Do you mind if your spouse goes out?

Once a week to a bar to play pool is fine with me, as long as our kid or I aren't sick! Also if we have the money, since I handle the finances I'll say "hey, we're a little tight on money, can you wait?". But a strip club, well yuck no! I wouldn't be cool with that at all.

I think its fine for a man to go by and visit a freind,and it is ok to go fishing and do some things with their friends...When a man marries he has no business in a strip bar,and he has no business hanging out in bars,getting drunk and staying out all night..Why did he get married anyway?,he should have stayed single...However if he can do this then he should give you the same freedon..If you can do all the things he does then i would say fine,if you choose to live this way and happy with the situation i say fine,as long as YOU have the same rights as him......

Personally, I am ok with my boyfriend going out with me on occasion. He has been known to go out for a drink after work with his coworkers before. The first time I was a little jealous, but I soon got over it. He needs a life separate of me, and i understand that. Also he does this maybe once a month, so its really no big deal. Strip clubs on the other hand is a different story. He is Not Allowed to go to strip clubs! We have discussed this before, and he is fine with it. I have told him that if there is ever a time when he would prefer to look at a strange naked woman, we had a serious issue. Also if he ever desired to watch other women dance for him, then we wouldn't need to be together. When you are in love I believe that you should not desire others. I think if you do, then it is not true love. He agrees, and does not desire to go to strip clubs.

Well, just recently I found out that ALOT of hubby's big business deals are made during the day at strip clubs in the winter months and on the golf course in the summer. His company finances, these occassions. I don't really like it, but I do like the money he brings home. And although I know he pays for his customers to have a few drinks, my hubby is not really a drinker, so that helps a bit. When he goes out with the guys at night, it is usually to a Ham Radio meeting or, recently his new interest, motorcycle club meetings. I know in the spring and summer he will be going on a few 'lomg distance' trips with his motorcycle friends and then there are his fishing trips with his brother and friends. These trips always include lot's of drinking, however hubby is usually designated driver. I actually enjoy the peace and quiet when he is away and sometimes I have a 'girls night out' with my sister in laws or with friends. So to sum up, I think a secure marriage is one where you both have interests outside of one another and are supportive of individual time as well as together time. And as long as I get enough together time, I am good! I can't say how often he goes out without me, or I, him. Between business and personal, he goes out alot more than I do, likely once a week or every couple of weeks.

My man does not need my permission to do what he wants. It's his life. I don't mind if he wants to go out even to strip clubs. But knowing the kind of person he is I know he would not go to one. I went to a strip club with an old boyfriend and the dancer who was our coworker even gave him a lap dance. It was no big deal to me because I know it didn't mean anything. He can go out and do what he wants I'm not his mother. I'm secure in my relationship and I trust him.

I don't mind my husband going out with his friends. It would be okay on a weekly basis with me. Not everyday though - I'd start to feel unimportant and that he didn't want to be around me. I'd have a big problem if he told me he was going to a strip club though because we are strong Christians and don't believe in that kind of thing. A regular bar wouldn't bother me too much as long as it wasn't a regular hang out for him. When my husband does get together with his friends it's usually to go to some sporting event. When we were first married he worked 2 - 3 full time jobs, and played softball. So I definitely know that I would not want him out with his friends on a daily basis. That's just too much!

i don't have a problem with my honey going out. I don't have a problem if he wanted to go to a stripe club either. I love and trust my man, and i know that if he goes out, then he is going to do the right thing by me and our family. I would not mind if he went out after work the with boys. I think it is very important in a relationship that each partner have their own life with friends outside of the relationship. I think with love and trust your spouse going out would never be an issue.

as long as they dont go out every night and get in every night after midnight, we are cool. i actually all for it, go out have fun relax that way less likely to come home and complain. like i said that is unless its get to be way to often then i may be looking into what all else is going on. stripper thing, its a just as easy to go get a massage if the person wants to get laid so wouldnt worry about it. hello should be comeing home nice and ready for you. so unless your not wanting to whats wrong with it

If my boyfriend wanted to go to a strip club I would go with him. I wouldn't want him to go without me. And if he wanted to hang out with his friends, I would let him. As long as it wasn't like an every week kind of thing. If he wanted to hang out with his friends like once a month, that would be fine with me. That's usually how it works in my relationship.

It's fine with me if it's once a month thing or so. I would be annoyed if it was every week though because then I'll be like, can I come too? LOL He needs to have time out with his friends and work colleagues and I don't mind that at all. My hubby plays poker with them once a month and then has the occasional golf game too when the weather is good, and that's fine with me. As long as he tells me then that is ok.

