OMG!! Is That You?? Can't Believe I Found You!!
By pyewacket
@pyewacket (43903)
United States
March 27, 2008 9:38pm CST
I'm practically doing cartwheels here!
Okay here's the story. Long, long time ago in a galaxy far, far away...uh, oops wrong story.
About 27 years ago, I had to go into the hospital for a minor operation. One of my roomies while I was there was this sweet woman named Peggy who had a son about ten years younger than me. Thing is He and I kind of hit it off really well..Uh, no, there was nothing "romantic" there folks, but after both Peggy and I were released from the hospital we all keep contact, so consequently kept in contact with her son...He was a real die hard Trekkie, while I was a Star Wars fan, but in general we were both space cadets..hehe...we were both into photography, and so on.
Our relationship was more like brother and sister, and really close. Then he fell in love with this woman at, of all things a Star Trek convention, got married and moved to NJ (I'm here in NY). For a good long while we kept up with contacting each other by phone, but then both our lives got hectic and we fell apart in contacting. I did have his address, but for some reason the mail would come back to me as addressee unknown and I couldn't find his phone number...So I hadn't heard anything from him or he from me in something like eleven years!! And all along I'd be thinking of him, wondering how he and his wife (and four kids) were doing and wondered if he ever thought about me too.
Then today, I got an email notice from about.com on how to find someone's email address...I had checked the yellow and white pages for his address but it was the same one I had where the mail would come back to me...anyway, this article in about.com, suggested just simply type out the person's name in Google or Yahoo...like duh? Why didn't I think of something so idiotically simple?? So I typed his name and no, didn't come up with his email address but found one thing that mentioned his name on a Facebook profile...so go there (I'm over there myself).
I was able to track down his name there, but still wasn't sure if it was actually him...his name is fairly common, and the avatar picture was so small couldn't tell if it was him by his photo...but took a chance and sent a message to him.
So just a few minutes ago, I get a reply email from Facebook...IT IS HIM!! I nearly feel off my chair...I mean what were the chances of trying to find someone after eleven years?? So now I'm off to write a REALLY long email back to him.
Has this ever happened to you?? Have you had the luck of finding someone from your past and were ecstatic about it?
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24 responses
@GnosticGoddess (5626)
• United States
28 Mar 08
That's awesome!!!
I'm so glad you've found him!
It's great to talk to old friends :)
I found some old high school friends recently on myspace that I hadn't talked to in 10 years and was thrilled too :)
I hope the two of you can build a new relationship together!
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Mar 08
He really was such a great friend..mmm..never thought to check out myspace...wonder if I can find anyone there too..There are a lot of people I lost touch with like high school buddies and wonder from time to time what happened to them, how they are
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@GnosticGoddess (5626)
• United States
28 Mar 08
They have a place on myspace where you can search your schools alumni :)
You never know who you might find there :)
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Mar 08
Actually just tried that..came up zilch...but found my same friend that I'm talking about here over there too..hehe
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@blackbriar (9076)
• United States
28 Mar 08
Wowsers! That sure is awesome that you were able to find your friend after so many years. Wonder what happened that he stopped contacting you. I'm curious now. lol Wonder if his wife had anything to do with him 'disappearing'. You know..jelousy. I've never really had any friends that I cared enough about to keep in contact with till I entered college. Me and this girl hit it off right from the start and were great friends. Few years ago she just up and disappeared. Tried calling her but disconnected. Emailed but bounced back saying no such addy. Snail mail same thing. Last I heard she is now living somewhere in Kansas. Another friend, same thing. Was a neighbor of ours and we became really good friends. Every since she moved to IN, bout 3 hrs. from me, she slowly dropped out of the picture till she too is now gone. Haven't talked to her in a few years either. Just know she is still somewhere in IN. Since they both stopped contacting me, I'm just going to leave it at that and see if they try contacting me sometime in the future. Will never forget about them but not going to chase after them either.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Mar 08
