Hard to make friends
By magrylouyu
@magrylouyu (1627)
United States
March 29, 2008 1:17pm CST
I find it hard for myself to make new friends. I had a bunch of friends when i was in high school. But once I got pregnant at 17 and had my child at 17 (2months b4 i was 18) everyone saw me in the hospital, then a few days from the hospital and now I only talk to 3 of them. I have now moved to NH 4 years later and have lived here for 1 1/2 years and only made ONE friend. I dont understand. Maybe it's because I'm too shy around new people or my apperence or because I have children. But I find it very difficult to keep friends anymore.
2 responses
@captainmorgan (773)
• Canada
29 Mar 08
Well, if your highschool friends did not stay friends with you because you got pregnant, they sound sound as if they were very good friends in the first place. My advice to you for meeting more people, is to go out in public more often. I know that might not always be an option for you, because you have kids. But you could take them to the park. Maybe you could meet other mothers and spend time with your child, at the same time. But when you do have some free time, you could join a class, or go to a spa. Also, anyone who would not be friends with you because of your appearance isn't the person someone normally wants as a friend anyways. So I don't think you should worry about that too much.
@captainmorgan (773)
• Canada
29 Mar 08
Oops I made a typo. In the first sectence, that should say weren't very good friends, not were.
@magrylouyu (1627)
• United States
29 Mar 08
Thats what alot of people have told me. I was friends with them since 1st grade and then they flee. I told my mom "i guess you find out who your real friends are when a life changing event happns" and now I live by that phrase. I was thinking of trying to find play groups and things like that, maybe that will help too.
@chenhualong123 (69)
• China
1 Apr 08
absolutely agree with captainmorgan
just go out of room and keep smile
everything is possible,just do it
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
19 Jul 10
Well excepting less and accepting friends for what they are..will make it a long lasting friendships.
@magrylouyu (1627)
• United States
28 Jul 10
I have made a few more friends since I posted. I see where your coming from. I dont expect alot out of people. The only thing I look for is trust and respect. Those are my 2 biggest things. I have no problem trying to make friends is people who dont want to be friends with me. But it's okay I'm in my mid 20's life goes on. Thank you for your response
