Mothers and fathers no longer living together

Divorce is a sad thing, yes. But, sometimes when the parents are screaming and yelling at each other all of the time and the child is being ignored or placed in the middle of arguments it is better that the parents divorce. We marry because we believe we have found the right person for us. Sometimes sadly we are wrong and it becomes apparent soon. Other times throughout the course of our lives we find we grow apart. I think many should try to get reacquainted with the spouse that have grown apart from before divorcing, but sadly it does not always work. One thing for sure when someone divorces both parents should agree not to say anything bad about the other in front of the child/children and both agree to always reassure the child that he/she is loved deeply.

hello micky31,when I was younger,I never thought that two people in love could 'fall out of love' but now that I'm older I know anything can happen.When kids are involved,parents who are separated tend to give what's best for the kids.

There is no black and white here. In my case my girls were better off because of the divorce and so was there relationship with their dad and I. As far as why do we marry in the first place? I honestly don't know. I really don't see the point other than to spend a lot of money t o get there and a lot to get out of it. It does work for some and I have seen it but they are the lucky minority.

I made the mistake of getting married once. It won't happen again. My ex husband and I still have contact due to the children and they go see him every other weekend. But they know that mommy and daddy are better off this way. My ex has his new girlfriend and I have my new boyfriend. Yes I believe that people try to find someone they can stay with for the rest of their life, but people change and situations change. Just like with me, my ex husband and I got along great at first. Then I seen his true colors. I dealt with it for 4 1/2 years and finally decided it was enough when he threatened to hurt one of my children. That's where I draw the line! I don't care how much he abused me - physically, mentally, emotional, sexually, and any other you can think of, but when it comes to my child - back off buddy !

Living together for the sake of the children is not a healthy idea for me. Because the children would get affected in anyway being in the center of the arguments and fights. It's a good point of living separately than living together and set bad example to the children. Anyhow as long as both parents are there for support to the kids. The children would understand.

I can only say that from my experience there was no choice but to seperate. I'd love nothing more than to have my son be raised in a loving home with both his mom and dad there but sometimes that just isnt possible. My sons dad and I did whats best for my son and chose to provide him with two real loving houses instead of one house full of arguing, hate, and fake love

It's difficult to go through a divorce and make sure the kids still feel they are loved and valued by each parent.It's also hard to help the kids feel it's not their fault the one parent is moving out. They feel abandoned and think it's somehow their fault. Divorce happens and emotional scars from going throuh one are nearly unavoidable, especially if you're a kid, but they can be minimized.

my mum and dad separated when I was about 7. the day my mum and I left, my life got much better. I honestly beleive a child is better living with parents separated than living with both parents where one is emotionally abusive to the other, and both are unhappy, argue and fight, and the home has a bad atmosphere. my childhood was much happier when I was being raised by only my mum. she did a fantastic job, and we were both happy.

For ever?Nothing will last for ever.Think about it,the sun will burn out some day,so the love fire.Isn't it?