ideal age to get married?
By checapricorn
@checapricorn (16061)
United States
16 responses
@carinio98 (2929)
• Philippines
1 Apr 08
well tell me if im wrong but my ideal age was 15yrs old. well it was a good thing to have a relationship at your early age coz there will be a serious and sweetest for the 2 of you. some say it is not too good to get married at the age but for some other country it is not. and i think even in mindanao have a belief for that matter.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
1 Apr 08
wow..how about stability? at 15 they are still a high school studs...
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@carinio98 (2929)
• Philippines
1 Apr 08
well did you know if you at that age it is stage lean on parents financial. if they are able to work about when they turn into 18 thats the time they must move on. but i guess having marriege at that age is simply good and you know what i mean. but you have to be faithful to your partner or else that will be a really a problem.
@mic_tcs (264)
• Malaysia
31 Mar 08
There's no ideal age for someone to settle down. As long as you find the someone you love, and that someone you love will like to marry you, then it's time to settle down. But I also think that before you settle down, make sure you have some saving in order to support the family. You have to plan your future and don't jump into a marriage without any planning. It's your responsible to take care of your spouse.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
31 Mar 08
true! some advise the earlier the better..lol..their concern is at least you're not that old yet when your children are growing up!
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@mic_tcs (264)
• Malaysia
31 Mar 08
Ya, some say the earlier the better. It's because if you get married when you're 30 years old, with the assumption that you have your first kid at the age of 30, by the time when you retired, which is 55 years old, your kids will be 25 years old. They started to work and you actually don't need to take the full responsibility to support the family. So I think it's better to get married before the age of 30. It's just my opinion.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
30 May 08
I agree with you mic, it is always wonderful to be still healthy and young while seeing our kids and grandschildren!LOL!
@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
1 Apr 08
I don't think tere is an ideal age to get married, I think it is wheneer the couple is ready. My mother was twenty one the first time she got married, my sister was 19 (they're still together) and I was twenty-five (just got married last year).
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@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
29 May 08
Thanks or the bes response.
My sister, myself and our husbands neer worried about finances. We didn't care if we only had a little bit o money, as long as we were with the ones we loved.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
1 Apr 08
wow...congrats danishcanadian...not everyone has that opportunity really..I know some wanted to settle down at a young age but financial matter will always be the hindrance!!!
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@blush_blush (307)
• Philippines
1 Apr 08
I think theres no ideal age to get married. It totally depends on how mature you think. Of course your partner also.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
1 Apr 08
right? maturity and stability are part of the major requirements in this issue!
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@carinio98 (2929)
• Philippines
1 Apr 08
i like your point of view blush_blush. for you do you like to be at you bf so that youll know if he is faithfull with you.
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@dodo19 (47336)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
29 Jan 09
I personally think that the ideal age to get married is when both partners feel ready to get married. Some simply don't feel that marriage is for them. For some, it might be as early as 19, and for others it might be in their late 40's. For me, i think that it's important for both partners to feel ready to get married, to feel that they can take that step.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
30 Jan 09
[i]Hi dodo,
I agree with you..It's the readiness of both party! Thanks![/i]
@oyenkai (4394)
• Philippines
24 Nov 08
Here in the Philippines, people always talk about marrying when you can "afford" it. Practically speaking, we really shouldn't be inconsiderate about the futures of our partners so we have to make sure that when we do tie the knot, we'd be able to nurture each other's love - and that means meeting our basic needs and becoming independent as a couple and of course having the capacity to do so. However, there's somekind of double standard for women because by the age of 28, aunts start to fuss over them and bug them about getting a boyfriend :D
Thanks for commenting in my discussion!
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
30 Jan 09
[i]Hi oyen,
I know what you mean. I am "pinay" and been there...But, I never allow my relatives to pressure me since I know what I want in my life! lOL!
It is hard when one is weak and will just decide to marry for the sake of those people who are pressuring them, not good![/i]
@oldboy46 (2129)
• Australia
19 Nov 08
There is no ideal age to get married but rather when both partners are mature enough to accept they have someone else to consider plus their chosen partner is the one they want to spend the rest of their life with. For example I was 29 and my now ex-wife was 24 when we married and one of my brothers was 28 and his now ex-wife was 24. Another brother was 22 and his wife was 19. By all accounts their marriage should not have lasted due to them being so young but they are still married and celebrated 40 years of married life this year.
My partner now was 19 and her ex-husband was 23 when they married but it didn't last either. So I think it is maturity and willingness to compromise on the little things as well as respect and trust which determines the ideal age to settle down as a couple. The realy hard questions people should ask themsel;ves before committing to marriahge are:
Am I willing to compromise on the little things for this person?
Do I trust them and do they trust me implicitely?
Am I prepared to be faithful to them?
