How would you react?
By clickchik
@clickchik (5)
United States
March 31, 2008 8:47am CST
I have been with the person I am with for 11 years now. And no it has not been good. Told him was leaving in June. Yesterday everything really hit the fan. His daughter who is 16 and lives next door with grandparents is pregnant. This is the killer. My daughter was looking info online and found out the guy is actually 34 years old with a severe criminal record. Yes I flipped out. But I was told to mind my own business because she is happy and not say anything or I would be kicked out of the home (which we share a son 9 years old) I have and little income with no place to go. So our son will become homeless just to protect his daughters dirty secret. I just find it so sickening that her grandparents would allow such a thing to go on under their roof. Not only that drugs are coming in and out of their house and they turn their heads like nothing is going on and this is big reason besides his father has gone back to over medicating himself that I am wanting to leave after school lets out.
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5 responses
@eden32 (3973)
• United States
31 Mar 08
What an awful situation. I agree with the others who have posted. Don't wait until June, get out now. There are battered women's shelters and family shelters in almost every city. If you are without other options, look into those.Take your children out, before this situation explodes.
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@lolalolacherrycola (899)
• United States
31 Mar 08
You should look into leaving immediately. Perhaps their is a women's shelter in your area that could help you out.
You need to get you and your young son in a safe and positive environment.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
31 Mar 08
I am sorry for your situation, but I would take your kids and move into a shelter ASAP. There are many resources out there that can help you get on your feet and get into a better situation.
@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
31 Mar 08
The dam broke, and the baby's on it's way, so there's nothing that can be done about that. As for your reaction, I think it's perfectly normal, and I don't know what the heck her grandparents are thinkin.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
1 Apr 08
You definately need to get yourself and your son the hell outta there for several reasons..MAINLY the safety of the both of you....AND for the well-being of your son in other areas too (what he's exposed to etc etc) AND for legal reasons as well..Now I dont know if your house could get tied in with any criminal activity goin on at the grandparents house should there be a bust of some kind, I'd be inclined to think that its possible becuase they are relatives and it may be assumed that any illegal activity goin on next door could very well be also goin on at the sons home etc etc..That being said, IF somethign were to happen you can kiss your son good bye at least temporarily because I doubt very much DSS wouldnt get involved....Why take the chance?
I realize that leaving is hard, I realize that its scarey (been there myself) BUT its NEVER impossible....I would start by making inquires with any local organization that deals with domestic violence, womens shelters and so on....I would also make sure you make any calls OUTSIDE your home AND do NOT give your home addy or number...Go to a trusted family member or friend to take care of business..If you REALLY want out...there is ALWAYS a way!!
Best of luck to you and your little one..