LOL...you kind of hit it with the jealousy thing...Okay when he and his "future" wife met..okay they got engaged, the whole wedding thing was planned then they had "THE FIGHT"--he was still rather young and still living at home with his folks...anyway, he'd often come over to visit me and was so depressed and morose over losing his "love"---well, I guess somewhere along the line she decided to forgive him, BUT every time just about that she would call his home his mom would say, Oh, he's over at Melanie's place." Hehe..so yes the green eyed monster was there with her...I mean he and I really were just friends nothing more...anyway...next thing you know I get a call from him saying Chris was pregnant and they zoomed up the wedding date big time..but couldn't help thinking she kind of did that on purpose as security that he would marry her...Well, poor guy...I mean I always felt he got the real raw deal of it...For awhile they where living at her family's home, then her family decided they wanted to move, so the option was that they could try to find a cheapie apartment and stay in NY area, or her father made this proposition...to find a home in NJ where her parents wanted to move to,they would pay half the mortgage up and they pay the rest...the thing is, Harvey had a really fantastic job here in the NY area and had gotten his electrician's license..to move to NJ would have made it invalid, so once they did move to NJ he kind of gave up on the idea of going after the electrician's license for NJ and instead got stuck with menial jobs in restaurants..In the meantime, wifey-poo is cranking out kids boom, boom boom...have four kids total I guess as extra security, he has a lousy job, trying to support his wife (who didn't want to go to work again) a mortgage, and not long after found out he had extremely high blood pressure..like duh? Can't figure why...LOL..Anyway the few times he and I did phone each other it would be when she was out with the kids somewhere..yeesh.wonder how she'll feel with my reconnecting with him??
@blackbriar (9076)
• United States
28 Mar 08
Dangggggggggg!! His wife has some major insecurity issues as well, it sounds. She'll prolly try pumping out more kids if she found out you 2 are connected again. lol Poor guy!
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Mar 08
LOL--mmm trying to remember but think she was a bit older than he was and closer to my age, and had been married and divorced before she hooked up with him--but yeah, she just might do that....hehee
@SViswan (12051)
• India
28 Mar 08
Oh yes! I was in the 10th grade and having summer vacations when Kuwait was invaded by Iraq. All communication lines were cut and I couldn't contact any of my friends when we fled the country.
Imagine my surprise when a couple of months back...one of my class mates called up and planned out a reunion. Someone had a scrap of paper with my parents' address...and then she called up the telephone exchange with the address and requested the phone number. Luckily, my mother was home then (she stays in another continent and was home planning my sister's wedding!)...and she gave my friend my number (I stay in a different state!).
I was over the moon when I got in touch with all my school mates...we never thought we would get in touch ever again because none of us could contact each other when we left...but a few of them ended up in the same school in India.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Mar 08
Oh wow, that's wonderful you were able to get connected with your old school mates like that...I guess some things are meant to be...that is to find certain people from the past
@enola1692 (3323)
• United States
28 Mar 08
wow that is great I yes it did happen to me once I had a very close friend of mine get a blood tranfusion an got aids though dirty blood anyway he moved an I then also move in put of fl then I was wondering how he was doing anI conducted searches an I found him an I called him god wasa I thrilled to hear his voice on the answering machine an thought got it yes ,Well I called back later an his wife answer telling me I was 2 days to late he passed I wish i would of found him sooner but he knew he was one of my best friends an how much I loved him so write that email an don't lose touch with him again
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Mar 08
OH, what a blow to find your friend only to find out he had passed away..the same thing happened when I was able to track down my father's side of the family..my parents had been divorced..anyway did write a letter to his parents (my grandparents)--it was his sister that wrote back..only to tell me my father had passed away only a few years before..so a big blow and disappointment. Yes, I just wrote a long email back to my friend..so hope I hear back now
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
28 Mar 08
That's awesome Pye!! Wow, you were lucky!! I'm sure you weren't the only one who about fell out of their chair when you contacted him!! LOL I bet you guys, having so much in common, have a lot to catch up on!! Good for you!!
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Mar 08
Yup he must have fallen off his chair too...in fact the first words in his email to me..."Dam it's good to hear from you"
@emeraldisle (13139)
• United States
28 Mar 08
We actually had a similar situation happen at our house. My sister had found one of her best friends from high school thanks to classmates.com and it turned out she lived not far from us but neither her nor my sister could find their other best friend anywhere. They hadn't heard from him since a few years after graduation so you are talking over 20 years. Well my niece decided to type the guys name into Myspace and search. Now this person happens to have an unusual last name. Well up popped his profile. My niece contacted him asking if he went to the one high school etc. It was him and my sister was over the moon. They of course got to talking via email and then phone. The look on her face when my niece said she found him was just incredible.
