Tradition in India
By banipenet
@banipenet (283)
March 26, 2008 3:55am CST
Hy! I saw that are many indian's chatting on this site. I have a little courriosity. I don't know too many things about the indian's traditions, but i saw in many films that they don't getting marry how they wish, they don't follow their love, they marry by their parents agreement. I think that is a little sad. Can we disscus about this subject? Thank you, even if are indian or another nationality.
3 responses
@divyagupta (94)
• India
26 Mar 08
As you have noticed arranged marriages are popular in India. Parents choose there kids soulmate and they agree to it. This doesnt mean marriage is forcible. There are some parents who do consider there kids wish. These days with the fast life..people here are slowly accepting that Love marriages.
My friend likes a guy and indeed that guy is ready to commit, but due to the fear of parents prestige, society she is keeping away from him. All our friends are ready to support them,yet she has to makeup her mind.
And one more thing I would like to mention in this discussion that here we have hundreds of religion,people following different castes,customs,speaking different languages, different lifestyle. So people are unable to accept inter caste,inter religion marriages. Youth here have to struggle a long way to break such barriers.
@divyagupta (94)
• India
27 Mar 08
yep, youngest fight for there wishes, sad thing is most of them sacrifice and give up. I really feel bad for that.
@banipenet (283)
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26 Mar 08
From what you say i understand that the indian youngest have to fight for their wishes in life. Thanks for responding me.
@bbsr13 (4196)
• India
26 Mar 08
Hello,banipenet! I am an Indian and I strictly follow the Indian traditions in my life.Relating to love marriage and arranged marriage there were several discussions earlier.we the Indians believe and have faith on arranged marriage.after all marriage is a social institution which gives social sanction to the couples to live together and we are abide by it.but in love marriage such things does not exist.in western countries the couples stay together for years before marriage just on the plea to understand each other but a few years after marriage it breaks.why?why the marriage fails there,how many years they want to understand each other so that the marriage would last for the whole life.I do not understand how the parents allow the couples before marriage to live together.you see in western countries there are so many cases of diverse compared to the Indians.thank you
@banipenet (283)
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26 Mar 08
Thank you for your opinion. Yes, it is true what you said about couples that stay toghether many years before marriage and after a few years of marriage they break out. I think that a life is not enough to know the person between you.
@gabrielle47 (1219)
• Philippines
26 Mar 08
Hi Benipenet. Yes I can see a lot of Indians participating or are members of this site. You can check it out in myLot users by location. Are you from India as well? I have a lot of indian friends and yes I have heard a lot of stories about arranged marriage in india and its so sad that most of them dont work out well. Well its really good if you marry the one you love but most indians are so attach and follow traditions by their parents. So I guess they cant get by it. Good luck!
@banipenet (283)
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26 Mar 08
Thanks for responding me! I'm not from India and i don't know too many about their traditions, but i want to discover more about these, especially of this subject (arranged marriage) because it intrigue me.
