Mom, he's looking at me!!
By Debs_place
@Debs_place (10520)
United States
March 25, 2008 1:00pm CST
Ah yes, we all have heard the sweet sound of sibling rivalry and really don't enjoy it.
Having 2 brothers and a sister, we had some sibling rivalry going on, mainly with my older brother. It was the usual stuff for the most part - teasing, hitting, pinching, etc.
I was talking with someone I work with the other day who was telling me that her brother used to throw the family cat at her and the cat would hit her with it's feet and claw her as it slid down to the floor! Ouch!.
Tell us about the sibling rivalry that you have witnessed, perpetrated or been the subject.
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@gberlin (3836)
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25 Mar 08
My was hitting when I was very young. I have 2 older brothers and 2 older sisters and 1 younger sister. Here was the birth order: Sister, brother, brother, sister, ME, sister. We were all about 2 years apart except for me and my younger sister. We were only a year apart. Well somehow we were divided into the 3 older and 3 younger kids. It is still that way now. So in essence, I was between two of my sisters. As I got older, I did a lot of teasing which I learned from my oldest brother who used to tease me alot. Even now, I can not help but tease my one sister who is just above me in the birth order. She is 2 years older than me but I am more like her older brother than her younger brother. She also lives the closest to me so I see her quite often and that makes it easier to tease her. However, since I have been teaching, it is hard to resist the readily available supply of teasing victims known as students. I am careful and reserved and do not hurt anyone's feelings.
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
25 Mar 08
SO even as adult, you continue to be a tease! As long as it is good natured and fun for all parties then it is ok. If one gets upset, then it is time to stop.
So you tease your students? About what kinds of things? In our world of political correctness, it must be a tough thing to find things that are fun and appropriate.
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@gberlin (3836)
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25 Mar 08
Unlike your typical high school I teach at a boarding school for grades 9-12. So basically, I live with the students. We even have Faculty families where the students sign up at the beginning of the year to be in a faculty family. We have 10 students which is what most faculty have. We give these students some kind of treat every month and we also bake them an apple pie for their birthday. We have 2 parties at our house. One in October and a Christmas party where we serve them supper and play games. What I am trying to say is that we know the students very well. My wife is the girls dean and so we live in an apartment it the girls dorm with 115 teenage girls. Its not really bad and I enjoy getting to know the students as if they were my own kids.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
26 Mar 08
my older brother use to pick at me but not to much,he did not hit me but he called me "sprout" or sqirt",and it use to bother me....Sometimes my mother would have to go someplace and she would tell him to babysit me,and he would say to me"You got to mind me" Im the boss now",i would say your not my boss, and he would say "your at my mercy...haha....Now my grandchildren have always been real good together,they don't fight with each other,when i have been around or if my daughter is around,she will not allow it,but you never know what they do when you aren't watching.....Lol.....My kids were demons to each other,they fought and fussed all the time,but if a outsider jumped on them they would take up for each other....
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
27 Mar 08
Wow, it sounds like your big brother just liked to tease...he was a good big brother, no physical abuse. I think if your grandchildren are teasing each other when they are not supervised, someone who tell.
Wow, it sounds like 3 generations had all different kinds of sibling rivalry, don't you wonder what the difference is? Age, or gender or what?
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
25 Mar 08
Big age gap there, eventually he will become her protector. At this age,though it sounds more like learning to socialize rather than sibling rivalry.
@gemini_rose (16264)
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25 Mar 08
I was lucky in that I had no siblings to rival with! I only realise how lucky I am with witnessing my own childrens fall outs. They are not over nasty with each other but the falling out and aggravating is getting worse as they get older. I find it sad in a way that my 2 youngest boys seem to be falling out more, they have always been so close and my 6 year old adores his 7 year old brother and he gets so upset when he is horrible to him. My 7 year old always asks me why he has to have brothers and a sister, he says he wishes I had only had him, and then I feel really sad for him. I hope that they grow out of it and end up being close when they are older.
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
25 Mar 08
But it does not sound like they are doing evil things to each other. My older brother used to torture my younger one, there is 6 years between them. He would break things and then say he saw my younger brother do it. Then the younger brother got the crap beat out of him.
One time my mother caught my older brother, who they felt walked on water, in the middle of a lie, and then they let him get off since as the oldest child they felt he was doing it to get attention.
None of us younger really deals with the oldest of us, since he grew up to be quite an arrogant, difficult to get along with person. Who my parents still think, walks on water.
@ruthinian (2309)
• United States
26 Mar 08
"He/She did it!" (Pointing at each other) This was our patented Phrase everytime we got caught by mom.
It is a common thing among siblings. My 2 brothers and I grew up loving and hating each other. We grew up fighting, hitting, bitting, slapping, pinching and poking one another like there was no tomorrow. But we grew up closed as friends and peer too. It was how we bonded as a kid and it was what we laughed about now that we are all grown up.
When my brother's 3 kids will fight, we just laugh now and tell each other which of the kids is like me, which one is like my second sibling and which one is like my youngest sibling.
@evilgary (7)
• Singapore
26 Mar 08
For me when i was younger, my brother would turn me over and use his heels to hit on my butt. If you do it really fast, you would feel the pain too.
This is all about life when your young but it stops as i grows older too.
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
27 Mar 08
SO your brother would torment you. Is he now your protector?
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
26 Mar 08
my friend and her cousin, lived in the house growing up so they were like sisters,
my friends mother did the cooking but she had to make sure the girls had exactly the same thing or she would hear about it.
it was so extreme,
that they had to have everything the same on their plate and I mean everything,
she even had to count the peas,
or she would hear about it,
it was how come she got 10 peas and I got only 9
lol
@34momma (13882)
• United States
26 Mar 08
I am sorry to say that my brother, sister and I have never gone through this rivalry. My mother would not stand for it. I remember my brother and i had one fight as children and my mother made us stand in the middle of the room hugging each other for over and hour. We never had a fight or anything like that again. we all are very close and always get along. sorry no crazy cat stories here
@clrumfelt (5490)
• United States
26 Mar 08
My boys fight a lot. At first I would get into the middle of things to try and stop the fight and keep the older one from doing serious bodily harm to the younger one, but then I realized my younger boy knew exactly what to do to get his brother riled, and did it on a regular basis, so
I started staying out of it and let him learn not to aggravate his older brother. I think he was just using the fighting to get attention so he is not pestering his older brother as much now.
@candyandhoney (146)
• China
26 Mar 08
I can't understand such sort of feeling. I am the only child of my parents. I envy from time to time that brothers or sisters playing together. I can't imagine that I would fight with my brothers or sisters if I have. In fact, when I was young, I always felt uncomfortable, for my parents took care of my aunt's or my uncle's children more than me. If only I heve a old brother or sister! For me, I want to raise 2 or more children to make up my regret. I hope that my kids will love each other....lol.....