What age is the most difficult to acknowledge?

Embrace 50, K. Hey, how great are your forties, anyway? You 50s should definitely be better, you'll feel better, I'm sure, you should be developing a deeper sense of self, a greater awareness of who you are and with that comes an ability to make better choices and decisions in our lives, and I'm talking about every aspect of them, including the men involved in them. Please don't take offense at that, it's just an illustration of my message to you. If you look at my profile you'll see that I'm 53 and will be coming up on the next one in July and I kind of like the idea of this particular birthday, because I will be 54 and was born in '54. I like the synchronicity of that. Maybe it will be a better year for me, and this one's been wonderful, so I can only look forward to it. What I'm trying to do at this point in my life is keep counting my blessings and being grateful for what I've got, but at the same time, I'm trying to care a bit less about the things that I find disappointing and stop fighting what I can't change or what seems impossible to change. It's hard and I'm not sure if it's the right thing to do, but I'm thinking on it and I'm sure I'll come up with the solution to what I'm trying to work out. Part of why I'm telling you all this is, when I was younger, I would have either just gone along with everything, or taken myself completely out of the situation. All or nothing, black or white. But now, I'm handling things differently, and it's due in most part to the life experience I've gotten, the self-knowledge gained through age, and the bits of wisdom I've managed to garner along the way. Fifty is beautiful, K, you are beautiful, and you just get moreso as you age and grow. Embrace all of your birthdays and look at each new year as a gift. Our lives are what we make of them. Make yours what you want it to be.

As you know I recently turned 50 and frankly I really looked forward to it. I shuddered at little at 30, but the one that I really didn't look forward to was my 36th! Nothing but different, that's me. When I was a boy I wanted to be a Lancaster bomber pilot in the RAF. As I grew up it became clear that this could never be as the Lancaster was phased out before I was old enough to join up. So I decided to be a fast jest pilot instead. But other things got in the way and I never got round to applying. The cut off age for fast jet flying is 36. When I got to that birthday I felt that my boyhood dreams had vanished and that from now on there would only be adult aspirations. Not that it mattered much because I knew that i would die at 42! That birthday came and went too. Thank goodness because I am enjoying life more now than ever. 60 for me will be the age at which I collect my pension, that's good. I have no fear of dying so I fully intend to grow old as disgracefully as I reasonable can. You are very welcome to join me on the ride!

As a man I never had any problem with my age because with every milestone I have been blessed with things like wife,business and kid so far which made me mellow with age and prepared to face the getting old part with due responsibility.

I think 30 was hard for me. I guess because all of the sayings of people saying it is a big age. Then I had jokes about it also from some of my friends. It felt like just another birthday to me truthfully.

I think I found 36 most difficult as it meant I was getting into middle age and I didn't want that one! lol xxxx

50 bah humbug! I prefer to think of it as dyslexic 5. I guess each one gets harder as you get older! But you can't maintain at 27 forever. At some point it isn't believable any more!

I hated my thirtieth birthday. I was literally in tears for most of the day - madness when I think back on it lol! Thirty just seemed so much older than being in my twenties. Turning forty didn't bother me at all and now I'm four years away from turning fifty. I wouldn't say I'm looking forward to it but I'm not dreading it either. I suspect sixty will be the one I have a big problem with, because that's retirement age etc. Not looking forward to that!

Hey don't forget 40 my friend that's a milestone too! They say that life begins at 40! That is my next big milestone on the horizon for me. I will be turning 40 in 3 years time. Mind you I had difficulty with turning 30! After that birthdays were never the same, sure I would have a day off work that was my present to myself, but I would never have parties or really go out with a bang on my special day, it was another year closer to my tomb! So 40 is not to be looked forward to either!

for me it is anything ending in 0 so I am not looking forward to 60, 70, 80 etc, I have passed the 50 mark already

I've never really had an issue with my age, but that all seemed to change when I turned 40 last year. I can still remember thinking that 40 was ancient....LOL. I think it hit me harder because I seperated from my wife and have that whole feeling of starting over again which is not where I expected to be at this age.

Hi kbourgerie, I believe you are right, most women find 50 is a difficult age to acknowledge. I don't think a lot of men worry about it at all. I find too that a lot of women (and men as well) are proud of their age after 80. I always say that there is only one way to stop growing older, and no one seems to be in a hurry for that. Blessings.

I will be turning 30 in 2yrs and I have a feeling that is going to be hard on me. I had a real tough time with 25. I thought I would be one of those people that age didnt really matter but my hubby is only 22 and sometimes my age bothers me. I think I am going to have a tough time for a few years to come and then it will just set in and I will be fine.

even though im 19 which is still pretty young. I hope that I continue to have the same outlook on life when I turn 50 that I have now. me personally I think we should all just live life and just remember that age is only a number lol. and take it as a blessing that we have been able to walk the earth and live as long as we have. ^_^

I just turned 40 this past year. I guess I dont feel much different, other than its not as easy to stay in shape, you actually have to work at it. I did realize however that it was time to start thinking of what to do about the future. Doing some online stuff, built a webpage, Got out of the Plumbing and Heating industry before it destroyed my back and knees. Also retired from the National Guard, So I guess my next milestone is 60, when I can start drawing my pension.

My worst milestone was the big 30. And as predicted, I closed my eyes what seemed like minutes and now I am 45. I don't know why I took it so hard but I had honestly cried and sobbed on and off for three days. Now when my husband and I talk about it I have to laugh at myself for how I behaved. The biggest thing that went through my head at the time was remembering all years prior, thinking and saying how 30 was over the hill. And I had always thought that 30 was very old. Now at 45, I am thinking 50 is pretty darn young. It is funny how are mind works to get us through. I do hear many people in their 50s saying they are their best years, so I wish you the best years ahead.

I did not had any problems turning 50. The hard one for me was turning 40. It took me 4 years to accept it. I don't think it was only the age... but the fact that I was changing physically... like the grey hair and the wrinkles. I wanted to look 30 for ever.

I have never found any one particular birthday to be a difficult 'number' to deal with. At 21 I was living a fairytale life, married to money.....didn't last, money can't by happiness, lesson learned. At 30, I had a 1 year old and a 7 year old, I was too busy to worry about my age. I will also be turning 50 in 2 years, and the only thing I'm thinking about is that I hope my business is doing really well by then....I don't think I can fight wildland fires much past that, so I'm taking steps now to make that change in jobs, along with other planning. As for turning 50, I won't have a problem acknowledging that I reached it, and I have never had a problem telling my real age either, and that won't change. I can only hope I'm around to celebrate my 75th and 100th lol. Why do you find turning 50 to be so threatening, or hard to deal with? just curious

I am 51 almost 52. Don't stress...it is not so bad. Actually i felt no diffrent. it is all about attitude. If that is you in the pic...you look great so don't even think about it. worrying causes stress which causes wrinkles. don't worry! its all useless anyway. You are going to age regardless of whether or not you worry so wy bother.

as for me age is only a number,i'm 44 and when i was going to turn 40 4 years ago everyone was saying ,watch what happens now ,your life is half gone and other stupid remarks like that ,well 4 years later i feel no different and birthdays dont scare me ,nor do i feel older ,maybe when and if i reach 70 or80 years old my outlook will be somewhat different

Once you have passed a particular milestone you can look back and see it was not worth being apprehensive about. Entering a new decade in your life is not going to change you overnight. You will still be the same person inside. Personally I find my life gets better with each decade and so I can really look forward to my old age.