worrying about pregnancy matter

If you are not really ready to get pregnant right now then I would advise waiting. You can control that much of your body by using contraception. And its only a year, its not like you are putting it off until you are too old or anything.

How old are you if you dont mind me asking? I ask this because there may be plenty of years before you need get pregnant. Really, you should only try getting pregnant when YOU are ready, not your husband. Ask him what his solutions are to the problem of finance & child care. I dont mean to put your husband down, but he he needs to put himself in your position. It doesn't sound like you are ready to have a baby. Would your husband listen to your Doctor? Are there some members of your family who could explain to him that your stress & financial worries need to be improved? I didn't have my child until I was 35 years of age. PS. I misunderstood your question to me regarding mycashguide. Your points for posts should be working. Mine are. Have another try & see what happens & let me know.

I am interpreting your comments to mean that you previously miscarried during your earlier pregnancy. If so, you should really listen to your doctor's advice about getting pregnant again and how to prevent another miscarriage. If you are only 60% ready you definitely should wait! Your health should be foremost and your husband should respect that.

You already said that you aren't ready, so you answered this question yourself. When you know you're ready, there will be no questions, everything will go well. Husbands don't know all that is involved, because they don't have to take care of the day-to-day reality of doing everything it takes to care for a child. We were all right with our first child... then I lost the next, and was very depressed. The Dr told my husband I should get pregnant right away, but I wish we would have waited, because we had very little money after paying the doctor bills. My stress level climbed to a frightening level after our son was born, and having 2 in diapers was so much work! I sorted it eventually, and just when I thought I was doing all right, I got pregnant again! She was the hardest to carry because I wasn't very healthy at that time, due to the stress. But she was the easiest birth, because my husband had a vasectomy right before she was born... I knew we wouldn't have to risk it again. But still, having 3 so close together was the hardest thing... I rarely slept or even rested, and I never had any help. We didn't go out alone for over 5 years because we couldn't afford a babysitter! What I'm trying to say is, don't do it if you aren't comfortable with where you are and what you're doing... life can turn into something much different than you want, even with a beautiful child in your arms.

I think you should NOT try to get pregnant until you are both completely in agreement and ready for it. Bringing a child into this world because he wants to is not a good thing. This world and marriage/having children is tough enough without everyone being in absolute agreement before the child is conceived.

I have experienced the pregnancy accidently without any preparative, butI and my hubby still decided to want this baby.But later,I heard that baby under sufficient preparative is easier cared than under insufficient preparative during mom's pregnancy.My son shows some upset and boring during his first three months,but I don't know whether this symptom was caused by my accident pregnancy until now. I suggest you to have pregnancy under sufficient preparative.After all,we all hope our babies born well and grow well. :)

If your failed pregnancy has been within the last year it would be best to wait for a year and give your body a chance to recover from the stress of the loss. You will greatly increase your chances of having a successful pregnancy next time if you can do this. If you can get your husband to talk to your doctor about the timing of your next pregnancy, perhaps he will be more willing to listen.

I'm sorry to hear about that. If you don't feel ready you should tell your husband and just communicate openly about your concerns. As for your other concerns there are work at home jobs that are more readily available than before this will eliminate child care costs, driving, gas, etc and you can also stay home and care for your child. I am currently working from home and have a little one on the way and so far things are good:) The website is http://www.workplacelikehome.com, there is a list of legitimate companies, good luck! Back to the pregnancy situation I think it's best to try to avoid as much stress as possible until you feel completely ready.

in all honesty after loosing a child, you are supposed to wait one year to give your body time to heal from the first pregnancy. if your not ready you need to tell your husband and tell him that your supposed to wait a year for your body to recover. maybe telling him medically wise will help you in him understanding and not wanting to get pregnant right away. good luck and keep us posted. God bless

Your readiness is indeed a big factor when planning to get pregnant. First and foremost, youe health condition should be the one that you must concern yourself with. There are a lot of people out there who keeps on having kids yet they barely afford to feed them or they live from paycheck to paycheck. There is nothing wrong worrying about how you will take are of your child, about his/her education, etc but if you are just to work and save for a child's future who doesn't even exist yet, what would be the essence of your sacrifices? If I were you, its better to have that child yet and then save for his/her future as years pass since s/he would not start schooling at once anyway. YOu would only be spending money for his/milk, nappy, baby sitter if you really need to work, medical checkups and vaccines, clothes, etc... so possibly, you can still save for his/her education and other needs. The joy of having a child is far more important than your worries. Believe me, the very moment you will hold your child, you will tell yourself that here now is the very reason why you would want to continue living and making a living.

