" it. Christmas is probably the one holiday that I do buy more then some mom's would but I start shopping early in the year so that I get things that are very low in price. Yes I already have gifts bought for next Christmas. I would spend more time finding a bargin then I would boiling dozens of eggs. This is the first year none of my girls got an Easter basket but only because they all hit that age of stopping. I do though hide candy around the house so when they wake up they can find it. I also do stockings at Christmas. So I might give a lot but don't pay a lot and my children do know the value of the dollar and they enjoy helping me so I think it is good.

I'm like you, but I also use plastic cause I really hate the taste and smell of eggs ;) I put money in them, and someday when we are really bored, I'll take him to the dollar store and he'll be living like a king there lol. But regardless, my kids is fed and happy, and my house is (mostly) clean-that's all that matters!

Well I don't think that makes you a slacker,and she was srong for saying that to you,if I say so myself.Some people get more into all the holidays and some don't,I myself I only boil maybe 1 or maybe 2 dozen eggs depending whats gonna be happening on Easter day itself,the kids just love coloring the eggs and finding them.I figure as long as your kids are happy,and thats what fits your lifestyle,then so be it.I also know someone who does all the things like your friends,It almost like another christmas in her house and thats not what Easter is all about,I think coloring eggs and finding them is great for the kids and parents because it makes a memory for your kids to remember from their childhood,and them you can use them the next day while your doing your Easter dinner,to enjoy with your family.

I think I must have been one also as I never had a lot of money so what I did for holidays and birthdays were simple pleasures and my kids never complained they always seemed happy over simple gifts like chocolate easter bunnies and peeps and a chocolate birthday cake and chocolate ice cream and just a few friends for a party.

if your children are happy, and youre happy.. and your family is content.. ? who cares what others think? whoever this person was pretty much calling you a bad mom because you didnt have to spend hours upon hours laboring to please your children, i really wouldnt categorize them as a "friend" mayhaps shes jealous that her children arent as satisfied with her as yers are with you, and she feels she HAS to do these things in order to make them happy..? where i live, theres alot of over-doing parents. the type that rent a hall and cater the food and bring in exotic animals for a 6 year olds birthday party. what ever happened to simple hot dogs and hamburgers, cake and hoodsie cups, and a rousing game of pin the tail on the donkey? maybe im a slacker mom too.. id rather spend the time WITH my children playing and having fun, than racking my brains on how to spoil them.

I think some people thrive on doing things like that and that is their way of life, I on the other hand have simillar views to yourself, the children wouldn't have noticed in my home if i had stood and cooked eggs for hours on end, the only thing they would be bothered about is what the egg contains as i think most children would, they dont appreciate things like that until they are older and my children and only 3 years and 22 months. Also the time your friend took preparing her eggs could have been put to better use i think - she could ahve spent time playing with her children, reading to them or just generally having fun and not trying to 'impress' Me and my children made rice crispie cakes today, granted they wernt the best looking things i have ever seen lol, they were very sloppy and mishapen but they were so impressed that we created them together and were so proud when they gave their nan one at tea time, i think things like that matter much more than going all out and trying to impress constantly.

I guess going by what you said your friend would call me a slacker mum too, thats fine with me. I dont go all out for birthdays and christmas we spend what we can afford simple the girls are always happy and enjoy what they do have. Easter um I didnt get them anything lol they got enough from other people. I love my children thats the important thing id be a slacker mum any day as long as I can love them 100% and bring them up the best I can

that is true... you dont have to be the usual or do the usual thing just to be a good parent. you can do a different twist on how to celebrate things and still be a good parent. when my children are younger i just bring them to my cousins house and there they celebrate easter. my cousin will be the one to prepare everything she just wants my cildren to be present. during their birthdays i dont have parties they dont like parties as well. they just like to eat out or go swimming or stuffs like that.

I think I may be called slakcer Mom by your friends,because I like simple life,simple happiness.So most of time,I choose the simplest way to celebrate festival with my son,but the precondition is that my son can get happiness from this way.

I am not quite sure what a slacker mom is. I know I work really hard doing things for my kids. If I have to go the extra mile, I will.