I'm glad you found your friend. I think that is great.
@emeraldisle (13139)
• United States
28 Mar 08
Oh I know and it's not easy. I know my sister and her friends are still looking for one other that made up the group of friends but she seems to have dropped off the face of the earth. Can't find anything for her under her maiden name or her married name (She's divorced and at last hearing was not interested in men and had accepted a different life style). We can't even find any of her family. Very strange. I haven't really looked for any of my old friends. Might be fun to try though and see what or who I might find.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Mar 08
It's remarkable how we can find people isn't it?? I wonder if I can dig up some of my friends from high school through that classmates.com..it's harder to track women though isn't it since most do change their names when they get married
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@bonbon664 (3466)
• Canada
28 Mar 08
Wow, that's amazing. I haven't found anyone in that way. It's amazing how small the internet has made our world. I'm anxious to hear how the relationship goes now that you have made contact again. Way to go woman!
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Mar 08
I just rattled off a really long email back to him....so waiting to hear back...hope I can find some of my other friends now
@youdontsay (3497)
• United States
28 Mar 08
That's so great. There is a friend from my past that I often wonder about. But I don't know how to find him. He has a VERY common name and I couldn't identify him with a goggle search. It has been so long since I've known where he lived that he could be anywhere by now.
Anyone have tips?
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Mar 08
I know people with common last names can be a problem...well try either facebook or myspace and type in his name...you might come up with a lot of similar names but if he has a profile in either of them and his description matches and age then bingo you might have found him--even try the yellow/white pages on line as well
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
31 Mar 08
I have had friends that since they got married or had boyfriends they just changed. When they were single, we could see each other all the time talked about anything but they became rude or avoiding me after they got bf or married. I don't know why but friends like that I don't bother keep in touch with them. I didn't even invite them for my wedding well guess what they are not the only ones who can be happy.
I know in your case your friend is male, so maybe his wife due to her previous marital failure, became obsessive. If your friend stays your friend then if I were you I would make sure that his wife knows that you are only friends. I would send cards when they have more babies, birthdays, wedding anniversaries. She may not be the best wife a man can have but she is your friend's wife. This way whatever attempts she made to destroy your friendship won't work or she may just back down because there is no reason why she should feel insecure.
If you were good friends though, why didn't he try to find you as much you tried to find him before? Unless his wife has control over his computer or car :) he may have moved somewhere else but did you move a lot so that he couldn't come and visit you even for christmas maybe? just a thought, pye.
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
28 Mar 08
I'm so happy that you've managed to reconnect with your old friend, pyewacket! Yes, I did have that happen to me several years ago, but, sadly, I have fallen out of contact once again with my long lost friend. I have not given up hope that we will be reunited once agin at some future time. This is one reason why even though I do not have a profile photo available, I often use my true name in my profile so that someone from my past can be able to contact me.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
29 Mar 08
Oh...here's to hoping you find your friend again. I'm trying to find some more of my friends but no luck, but glad I found this one friend of mine
@moneyandgc (3428)
• United States
28 Mar 08
It sure has! I found an old friend that I had known since the 3rd grade on MySpace. We were in one another's weddings and both moved to different states. Both got divorced and moved again...I got re-married so my name changed again.
Addresses and phone numbers changed and we got lost in the shuffle.
One day I was on MySpace and put her name in the search. She had no pictures up and it only said her first name. There was very very little information on her page, she had never set it up.
The information that was there fit her though. The way she spelled her name, her zodiac sign (I HAD known her since the 3rd grade, so I remember these things! lol).
I took a chance and sent a message. Lo and behold it was her!
We were both shocked and excited! We are making plans for her to come and visit. 
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Mar 08
Oh wow...how great, and not only to reconnect like that but now making plans to have her visit you! I'm still hoping to track a few more friends of mine...good luck in your reunion!