If he wanted to go out with some friends, I would probably let him. I may feel a bit hesitant, because I'm the jealous type, but I have to admit that he's totally trustworthy. Lucky me he isn't into these kinds of things! He's the conservative type. He likes going out with friends every once in a while, but he wants me with him every single time. It's also a plus for us that we share the same friends!

In my opinion, ebsharer, too much going out with the guys/girls is just asking for trouble in a relationship. It could be OK on an occasional basis, but I would never condone my partner doing so on a regular basis. We have to face the fact that there is a lot of temptation out there and an unattached male or female is seen to be "ripe for the plucking."

LOL..I'm one of those wives that will NOT allow my husband to go to a strip club. Forget it! Its gross and degrating and if he wants to go look at other women that badly then he can be single. We actually got into an argument the other night about something similar. My husband is in a band and they had a gig at this bar/ club. Everything was going fine until some hott little girls that have never had a child or probably eaten a sandwich walked in. I busted him oggling. Grrr...Now normally Im not an insecure person, but I have had three kids and I just discovered that I have a thyroid problem which is why I havent been losing the weight the way I should be. Well I feel horrible as it is about my body and he knows it. I asked him to not oggle women in front of me or if I am with him..I give him that respect. Well turns out there were a couple chics grinding on each other on the dance floor next door when he and his bassist went over there and he did it again. I was PO'ed! Its called mutual respect. I have no problem if he goes out with the guys. I mean I know who he is coming home to and he wont cheat. I just will not allow him to go somewhere like a strip club. If he wants to act like a rockstar and be a womanizer and oggler then he can do it as a single man. I take my vows seriously and I he should too..lol..Sorry I rambled:)

Actually, I don't mind if he goes out with his friends. I give him liberty to do some unwinding once in a while. Though I married him, it doesn't mean that I control him. I trust him and I believe he will not do anything to destroy that trust. He is old enough to decide things and face the consequenses of his actions. If he wants to go to a strip club, fine with me as long as I know who are his companions. Now, you're asking how often is okay with me? I have mentioned once in a while... meaning not very often. If it's a regular act, as in once a week...I will be bothered. He hasn't done that ever since. Saturdays and Sundays are reserved as family days while during the weekdays he has work and goes off already late. If he assigns a regular day "boys night out", one will have to suffer. And that is what I cannot allow... something is really wrong and we have to talk about it.

I don't m ind if my boyfriend goes out without me, every once in a while with his friends. We both need our seperate things that we do. I trust him and know that he loves me and will be coming home to me.

It bothers me when my husband goes out. He has cheated on me once and I think I have less trust on him going out.If he wants the family to be intact he must do what I want. When he goes out I make sure he's either with any of my kids or someone in the family or me in particular.

I would not mind my husband going out with his friends, maybe once in two weeks. Socializing outside the marriage partnership is healthy, it does not have to be only house and work to either partner. We deserve a breathing space from our work and/or homes. Going out with other people enables the couple to compare notes with other husbands in the case of men, and with other wives in the case of women. Strip club? Of course I will let him too because I have confidence that my man will come home to me. Self-confidence and maturity make us more desirable to our partners. Smothering will only drive your partner away, believe me!

Well for me and my husband in the bible it says for if you even look at another with lust in your heart you have already committed adultry so my husband won't even go to the strip club and thst is his choice. As far as the bar goes I wouldn't care but he thinks that if I can't go and the kids he don't belong there. Me and him every now and then do go out by ourselves but usually we just can't wait to get our kids and go home with them. He used to go out every week to play poker but now he don't even do that and that is his choice too. But I would have to say is if he wanted to go to the strip club all the time I would feel that I wasn't appealing or attractive to him any more because he would be coming home to me afterwards and I would just feel used. That is me though. He used to go out all the time when he was single but since we have been together he stopped and he did that by his choice which I would rather have him home any way since he was gone from us for a year and he missed out on so much.

Im no longer married but when I was, that was the least of my worries. I am very independent and like my own space so I certainly understand someone elses need to have theirs.If trust is there, then there should be no issue at all. If it bothered me that my boyfriend or husband was spending time with friends, I'd have to kick back and think about our relationship itself. something isn't right if that is the case. As far as how often...well, I think if my boyfriend or hubby were spending more time out than with me...again...I'd have to look at our relationship. A good relationship would not have to question such things. Quality time together would make time apart comfortable and okay.

My partner is out as I type this lol! Playing in a snooker match which he does twice a week and he meets up twice a week with his mates also, 4 out of 7 nights is ok with me unless im ill then I prefer him here totally selfish for a bit of sympathy and so he can be here if the kids wake up. Strip clubs i dont know its never been brought up and I dont think he would go to one to be honest so cant really say how Id feel about that but I would probably be ok with it. If the nights out a week got more than 4 every week then id soon ahve something to say about it as we still need to spend time together.