Alright this one just gets me!
By ebsharer
@ebsharer (5515)
United States
March 28, 2008 11:33am CST
You have to read this artical. "Woman delivers 10th, 11th, and 12th surrogate babies!"
http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,342795,00.html
I just couldn't do it! It says she was the biological mother of the first 9 but was given invetro for the 10, 11 and 12th. I just could not see giving my kids away and thats what she is doing. It just doesn't make sense to me. She even gave away the child conseved by her and her spouse. It was accidental that she was inpregnated by him but still if I were to do some thing like this and found out it was my husbands and mine there is NO way I could give it up. Whats your thoughts on this.
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8 responses
@tinkerick (1257)
• United States
28 Mar 08
Wow I certainly couldn't do that. Especially being the biological mother of the first 9. Those children are your blood! I could never live with the thought of having 9 of my own flesh and blood children running around out there, never knowing their biological mother.
As for giving away her husband's offspring too - well, people do give up their children for adoption. (I didn't read the article - does it say WHY she gave up theirs? Do they not have the means to support a child?). If her reason was a logical one, then I could see it. But if it's for the money - well...ew! How awful!
I could see surrogating maybe 1 POSSIBLY 2 children for couples who were having problems. But I don't think I'd donate my own genes to do it. And having that many surrogate children goes far beyond wanting to help the "needy" couples...it's worse than a puppy mill. You're making babies into objects rather than the precious new lives that they are.
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
29 Mar 08
Wow!! There is no way I could give it up either. I have never seen how women could be Surrogates anyways? To me, it would be hard to give up something you carried for 9 months unless you were young, and needed to give it a better life and home. How would you feel knowing it was your BABY you gave up? Wouldn't it bother you?
Just my thoughts.
@spoiled311 (5500)
• Philippines
28 Mar 08
oh wow! she has really made baby making into a profession huh? yeah, for someone like me who is having difficulty in conceiving, i think the idea is inconceivable. but maybe some people just need to do it. i don't want to make judgments, i don't really know what is going on in her head. i don't know her predicament. but i think she is a pretty strong woman after siring 12 kids.
take care and good day to you! :)
@ebsharer (5515)
• United States
28 Mar 08
I'm sorry to hear you say your having trouble conseving. I don't fully understand as I have never personally been in the situation but my aunt was so I was close to it. She did every thing imaginable and in the end (six years trying different things) she had a daughter. There is a magizne she found and loved. Here is the link to it... http://www.conceiveonline.com/
Good luck and have fun trying!
I do have to say I agree she must be very strong to have had that many kids. I know I don't want to do it again and I only have 1!
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
31 Mar 08
wow, i don't know if i could be a surrogate. as a mother, i love my children so very much. and i loved being pregnant. i don't know if i could carry a baby for another couple and just give it up. I was going to do that for my brother and his wife years ago, but that never happened. i thimk that if you can do it, and want to do it to help those who can't have children then do your thing. i just know for me, it's not something i would want to do
@ebsharer (5515)
• United States
1 Apr 08
I was just the oppsite I hated being pregnant. I loved the fact that I was having a baby but the pregnancy part was horriable. I found out I was pregant at 3 weeks because I was soooo sick. I would wake up and have to run to the bathroom I was so sick. That was through the whole pregnancy too 9 months of throwing up. and talk about retaining water, My feet grew a size and a half! Anyway that being said if I won't do it for myself again I couldn't do it for some one else lol. Thanks for responding!
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
28 Mar 08
I couldn't do that either. It'd be one thing if I was carrying someone else's biological baby, I could do it then, but there is no way I'd be able to hand over a child that was mine. And especially if the child was mine and my partner's together. I'm sure she's made all those couples very happy and if she's fine with it then ok that's her perogative, I just don't understand it.
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@ebsharer (5515)
• United States
28 Mar 08
I don't understand it either. I could possibaly do it for a child that wasn't biologicaly mine but I honestly don't think I could even do it then. I guess every pregancy is different she says she doesn't bond during the pregnancies I did with my daughter. I hated being pregnant BUT I loved feeling her grow inside me. Thanks for responding.
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@alibabes88 (514)
• United States
29 Mar 08
I think she is a wonderfull woman. She is giving the gift of being a mother to so many people out there. ITs wonderfull! I hope to do it some day. I don't think i would have been able to give up me and my husbands child... but there are always situations. Like, if she didnt find out it was her and her husbands until right before or after birth, i wouldnt be able to take the child away from the other family.. knowing that they cant have children!
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@ebsharer (5515)
• United States
1 Apr 08
I give credit to any one who can be pregnant and give the child away because they A. can't take care of it or B. they are a sur parent. I personally couldn't do it. I also couldn't be pregnant that long I would go NUTS to say the least. During my one pregnancy I was like when is this gonna end! I hated almost every minute of it. Don't get me wrong in the end it was worth it I love my daughter more then any thing in the world but I don't ever want to be pregnant again!
@SusanShayAvon (1003)
• United States
29 Mar 08
I could not do this. No way, no how. However there are women out there who can never have children and would rather have someone carry baby for them than adopt and as long as she is helping people like that and it does not bother her it's her and not me. That may be what she was put on earth to do?
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