Sweetie, it sounds to me that you are the only one showing concern about the future of a child. You also seem to be the only one concerned about your health and well being. What is the rush? It seems fairly obvious that you are under a great deal of stress. Okay, admittedly, worrying about a child attending college before it is even concieved is a bit much. But concerns for how you are going to support a child when you are having difficulty making ends meet for the two of you with both of you working is definately a valid concern. My concern is with your health and that of a prospective child. Sweetie, I have had two tubal pregnancies. I'm fortunate that it didn't kill me. My husband is much more concerned about my well being than he is about having children. It is frightening to know that I could die from risking it again. Your physical health is indeed a priority. Stress is a dangerous thing to play with. I don't understand why he is pushing so hard. You both need to have your priorities in line and determine when and if you are ready to concieve again. Your body, emotions, and the future of a child are at stake. Not just his wants. I am not trying to be harsh. I hope that all goes well when you do get pregnant and that many blessings come your way.

Hiya plum hun, sorry to hear about your failed pregnancy before I am very sorry. The short answer is only commit to having a child when you are ready to do so, I commend you for thinking ahead and planning your childs future, at the end of the day you are the one who will be carrying the baby for nine months and it is your body, you need to be ready, emotionally and finacially to support your child and give it the best possible start to life which im sure is what you are aiming for. Sit and talk to your husband and try to explain that you dont feel your currently stable enough finacially and maybe even mentally after the loss of your first pregnancy. I really hope you get the outcome you desire and wish you all the best for the future. Lucy

You need to be ready. Having a baby is stressful and with your comlications getting pregnant before your ready could hurt both yu and your child. YOu and your husband need to be on the same page before you decide to have children.

if you feel you aren't ready for another pregnancy wait... you have to carry the baby for nine months and not your husband. If something happens... he might blame you ... so feel free to wait.

I think you are justified. But also i guess you are worrying too much. just take it easy. in some case child comes and then parents try to pick up little . you will soon get a good job.

Since you had a previous miscarriage or were unable to get pregnant it seems there might be a medical condition other than you worrying about taking care of a child. I think that there is something going on here. Your not getting pregnant might be causing the stress, not the stress causing you not to get pregnant and most doctors often say that your worrying is keeping you from getting pregnant so I think you should get an examination to find out if anything is wrong. You should not worry about who will babysit the baby, because with some, if they worried about having a baby they would never have children. As far as the child going to university, if you save a little each month, by the time the child is of University age, he or she will be ready. You may be ready for pregnancy once you quit your job and get a better one, but it depends on whether your body is ready. So find out the facts, and start saving so you will not have to worry about finances when the baby does arrive.

Raising children is a hard, stressful, expensive job even though it is more rewarding than you can ever imagine. However, if you are not 100% ready to have a child DO NOT allow someone to talk you into it and allow them to make that decision for you. If your husband wants a child now and you don't then you will have to talk things out and tell him your concerns and compromise. I think that you should tell him that you want to wait a year and he needs to respect your decisions.

Theres nothing to worry about you have to relax yourself. Coz it affects the baby not only you.. you have to be healthy.. you know from the very start that you know that theres a possibility that you get pregnant

If you are not ready, wait. Don't let your husband pressure you to do it before you are ready. It sounds like all those things you are worrying about are valid and that they are stressing you. So getting pregnant now would be difficult. Explain your reasons to your husband and convince him to wait. If you think next year will be better, that's not a long time to ask him to wait.

You have to obey your mind and also obey your husband. So both of you need to actually sit down and have a good talk about it. Let your husband know and see your reasons, and try to know and see His own side as well. By that both of you can work it out. Good luck