is having an affair forgivable?

Hi, guys, dont be so serious about this topics, yeah. wanna get affair? It's ok, I think, if you dare to.If yo dont have enough braveness, so dont ever to get affair, coz it could make u in trouble. Anyway, listen to me now....wanna a happy marriage without affairs? It is you to decide. Here is the only answer for this matter. You should not get married earlier. Enjoy your youth-life fully, be happy as a single guy, you are your own master, so dont ever let somebody else to bother your life. By enjoying fully your youth-life, you will be a very happy man/woman. You may start thinking to have a girl friend/boy friend if you feel it is your time now.If you feel that you should go ahead with your personal freedom, then leave it. Be yourself fully, enjoyful life is yours to keep. When you are entering a marriage-life, then you will never think about to make affair with others.

When a male or a female has an affair it means they aren't happy with what they have..I know you already know that... Something is missing and they are not willing to talk it out..Instead they go about and do what they need to do to make them self feel wanted, cause there partner can't do it for them.. Now is it forgivable? My answer is yes and no... Yes because the person has to DEEPLY care for the one that had an affair, I mean down right in love with the person... If they don't than they are the ones that won't ever for give the other... It will make things harder in life for them of course not to be able to trust again.. This is what I think so please don't think what I am about to say is spoken for everyone... People that tend to hold things other people do tend to have a harder life, I say this because they aren't able to trust as much and feel that when they are with someone they are having an affair I think it's best if people for give and just move on with life.. Cause life is to short not to be happy!

Yup, forgive for a few time, people sometimes make mistakes... I do... but if she/he keep doing it... I guess, there's no return to her/him

As a person who actually had an affair I would say no, it is not forgiveable... at least I don't forgive myself. So I certainly wouldn't expect my ex husband to forgive me! What happened was completely unintentional initially. I had a penpal relationship with someone over the internet... to my horror, I fell in love with HER (Yes, I'm a lesbian but at that time hadn't realised it). Anyway, the questioning of my sexuality made me seek support that I couldn't have received from my husband. As Christians the subject of homosexuality was completely OFF LIMITS. I found a support group for lesbians and met a woman there. I was still questioning whether I was going through a 'phase' as many heterosexuals view it. Because I had a husband and two beautiful children I didn't want to destroy the family unit for something that might be a passing phase. So I allowed a relationship to develop in order to discover whether it was just a phase... unfortunately it wasn't. After a couple of months my husband became suspicious of the relationship I had with my 'friend' who frequently came around for a cup of coffee when he was home. He asked me whether I was having an affair with her and I confirmed it... I might have been a cheater but I wasn't a liar, I wasn't about to deny it when directly confronted. Well, within three weeks we broke up. So in one sense I was trying to protect my family by having a secret affair. But no matter what my reasoning was. The fact was that I betrayed my husband... regardless of the fact that we had been more co-habiting together than being married for several years (there was a complete lack of intimacy in our relationship) it was still wrong. Needless to say, it is something I will NEVER do again!

It is good to always forgive but the wounds cannot just be healed as fast as expected. The scar will always be there but good thing is learn to forgive for whatever happen, it takes time, but you will feel better.

I think it would certainly be difficult to forgive, but it would likely depend on the circumstances, was it a one night stand, was it a relationship. Was there tension in your relationship with the person. At one point of your relationsnip did it occur. I think there are some things I could accept more than others. I don't know if I would forgive my husband if he cheated or not. I don't really want to find out. We have been together 22 years living life with out him would be hard, but I don't know if we would survive as I would lose a tremendous amount of trust and respect for him if he cheated on me. Those things are pretty valuable in a relationship.

I don't think this is an easy answer question. There is so much that would effect whether or not it is forgivable. Was it a one time incident? An on going affair? Was there problems in the relationship to begin with for example. It if it was the first time and just a weak moment I think it could be forgiven. However if the person constantly has them and has no intention of being faithful what so ever then I would say it's time to say good bye. Something else to consider is if they bring anything home with them, a disease or a child etc. That can break it as well in my book.

I can forgive once but I can't do it again once that same person do it again and I guess he will pay for it if he ever tries again. Trust is so hard to gain back once someone has broken it..once you get it back after forgiving..it will be so hard to lose again.

Well I disagree. Cheating is a choice and we all have a choice. I was with a guy for over 4 years when he started to cheat. I accepted every lame excuse that he gave me because I loved him that much. And after awhile I started to not like who I was because of it. It was changing who I was inside. That was a long time ago though. I would never let a guy walk over me like that again. it's unforgiveable. Theres so many trust issues after, I couldn't stay with a guy who was cheating cause I would all be a wreck when he went out by himself.

NO, i do not think so...an affair with another one other than the one you are committed to is infidelity and it is not good in any relationship. How can one mend a broken trust? It's like putting together a broken glass, you may try to put them back together but there are obvious marks that could not be ignored.

I have studied this a little myself and agree that it is natural for a male to want to have many partners but for a female to find one to settle down with and help her raise her children. However, I feel that we have evolved to such a stage where we should be able to move past our primeval urges. Therefore when I got married I expected it to be for life and that my husband will not go off with another woman. I feel that this isn't forgivable because he has made a promise, by marrying me, that he will not do this.

I believe that it is completely unmoral to cheat with your spouse, as well as it is forbidden by the law of the lands.