Never break a promise to a child

I agree with that policy or tip because I want my child to keep her word too. We must set examples on attitudes or virtues that we want our child to develop. The only problem with my child right now is that she keeps on bugging me when I promise something but at least she knows that I do keep my word but she must wait. Sometimes I really get irritated when she keeps on asking me to do or give my promise that I would end up scolding her and telling her I won't be fulfilling my promise anymore though I am not that effective coz even if I have said that I wont fulfill it, I would end up doing it.

Yes, I do agree with you. Children have good memory as regards to promises you make to them and it is better not to promise anything at all if you cannot keep that promise. Everytime I go out of the house, my daughter always tell me to buy something and when I reach home she would remind me of that.

Yes it is a good Policy as I stick to it to even now that mine are older If a Child grows up having Promises broken at all times it will become a very insecure and confused Adult Also the Child would never trust anyone which could also cause Problems in Friendships and Relationships so no I agree never break a promise to a Child

that is the reason why i dont promise anything to my children. we adults get hurt to when a friend or a relative promise something but breaks it. so it is much more hurting to litte children. i always say that i will try but i cant promise i have four children so it is not easy to promise.

I do believe in not breaking my promises to my children. If you get in the habit of doing that, pretty soon they feel that your word isn't any good and they lose trust in you. If a child can't trust his own parents, who can they trust?

I totally, 100% agree with the policy Dawn. I myself do not make any promises to anyone, for I think it could be damaging in any type of realtionship(parent to child, wife to husband, friend to friend), if the promise can't be fulfilled. Normally I will say, "I will see what I can do", or "I will try my best to do", etc.

I always try not to make promises to children in case I can't keep them. A promise to a chlid is very important. I do certainly agree that it is a good policy. I am sure there may be times when you can not keep a promise. For example, if you have said you would take a child somewhere on a certain day and then you are rushed to hospital unexpectedly. That, I suppose, would be a legitimate reason. But I think, accidents, emergencies, etc. aside, if you can not be sure of keeping a promise then don't make it. I do not promise my kids things very often. I will tell them I will try but make sure they understand that it may not happen. However, if I make a promise to them, I will keep it.

I absolutely agree, if you are careful about what you promise then there is never any need to break the promise. I also try to avoid saying 'we'll see...' instead of just explaining that something is probably not going to happen. My golden rule is never to lie to a child even in a small way...If my four-year-old asks me point blank about Santa, I will tell her that he is just a character... Here's my philosophy: If you tell someone the truth, you cannot be blamed for merely telling what is already a fact..If you cover something up with a lie/fib/story, then you OWN that lie and are fully responsible for the consequences. Kids will remember when their parents were not truthful, hid something or failed to deliver on a promise. I want my child to grow up knowing that she can trust me to tell her the truth, whether the issue is big or small, even if it is not what she wants to hear.

That is definitely true. We adults are supposed to portray a good model of excellence if we want to teach our children good values. Regarding this issue, the child will not only learn how to keep his/word but also will build a strong trust in their elders if we keep our promise to them.

I think it's wise advice, and my take on it is not to make a commitment a "promise" except under rare circumstances. I may tell my son that we're doing something special tomorrow, but then something out of my control happens & perhaps we have to change our plans. I'd like him to see that not as a broken promise, but how life works sometimes. Being flexible and willing to compromise are good skills to have as an adult. But I may promise to let him choose what movie we'll watch, or something that will happen immediately.

i personally feel a promise is meant to be adhered to...whether given to a child or an adult...that doesn't matter. once you have promised, in a way you have assured the person that he or she can trust you. if after assuring the person in such definate way as promising him or her, you don't do the actual thing, then it not only raises a question on your loyalty, but also hurts people around you. so, wither never promise and just say "i'll try my best"...or once if you have promised,..complete the task at any cost. and yes, one should always be extra careful with children as they learn from their elders...so we should try not to set wrong examples in front of them. moreover, they are extra-soft, and even if their small wishes that had been promised before haven't been fullfilled, they get very hurt and sometimes even small things make a lasting impression of the elders.

a lot of promises that were made to me were broken by many people. This has taught me a very valuable lesson. Hence, I make it a point to kee my promises to anyone. Kids are very easy to lie to. You just hae to cook up a story and you can spin it a few times before they actually get into it. However, many do not realise that kids love to imitate and they are learning a lot of things from us adults. Being a good example is one thing that we can do to ensure that we nurture a better society.

i agree with that because my mother always breaks her promise into us even when we we're young and every time she broke her promise we're always frustrated and upset about her. so it's best that if you can't make a promise or if you're not sure that you can do what you promised then tell your child that you're not sure about it and you're gonna try