I am not comfortable with my husband's bestfriend(girl)!!

I am sure you are not jealous or insecure with your husband's friend but I know the feeling when other people are hanging out in your house frequently because no matter how at home they are, you are still uncomfortable. Also I know you don't trust her anymore because she had lied about being a bank manager when in fact, she is only a high school graduate. IF you are not comfortable with her frequent hanging out in your house, talk to your husband first since they are close and i am sure, your husband knows how to tell her about it without sounding offensive.

Unless your husband has given you some reason not to trust him, then you shouldn't worry about it. Just because his best friend is female doesn't mean they're something fishy going on, and being married shouldn't mean he has to give up being close to his friends. If you trust him not to do something inappropriate, then it shouldn't matter if you trust or like her. If, on the other hand, you have some kind of trust issue with your husband, that's something you should talk about and resolve.

I don't think I could stand for Hubby to have a close friend who is a girl. It just wouldn't work for me. If you have reasons for feeling uncomfortable, then you need to have a talk with your husband. I'm not saying he should give up his friend but he should take your feelings into consideration and try to involve you more so it is more of a threesome friendship instead of seeming like a couple. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

I guess that if she was a he it would not bother you as much, but sometimes you have to accept that she is your husbands friend and you should not try to change that. I guess I would be a bit put out at first but then I would try to get to know her and not see the bad in my hubby having her as a friend especially if they have been friends for a long time, because if there had ever been any feelings between them then they would have come out a long time before you came along. Trust your husband, a marriage will not work without it.

No you are by no means paranoid Che,but its difficult when you see your hubby friendly with another woman,the first thought that jumps into your mind is probably the furthest thought in his mind,Its difficult to accept that men and women can be just friends,,but they can...and its harmless Che...Its just you being human that gives you these thoughts..nothing else...dont forget..you are the one that he married x

I understand how you feel checapricorn.All you have to do is being open minded and most of all trust your husband.I guess deep inside you are lil bit jealous bcoz of there closeness .Don't let your jealousy be the cause to ruin your marriage and I guess you have to open also your feeling to your husband so he understand how you feel.

I am a man, and I know just very clearly from eperience of ourse, that the only woman a man can call a friend and no eyebrows are raised is a sister-anything short of that, that friendship goes eyond the elbow, and checapricorn, you had better be affraid-forget this b..l Sh..t that she is married-this woman is just feasting on your man and she knows you are suspicious!

What is it about her that you dont like? Is she rude, nasty, flirty etc or is it just that she is a female and best friends with your husband?

I dont think you'r being paranoid just maybe a little territorial as we females sometimes can get, you know with her being female and all. Beside his family his mom and daughters if there's any.. we expect to be the only other important woman in his life.But like gemini said if something was gonna happen it would have happened a long time ago. Trust him and just enjoy being his wife and lover you know all the good stuff.

I can relate with your situation. I don't know if I'm that selfish or what, but I can't stand seeing my GUY spending time talking, laughing etc... of his so called FRIEND! Who else will believe that they're just friends, just friends for so long. We all know that there's such a character of us GURL which is a little flirty sometime esp.her husband is in far far away land for sure she needs some attention from somebody else. WHy? Is your husband the only person she can called as FRIEND, no other circle of friends?

Has your husband ever shown signs that he would cheat on you? Have you ever talked about this with your husband? Does he know how you feel about her? My guess is that you may be paranoid but I don't know the whole situation. Does the friend cling to your husband? What exactly does she do? Talk with your husband and let him know how you feel. That is probably the best advice I can give. Good luck.