@vulgarlittleprincess (919)
• Canada
28 Mar 08
I used to eb friends with this girl on my street when i was probably four years old. somehow, i remembered her name after all these years. Two years ago I was getting ready to go away for three months to study french with 29 other people. Lo and behold there was a girl there with the same name as my long lost friend. I asked her if she had lived on my street when she was little and she said yes, years alter we were reunited. While I would like to say that we hit it off and became close again that would be a lie, we went away together and hardly spoke. She had become tall and beauitufil while I was short and fat. I went away alone and she went with three or four friends. It was nice to see her after all those years tho
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Mar 08
Bonjour! Comment allez-vous? Couldn't resist..hehe. Well, even though that "reunion" didn't work out to keen at least you did find her again...I'm still hoping to track down some of my other friends
@daeckardt (6237)
• United States
29 Mar 08
Mine wasn't quite that bad, but bad enough. I went to a Catholic school in Fairbanks, Alaska for four years (grade 5-8) and then moved to Juneau. I lost track of all the kids I knew there. I graduated from high school four years later and went to school in Washington. One day, a girl approached me and told me she had gone to school with me and did I remember her. I remembered the name, but not the face. I moved to California several years later and the sister of one of the kids I graduated high school with had moved to the same town and the same thing happened (I remembered the name but not the face). It just shows what a small world we are in. I would REALLY be surprised if the same thing happened to me now, especially if I was in China when it happened.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
31 Mar 08
That really would be a weird coincident if you bumped into someone now that you knew from your past and found them in China..but hey...you never know, right??
you knew from your past and found them in China..but hey...you never know, right??
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
28 Mar 08
I never have done such a thing, but am glad that the two of you have gotten together again. I hope you had a real good reunion, even if it is only by email.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Mar 08
Yes I think it was really amazing I was finally able to track him down
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
28 Mar 08
Sweetie that is just wonderful and I am so happy for you
No I have not come across anyone yet on the Net that I knew years ago and I don't believe I ever will either
I have had so many People come in and out of my Life with when I was an Army Wife I doubt if I ever see any of them and if I did would I recognise them after all these Years
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Mar 08
Thanks gabs..just rattled off a small novel email to my friend...my we have a LOT of catching up to do. Wish I could find some of my other friends but so far no luck..sniffle
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
28 Mar 08
I have met people from my past but nobody that I was crazy about. one guy actually found me through my writing. I wrote about him lol,
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Mar 08
I was trying to look up some other folks from my past but no luck
@saigonwarrior (1331)
• United States
28 Mar 08
Yes, I sure have.
My best friend from High School. I looked and looked for her for several years. A few years back I received
an email from her. She was doing the same thing!
She saw my name on Classmates.com, paid the fee to be able to retrieve my email address and took a chance.
We have renewed our friendship and it has been wonderful.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Mar 08
I've heard that Classmates.com is pretty good about finding old friends..I would go for a paid thing but when my funds are better...great you found your best friend though
@vokey9472 (1486)
• United States
28 Mar 08
OMG! Something similar just happened to me with TWO guys from my past. The first one I had not seen or spoken to since I was 15 years old. I am now 35. I used zabasearch.com to get his last known address, which just happened to be his mother's old address. So I took a chance and sent him a letter. As luck would hav it, he just happened to be in town to sell his mother's house and got my letter. Amazing.
The second guy I havent seen or heard from in almost 9 years. I was browsing around the net when I stumbled on classmates.com. Just for kicks I typed in his name cause I had been talking about him with former co-worker of ours, and there he was. Not too much info, so not too sure. Sent him an email. A few days later, I got an email and it was him. He works like 10 minutes from where I live and we are having lunch next week.
So, I have started searching for other people from my past. So far, I have found everyone I have looked for. Not eveyone wants to be found or re-establish contact, but I have found them. :)
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Mar 08
Mmm..I'll have to try that zabasearch.com...might have luck there too..that's so great that you found two of your friends...and my! Going to have lunch with the one friend..fantastic!!
@BarBaraPrz (47611)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
28 Mar 08
How nice that you found your friend. I've searched for a couple people but not found them.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Mar 08
I'm hoping to dig up a few more friends myself...hard to try tracking gal friends though since most would change their last names
