is it really sometimes better to be friends than lovers?

That is one of the interested topic I read... Well then, I'm glad that at least even you don't have a good ending as a lovers, you were both able to end it as a good friends.. Sometimes, we though that since we are compatible to that person we can have a good and happy life with him/her, we never think of any problems that might happen.. Well,for me if you are in the relationship expect something unexpected to happen since we never know what will happen tomorrow.. When we feel happy today, it doesn't always mean that we will be happy forever.. As what I've said expect unexpected things in our life.. Well, in my previous relationship we never become friends after we broke up.. Maybe, friendship and lovers can't be worked with us since there's hatred and angered we felt for each other.. I am now in more than 3 years relationship with my boyfriend.. I can say that we both happy even we are temporarily in a long distance relationship..Everything is fine and we are trying to fix all the possible problems that we encountered.. Having a long distance relationship isn't really good because you would really miss each others present but since it is just temporary we are trying our best to communicate everyday.. Same as what you've mentioned above , we are compatible to each other.. We have the same interest and likes.. Of course sometimes we have misunderstanding and some argues but we never let the day end without fixing it.. I think it will be solve if both couple will listen and try to understand each others side and points.. Just need to be patients and able to accepts the truth that you were wrong, then just ask a sincere apology.. For us, it really works... Oh well, I guess you are just too lucky that you end up in another chapter of life which is to become friends.. But I tell you not all break up end up into a good friendship.. Just like me.. But it is ok I never wish or hope to be friends with them..

Tough right? But your reflection is in fact very grounded. Did you know that there was a time, not very long ago, when parents had to arrange the marriage of their sons or daughters with their friends or a prospective partner? Have you ever thought how dreadful the idea was? But it worked before. There were so many marriages which survived despite not having any previous encounter, dates or moments to get to know each other. To me, it's really a mystery. How that happens is surely almost miracle for me. Try and watch 'the Fiddler on the Roof' (if I'm not mistaken). There you would see a couple who made their marriage happen even if they first met already in their marriage ceremony. I'm not trying to lecture you, far from it. I am just moved to share an insight that if pre-arranged marriages survived before, there must be something in it that we must learn. I think it must be 'our desire to work things out.' Sure, compatibility is an issue. Many of us nowadays take into serious consideration things that bind us, or what we have in common with our prospective partners. That's not a bad idea. We cannot enter and leave a relationship, and do it as if we can come out unscathed. That's impssible right? But my point is, while we should place 'compatibility' a value, we should also look at traditional values as essential for marriage to survive - patience, humility, forgiveness, second chances, giving way, moderation, meeting half way, service, etc. Wow. I don't know if these things are still being considered by married couples. I have come to talk to some couples who were having a hard time in their marriage. Most often, these are the elements which were compromised in their relationship. No one seemed to be willing to work things out. And working things out would mean one is to forgive, one is to be humble, one is to acknowledge limitations, one is to accept the other for who he/she is, one is to go beyond personal biases for the sake of another, etc. Marriages on the rocks suffer from willingness to be reconciled and give marriage a second chance. It's easier said than done, I know. But my point is, while I recognize compatibility as an important aspect of every relationship, we cannot disregard the values of our willingness to work and figure things out in married life because it is about love, and the measure of true love is a love without measure.

yes I think that it's better to remain friends because if one has a boyfriend/girlfriend, one tends to think more of her/his boyfriend/girlfriend and thus forgetting that he/she has a life of her own.