Am I wrong?
By chondo0311
@chondo0311 (5)
United States
March 27, 2008 2:27pm CST
I am a newlywed 2 months and found out i am also 3 weeks pregnant. My husband in from Honduras and since we are working on his paperwork to stay in the US he can not work, so i am the sole provider for a family of 3 with one on the way and 3 children in Honduras still waiting to arrive. Lately I have been working 2 jobs and not having a day off and my husband feels like i am bored with him because i come in from work(i work 7 days a week) and i do not come directly to him and kiss him. He is upset at me and says if i don't care he won't either? Am i doing something wrong? I tried to make him understand and explain that when i come in i drop stuff off like my purse and stuff and he always seems busy so i try to wait until he is done with cooking, dishes, whatever it may. Truely, i am new at this marriage thing, does anyone have any advice?
2 responses
@TriciaW (2441)
• United States
27 Mar 08
Wow you have a lot of pressure on you. He may never understand but I think he may be feeling this way because he feels helpless and not happy with himself since you are having to be the bread winner in the family. It sounds a bit old fashion but many men have a hard time dealing with that and if he is unhappy with himself he may be a bit over sensitive to what is going on. I don't think you will be able to change his way of thinking just hope that soon everything will be ok and he will be able to provide for the family and he will feel better about himself. Best of luch and congrats on the baby. Remember to take care of you!
@chondo0311 (5)
• United States
27 Mar 08
Thank you for the reassurance, you don't know how much i needed that.
@reeseyj (906)
• United States
27 Mar 08
I have been with my husband for 16 years and married for 6 and my husband gets very upset if I dont kiss him when I come home or leave and he always kisses me whether he is coming or going. Your husband will never be to busy for a kiss. I think you are very wrong. Men need lots of attention and praise or they can feel worthless and get depressed. Most men are the bread winners and when there not it can make them feel like crap, so imagine how he feels right now that he cannot provide for his family. He needs all the attention that you can give him or your marriage may not survive and he might become resentful towards you. Good Luck.
@chondo0311 (5)
• United States
27 Mar 08
Thank you, like i said i am new at this, and need to remember i am not single anymore. Wow, 16 year congrats. I hope to be there. I do not intentionally do it, that you for the advice.
