Do you allow your teenager daugther alone in her bedroom with a boy?

I do not hve teenaged girls yet, but I do have 3 young daughters and my husband and I have already set rules in place regarding dating and what will be allowed in our home. Our girls know that they will not be allowed to date until they are 16 years old and that boys are not allowed in their bedrooms, regardless of the door being open or closed. We plan to have a place where they will be able to entertain their friends, in groups, with some level of privacy (no 1-on-1 opportunities though), but their bedrooms are not the place. We have already started enforcing this rule by not allowing their cousins (who are all males) to share a room with them during sleepovers, in the hope that the rule will be pretty well ingrained by the time the subject becomes an issue.

Never, ever with the door closed. I do allow boys in her room but door stays wide open. My mom would never even allow that for me. The reason is that they watch movies and listen to music and don't want mom hanging about. I understand all that. I have to pass her room to get to the bathroom and while they have some privacy, they also know that I could walk by at any given moment and that door had just better be open.

Yes and no. If I am at home and I am sitting right here where I can see them both, then yes. They are not allowed to close the door or be out of my site though. If I am not at home or if I do not know the boy very well, then no. My daughter tried this recently and it does not look good for them to be in the bedroom with the door closed whether they are doing anything or not. I know they sneak a kiss here and there but that is okay as long as that is all they do. It makes me very nervous when they are out of my site. I know how teenage boys are and girls are no different these days, it seems.

I can't even think of such a situation. Our culture and religious values do not allow even having a boyfriend. Of course these days some girls talk of having BF, but it is not seen as a part of good behaviour.

Hi There, Absolutely not! I would never let this happen. I may turst my daughter, but this is way too much of a temptation and is almost like a setup. Hormones are raging at this age and who knows what will happen. I would not even let them in the room together if the door was open! cheers,

If i had a teen daughter she would not under no circumstances be allowed to have a boy in her room with or without the door closed! Not saying I wouldn't trust her or him, but it takes away the temptation to do something wrong.

i am not married. also i have no children. but in that case, i think No. there should be some limit to everything. in our case it is not allowed at all.

I will absolutely not allow that to happen..I will be ok for my daughter to accept visitors but I will be like my dad and mom , they are only up to the living room. I know some parents are liberated and that will be fine but not for me. I have to set rules and limitations but of course I have to explain to my kids the purpose and advantages.

No, I wouldn't trust a teen boy in my daughter's room assuming she was a teen. I'm not looking forward to those years. We have a while to go, yet. So there is time to prepare. Can a mom ever be too prepared? LOL!

Absolutely not - the bedroom is off limits. Anything that falls into the category of things a teen couple should be doing can be done in the kitchen or living area (not saying that they won't do things they shouldn't in those areas). Allowing them to be alone in a bedroom setting in my opinion is just asking for something to happen.

human nature being what itis if i had a teenaged daughter she would not be allowed alone in her bedroom with a boy. There are just too many temptations presented with that. they can be in the living room or a family room but no not in her bedroom. I may trust my daughter but I do not trust the boy. okay?

No who wants a pregant daughter

I do not have a daughter but should I have one, I will never, never, never allow her to let her boyfriend get in her bedroom even if the door is open and how much more closed. Both of them will be punished to the hilt should they try to do that. If they will say they are not doing any thing wrong then what's the point of staying in the bedroom when there is a very big living room where they could stay and talk. I am very strict when it comes to women's purity and fornication will not be allowed right in my very home.

I don't have any children, but I'm going to give my point of view of being a teenager. I'm now 22 so I'm out of the rebelious stage. My parents really didn't mind me being alone with a boy in my room. They knew we couldn't do much being as my room was right next to the living room with paper thin walls. Also, my mom would always come on to chat with us haha. However, my first boyfriend's mom was veeeery strict about us being alone together. I would have never thought to go anywhere with him because I was too young and smart enough to know consequences of any actions. But I think knowing she didn't want us together made me want to "sneak" even more. I don't know how I'll end up raising my children. I don't want to be a hypocrite and tell them they can't be alone, but I also don't want to be so lenient that they get into trouble. It's scary to think that children are doing certain things at such a young age. I was that young just a few years ago and still can't believe girls are getting pregnant so early on in life.

Uh, no.. Furthermore, I don't let my gay son alone with a closed door with one of his male friends. It's a matter of temptation, not morality. They are not in control of thier hormones.

I think the most interesting part of this topic is the fact that, for the most part, you'll notice that parents of a male child allow the kid to have girls in their rooms with the door shut. If it's a female, then most parents won't let that child have any males in their room with the door shut. I've seen that proven true on many an example of people I've talked to. I suppose it's just one of those things where people *Expect* guys to pull stuff, so it's perfectly okay, but girls have to be the angels. It's just a double standard that becomes quite annoying, honestly. I mean, if you know the kid's going to do something at some point, where's the problem in letting them do it? By not letting them do it, you're almost sending the message that doing stuff like that isn't natural, and that it's wrong, which could, actually, give the child quite messed up views on the entire ordeal and cause you to loose quite a bit of trust because they'll just go around your back to do it.

My 14 yr old has friends of both sexes and they hang out in her room. I am ok with that. My own mother never allowed boys in my room at all. We have an open door policy here. She is not allowed to have her guy friends here and shut the door. there is no need even tho I trust her....its just the rule here.

I didn't allow my daughters in their bedroom alone with a boy. Its not appropriate.

No i wouldnt dream of doing that. Dont know what they are up to nowadays. It is not wise to do so. If we allow them that much freedom they will easily get spoiled.

no