Do I respect their opinion?
Will I be happy for them to make decisions?
Will I be able to grow old with this person?
Am I happy for them to have friends with others?
Am I wiling to accept them as they are and not attempt to change them to what my ideal is?
Would I be willing to discuss all financial decisions with them and accept their contribution to the discussion?
Financial stability is another matter entirely and very few people who enter inti a marriage would own a house and be financially independent. That can be a good thing too as then both parties can work and save together for their future.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
30 Jan 09
[i]Hi oldboy,
You have presented a very valid point here...I agree with you that maturity and stability counts a lot for a successful marriage as well as trust and compromise! Without these, it is easy for the marriage to fail so it is ideal for both parties to evaluate themselves deeper about this issues![/i]
@comfort55 (1574)
• India
12 Oct 08
In my opinion a person should be stable before he/she gets married. Girls average age should be around 24-27 and for boys it should be 28-30. This is the right age to give birth to the kids because as they get late, complications can occur during pregnancy and for the child also. Though I've seen many case where mothers in thirties have given birth to healthy children without any pregnancy complications, but then exceptions are always there.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
12 Oct 08
[i]Hi comfort,
first of all thanks for bring back my old post! LOL!
I agree with you about complications but have also an aunt who was pregnant at the age of 35, it was all safe and successful but still very risky![/i]
@gemini_rose (16264)
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31 Mar 08
I do not think anyone can set an age to settle down, it happens when it happens. I was 26 before I settled down and I still sometimes think I should have waited longer, that maybe I just was not ready properly. But I think as long as you are not just going along with the feelings of being in love and you are looking at the whole picture then you will know when it is the right time to settle.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
31 Mar 08
thanks gemini_rose..Im also thinking Im too late since I settle down at 30..Have a great day!
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@amitaliasb2 (153)
• India
31 Mar 08
Age becomes ideal as soon as a person starts understanding the importance of responsibility in family and the requirement of someone to support you. These things happen only when one is matured enough. I do believe that if age is to be taken into consideration, 25 should be the minimum age for a male and 24 for female.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
31 Mar 08
exactly right amitaliasb2..Thanks and have a good day!
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@renaud_tan (416)
• Philippines
31 Mar 08
i think that you should be stable first and be sure that you really love your partner and if your partner really loves you back.. ^_^
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
31 Mar 08
correct, nowadays being stable is very important...life is getting tough! Thanks renaud_tan
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@richadh (1)
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1 Apr 08
Today people have become so career oriented that they would like to marry at the age of 30 or 30+ but i feel ideal age of marriage should be 22. Getting married at the young age is cool....parents get free from their responsibility. This is the right time to enjoy your life with your partner, have kids and complete your family...
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
1 Apr 08
true richadh,the earlier the better! but like me, I wasnt ready financially and emotionally whe i was 22..I wish I was! lol
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
12 Oct 08
While I was still in high school, I was sure that I'll get married at 28. It seems like the right age for me to have had done everything I wanted to do in my life as a single woman. I'm 28 now and nowhere near the end of my timeline. Considering I've been with Boyfriend for more than 5 years now, I have hoped we would get married soon. But now that he's hinting at it, I'm the one telling him to wait until I get my life back together. It may take a while but I think it's only fair that I be happy with how I've made myself before marrying him. But who knows, I might just say yes right away and we'd elope.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
12 Oct 08
[i]Hi Anne,
wow..5 years, that's wonderful! ANyway, as long as you are together and happy, that matter most and for sure getting married will be very soon![/i]
@djoana0623 (11)
• United States
19 Nov 08
I dont think there is any ideal age for marriage. What is important is that you know the responsibilities that awaits you when you venture into marriage. It is sort of how prepared are you to become a married individual in all aspects. But you know, these days, esp with the economic condition, i guess it needs more of a deep thinking than just being able to know the responsibility itself.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
30 Jan 09
[i]Hi djo,
I agree with you, there is so much to consider and each party needs to be sure if they are both ready in all aspects!
Thanks for dropping![/i]
@cheongyc (5072)
• Malaysia
12 Oct 08
The ideal age for different people to settle would be different. We couldn't conclude that at certain age, a person should be married. But generally speaking, the ideal for all of us should be between 25~~30. I am well over this range . But I think I am suitable to get married late. It really depends on individuals. For me, I prefer to get married late, so that I could enjoy single life more.
@Susannalin (65)
• China
31 Mar 08
I think it has nothing to do with age, but when you want to. I have learnt some nutrition knowledge, if you want to get married and then have a kid, then the best age is: male, 26-35; female, 24-29.
And there is an opinion that people will be stable after they are 25.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
31 Mar 08
Thats what I learned to0 from co-worker! but for career oriented women and men, they dont care!!! lol
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