How do you make ammends when you have got it very wrong?

I know it's hard but I think, you have to give her/him time then after a while you'll then admit your mistakes..and at the same time apologize.

It is mostly by sayong that i am really sorry.I just tell how wrong i have been & try not to make this a bigger issue.

for me i need to talk to her/him & explain & say sorry if i say something that it hurt thier feeling.not only once but twice also asking if they really accept my sorry & be careful again for my reaction or words so i cannot hurt them.

make a list of what has been done wrong and go through them one at a time, make sure its not just a misunderstanding on eachothers part and if you feel there can be a way forward go for it .Try and put the past behind and start afresh, yesterday has gone, today is the exact moment we are in at that time, tomorrow is the future. Work towards the future and if you want to put right what in your opinion had been wronged then theres hope for all parties concerned.tc blessed be

It can be complicated. But I do try my best. It depends on what I did and how much I hurt this person. It certainly wasn't done intentionally, but it doesn't hurt any less . My first step is usually to owe up to what I did. I apologize when I"m wrong, always. Talking seems to be the best approach to me, and being honest in what I say. SOmetimes just by talking and letting out what's inside we are able to make things just a bit better. MOst times it is not possible to undo what he did , but sometimes it is kind of possible, so in that case it is worth a try. I don't know, I think I deal differently with each situation but I feel that talking is always the best start.

Me, if i hurt someone and i did not intend to hurt them i try as much as possible to talk to them and say sorry. I like to patch things up at the end of the day, because it is very hard to sleep at night when you have worries and heavy hearts. But if they did not accept my reconciliation, well i guess that is not my problem anymore. For me i do my share and i want to be honest with myself. When I say my sorry it is from the heart not from the mouth.

Am this kinda arrogant person who feels anybody who decids to hurt my feeling will have had acriminal mind to sly me and I dont give a damn for ammends with such silly hudlums! But if am conscious that the fault is mine, I send signals of apology-even here i do it very indirectly!

Am this kinda arrogant person who feels anybody who decids to hurt my feeling will have had acriminal mind to sly me and I dont give a damn for ammends with such silly hudlums! But if am conscious that the fault is mine, I send signals of apology-even here i do it very indirectly!

You use the word, “inadvertently”, so I would say the first thing you need to do is recognise that you have made a mistake and not committed an act of evil. To do this you would need to look within and see if your motives were in any way designed to cause upset to the other person. If not, you need to forgive yourself first before contacting the other person and communicating to him/her. Maybe the only way you would be able to forgive yourself is through such contact. Whatever has happened, guilt and self reproach is a waste of energy, as what is done is done. The past is no more. When talking openly to the other person, you may discover that what you have inadvertently done has not hurt them, they are just negatively sensitised to it. Emotional pain comes from the self identifying with some issue that is considered (by the self) to be painful. Another person relating to it in deed or word, may not have any idea that the person concerned is so sensitive to it. At the end of the day, I guess what I am trying to say here is that, things happen, it's nobody's fault and pain and discomfort are tools of personal growth. We would spiritually stagnate without them. :-)