what would you call it????
By misschriss
@misschriss (110)
United States
March 29, 2008 11:57pm CST
I am married to a man who I love very much. The only problem is that he and I don't see eye to eye on alot anymore. I asked him last night why he loved me. He says that the things I do really mean alot to him. He said nothing about being attracted to me, or anything that seperated me from his girlfriends in the past. As a matter of fact, his answer is that I should be happy that he married me. He says that is enough. But today we had an argument because he doesn't think all that I do is enough. Trust me, I do alot more than I should. But I do what I do because it is my job as a mother and a wife. I am blessed that I have a husband who works a good full time job and goes to school full time. But I do the same. I also try my hardest to do all the chores, and transporting of our kids, figuring out the bills and do all the budgeting. He doesn't play video games like alot of men, however he is addicted to this democrat war between Hillary and Barack. If he's not watching the news on TV and following the blogs in the internet as well as recieving text updates on his phone, he is sleep.
My question is, how do I get him to see respect all that I do? Most of all if I do nothing right, what is he in love with me for? Because remember he says what I do is the reason he loves me. Help!!!
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@flip_flop_lollipop (97)
• Singapore
31 Mar 08
That's the way my dad is!! And my mum goes on about it no end! But she still continue doing what she does everday (albeit with lotsa ranting). My dad occasionally helps out with the "light" chores when he knows he has no way out, lol. but that's about it. if not it's just watching tv, reading the papers and sleep from him when he comes home from work.
@flip_flop_lollipop (97)
• Singapore
31 Mar 08
what i mean is, don't worry! I'm sure he still loves you all the same. :) it's just the way some men are, never lifting a finger and expecting to be waited on and having everything ready and done for them. I don't really agree but well they've been like this forever, so i can't say much. haha.
perhaps like someone mentioned, just sit your hubby down and have a good discussion with him after the elections. let him know your insecurities and how much it means for him to acknowledge what you put in for the family. good luck! :)
@subha12 (18441)
• India
31 Mar 08
i think you are throughly justified here. he should actually appeciate what you do. may be most if the marriages are like just lot of adjustment rather than love.
make him understand that his aloof behaviour is amking you sad.
@dw2005 (22)
• United States
30 Mar 08
I cant give you personal experience but I know what your going through. My father in law is the same way but hes been married to my mother in law for 23+ years. What she does is just let him be and do what hes gotta do and continue to do her work. It will be over shortly hang in there. Most guys dont like to be put on the spot like your question why does he love you. Guys have to think of an answer. They aint made like us to where we know the answer right off. After this whole election thing is over with sit him down and have a chat with him just you and him. Another thing would be to do the main chores cleaning toting and cooking. When meal time is done fix yours and the kids plate and have him get up and get it himself. Dont do as much for him and when he finally catches on he will understand what you have been doing the time yall been together. Hope this helps