Cheating? yes or no...
By hallmarkjl
@hallmarkjl (500)
United States
March 25, 2008 9:45am CST
Would you call it cheating if someone else kissed you, but you did not kiss back? Providing the fact that you are in a relationship.
I really dont think it is cheating if you are kissed by someone and you do not kiss back. Instead back away and tell them that you are sorry, but you are with someone else. What do you think?
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@ebsharer (5515)
• United States
25 Mar 08
If some one kisses you and you pull back and tell them no I'm in a realitionship then no its not cheating. But if some one kisses you and you kiss back then stop it and say no I can't do this I'm taken then yes that is cheating. Either way it should be told to your spouse.
@hallmarkjl (500)
• United States
25 Mar 08
I probaly would tell my spouse if it happened to me. Just to let him know that so and so tried this but i did this instead. That away if something would ever get back to them he'd already know the truth.
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@oscarbartoni (2581)
• United States
25 Mar 08
I do not think that a kiss is cheating regardless of who it is. That is as long as it was just a kiss and nothing more. A kiss of the Bill Clinton manner (under the table) I would consider cheating though.
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@hallmarkjl (500)
• United States
25 Mar 08
If it is a kiss on the cheek or something than no I wouldnt think of it as cheating either. But if you have someone kiss you on the lips and you dont pull away thats sorta cheating i think.
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@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
26 Mar 08
It's not cheating if someone kisses you, but you need to pull back and tell the person you are in a relationship. If you give into the kiss and allow the person to think that there is a possibility of being together then yea that's cheating.
@vulgarlittleprincess (919)
• Canada
30 Mar 08
Personally, I think that if someone kissed me and I did not kiss htem back then it is not cheating. To me it is someone trying to get me to cheat on my significant other. I would probably tell me boyfriend or girlfriend and explain that I never kissed them back, because I always feel guilty when things like that happen to me. And I would most definatly explain to the person who kissed me that while I was flattered that they wanted to kiss me I was taken and could not participate in the kiss.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Mar 08
sorry but to let things get to the point where someone kisses you implies that he believes you are wanting this and perhaps you sent out the wrong signals.I think that you know it is on the edge of cheating but do not want to admit it to yourself.In order tokiss someone you both have to be in very close proxsimity so you should have backed off first if you wanted to be faithful to someone else.
@hallmarkjl (500)
• United States
26 Mar 08
Ok first I'd like to make something clear lol. This was just a hypothetical question, and has not happened to me. So please when you said that I was on the edge of cheating and stuff please say "a person" or something. It makes me feel like you believe I actually did this or had this happen to me.
Anyway, I do see where you are coming from. You also have to realize that just because someone kisses you, that does not mean they believed you wanted it as well. I do have a friend whom has been with someone for a while. She went to hang out with one of her very close guy friends. Not knowing he had feelings for her, he never told anybody about it. *even her* One day she was having some problems with her boyfriend and went to go see her guy friend b/c she would talk to him about EVERYTHING.
She was telling him what happened and what was going on. She turned to look at him and as soon as she did he kissed her and told her he loved her and wanted to be with her. She of course backed away and told him she was sorry. That she was with someone and she loved them. She then told him that she could no longer talk to him or see him unless he agreed to be just friends.
That is the type of kissing I was talking about. The type where the person doesnt see it coming and is shocked. Granted you are right in some cases, but I dont believe that is how it is with all of them.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Mar 08
I wanted to say you should have backed off first before the kiss so he would know you are not interested that you are already taken.
@martinha (631)
• Portugal
29 Mar 08
Knowing you are in a relationship that person shouldn't kiss you, that person should respect the fact that you love someone else.
I don't think it can be considered cheating. A kiss happens fast and it's not always something you can avoid even if you don't want to.
I wouldn't consider it cheating.
@kangel48446 (507)
• United States
30 Mar 08
Yes, I would still call it cheating.
If you're in a relationship, why would you even put yourself into a situation where something like that could happen? Kissing requires you to be close to somebody, so if you're involved with someone.. keep your distance.
@CheshireKat (564)
• United States
26 Mar 08
If someone is close enough to kiss you, I think you would know about it. I'm not a big fan of the thought of someone who I'm not dating being that close to me. I don't think necessarily that it's -cheating- on someone's part unless they know that the other person is interested and continue the friendship without addressing it, but I definitely don't condone it.
@sskmaestro (252)
• India
29 Mar 08
of course i really agree with you but upto some extent as the culture and traditions of those persons comes into picture in this scenario..!!
