Who are you having the discussion with? Just the person starting

A lot of the time, I guess I am having a discussion with the person who has started it. I do not always look at other peoples responces which I should do really, but when I do then sometimes I will add a comment to that person.

Hi Whittby, I have had the mindset of just responding to the person that is making the response at that time because it then brings up other issues...then if I read all the comments first my answer may chnge from my initial reaction.

I prefer to respond to the person who started the discussion first... post my response, and then read through the other comments. If one makes a point, I wish to take up, I'll respond to them as well, so no, I don't have a private discussion. Sometimes, people will put a comment in to add to my response as well. I think that's the point of discussion. Brightest Blessings.

I try and talk in such a manner that I will engage my entire discussion and all of its respondents. Sometimes that is hard when a person will respond and you want to answer them directly. So I suppose its a combination of both. Privately and open forum. But what I have found is that you can learn even when there is a small discussion that is going on in the private sector. Often I am touched or educated as equally.

I have not had the opportunity to get involved in a discussion as I usually end up responding well after the post was entered. Although I have been known to respond to comments entered on posts. Either way I'm a late arrival but if the chance should arise for me to get involved on a discussion and felt I could add something good or interesting to the flow, yes I would.

i really wish i could help but i'm new and don't know how things work around here so can u help me? thanx

actually when i see in my inbox direct i reply without reading any reply from discussion, when i already post my reply then i will try to read other reply in the discussion.

If I respond from my e-mail, then clearly its the person that posted the discussion. I am responding to you, as your on my friend list. If my friends don't post enough discussions that I have a helpful response, then I go straight to my interests. I think right now its about 50-50. I do try responding to each person on my friend list, but that has not been possible. My friend list has many members that don't post discussions at this time.

My first and foremost intention is to respond to the origionater of the post, but I do read most if not all the responses, and when one catches my attention I respond. I feel the more input from responders the better. We may just learn something we didn't know, make a new friend, or enemy, but best of all we have enhanced our knowledge, and been able to give our humble opinions. I love My Lot.

When we open our mylot thing, what will appear are those coming from our friends and those with same interest with us. What I do, I opened up my discussion with comments, and from there I answer their comments. I answer them one by one, the first one on the list I comment. I dont read all before I comment on one. But there are times my answer is somewhat related to my answer to other because their comments are also related to mine. Then after that I go to those items I like from my friend. But there are times when you open up something then it will be posted the same topic you will see, then from there I also discuss with them.

I sometimes do both. I like interacting with all people. I try not to steal the OP's thunder though by chatting it up with others, unless I feel THAT strongly that I HAVE to respond.

Most of my response is to the starter of the discussion.But a few times I also done what you mensioned.Thanks

I see the title of the discussion first. If the subject is just what I am familiar, I will read through the above responses carefully and add my opinion. I seldom response without see what other friends' points of view.And I usually have the discusses starting by others more than my own sponsored discussion. I read all sorts of groups without limited.

When I respond to a discussion, I'm usually responding to the person who started the discussion.

For me it depends on the topic. Sometimes there's just not much reason for the responders to "discuss" things with each other. Some topics, I really enjoy having lots of interaction and I'll leave comments on other responses and get lots of comments on my own response. Usually it's either a very heated discussion or a very fun one but either way I think it represents the kind of discussion mylot wants.

I want to talk to the person who posted first... but its like any conversation with good friends around... the more the merrier! More input means more information, and that is never a bad thing! Its fun when a discussion turns into a chat between friends!

I have never thought of it quite like this before, but you are right in asking this question. I think that i am probably having a private discussion with the person who started the discussion because I only respond to it and don't add a comment to any of the other responses, not very often anyways. But I do read the ones that come up on the page that my response gets posted on, after I respond since I am responding through my emails and can't read them till after I post mine. I have never thought of it quite this way, as you state, and I am glad you started this discussion about it because it is so true. I will have to try to change my ways here as this is a discussion forum and I like to be a valueable member.

Coming directly to this discussion from the email notification, I'm responding to you, whit my friend. If I'm browsing interesting topics, and see responses of others -- I usually respond to the topic, but sometimes respond to a comment somebody else has made. It is a group discussion -- but my feedback isn't to the group. It's to the starter or another responder.

I mainly reply to the person who started the discussion but then once ive posted my reply I read others and add if I feel nessercary. The thing that attracts you to the discussion is what title the main person has given it, sometimes you may be the first to reply so it will be a private discussion to start of with. Is it really important to reply to someone elses view? What about you, do you reply to the person who made the conversation or as a group??

I guess it all depends. At the moment i am responding to you but this will not always be the case. I find its best to find a topic that interests you then respond to the appropriate people depending on what you have to say. sometimes u can can respond to the post creator and also multiple post replies as well :)