Hypothetical: Would you change your baby before it was born?
By II2aTee
@II2aTee (2559)
United States
March 31, 2008 9:20am CST
About a month ago I asked the MyLot community if anyone whould abort their child if there was any way science could tell their child was homosexual while still in the womb.
The question was wildly responded to, and out of 10 pages of responses, no one said yes.
But today, I am putting a new spin on the question, curious to see what people have to say.
The key word here is: HYPOTHETICAL!
*Please consider the situation I set forth and share your feelings in a mature, respecfull manner. I honestly do welcome all opinions, save those that are disrespectfull. This is a hypothetical discussion, not a chance for you to bash the gay community. Please stick to the topic.
Now here is the question:
You or your partner is pregnant.
You go to the doctor, and one of the tests the doctor administers is the "Homosexual Gene Test". Science has advanced to the point where it can isolate the "gay gene" in a living fetus.
The doctor informs you that your child will be homosexual.
But there is more.
The doctor tells you that he can change it.
Given the choice, would you ask the doctor to change your child to ensure he/she is heterosexual?
Now before you answer, consider this. If the "gay gene" exists, that means that the child was created with this gene in place. If you are a religious person, that would mean that God placed that homosexuality into your child (perhaps for a reason).
If you make the decision to alter that part of your childs idenity, would that mean you are playing God?
I am not interested in your opinion on if this question is possible or not.
All I want to know is, if given the chance, would you "change" your unborn child from homosexual to heterosexual?
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@sweetcake1369 (210)
• United States
31 Mar 08
No I would not change it. If it is a gene, then it is there for a reason and changing it would be wrong.
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@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
1 Apr 08
My answer is no! Why change someone that doesn't need to be changed.. Even though the child is unborn he's going to know what he really wants later in life no matter what any thinks or likes.. That is just going to be him/her... You can't change a person no matter what... Now that being said you were saying you asked this question once before.. My question to you is even though you asked this and everyone said no.. Why you would think they are going to change their minds about this? I mean everyone is oneself and they have there own oppions asking and asking a person the same question isn't going to make one change there minds.. If a person wants to be straight/gay or which ever they may want to be is there own choice, one can't make one be that way... Know what I am saying? No matter how many times you ask this same question you are going to get the same answer, alot of people have there minds set when it comes to things like this to me it's almost like (my oppion here)But I think no matter how you put this question you are hoping some will change there minds about this Am I right? Again my oppion it's not going to work.... Best wishes!
@II2aTee (2559)
• United States
1 Apr 08
I'm glad you asked this.
The reason I asked this question again is because the first time I asked if people would abort thier child for being gay. Meaning, of course, just get rid of the child; reject it.
So many of my gay and lesbain friends come from parents who tried to change them. Be it therapy, church, threats, or camps. Yes, there are capms out there that parents can send thier kids to to make them hetero. Thier success rate is about 0% but they will take you money anyways.
So it would stand to reason that although some people may be against abortion, they may want to solve the homosexuality "problem" by changing their childs sexuality before birth.
However, if they did that, I wanted to mention they may be overstepping thier bounds with God.
I loved your answer by the way, but I do have to tell you that I never made, nor have I ever met a gay person who made a choice to be gay. I have been this way my entire life. I have never once, even for a moment, been attacted sexually to a female. Ever. If it was God, genetics, or the flying pizza monster, I am who I am.
I need no reason, and there was no cause. It's just who I am, and the gay community will tell you the same.
I dont know if it was genetics to tell you the truth. I do know it was something much more profound than a choice I made on a concious level.
@fizzytom (752)
• Maribor, Slovenia
1 Apr 08
My father -in-law is alwys talkign about genetic engineering to "cure" homosexuality. Personally the idea makes me feel ill. My instinct is to say i am against the idea of a parent being able to decide to use medical intervention to prvent the child being gay.
However, we live in a world with a lot of prejudice and the though of my child growing up in a world of intolerance makes me afraid and sad.
For that reason I have to say it would be something I MIGHT think about.
@howard96h (11640)
• New York, New York
31 Mar 08
I would say no, don't change a thing. That little life already had a heart, a mind and a soul. He/she should be born they way he/she was intended to be born and I wouldn't love him/her any less.
@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
1 Apr 08
I adore your answer to this question and I think alot of people would feel the same way... There isn't such a thing though I don't believe as a gay gene it's when they become bigger and understand more about them selfs than they choose rather they wanna be straight or bi or even gay...
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
31 Mar 08
Hi 112aTee, Boy! You do come up with discussions that make us think. I believe that there may will be a reason for a person being gay, for example, if reincarnation in true, we may have to encounter different experiences in order appreciate what is happening with others at specific times. On the other hand, if I now have the ability to make the change, that ability has also been given to me, which means that the choice is now mine. I hope you can make sense out of what I'm trying to say here. I would elect to change it, because I think the child would have an easier life as a heterosexual. Blessings friend.
@II2aTee (2559)
• United States
1 Apr 08
Deep wisdom. I do understand what you mean that by giving you the choice it becomes yours and not Gods. Very interesting... and I think my brain just turned inside out.
I can totaly understnad if people would change it. It would seem almost humane.
I can say that I am glad my mother didnt/wouldnt change it, however if she did, how would I know what I was missing? I might be engaged to a girl right now and never mave met Brian and fallen in love. As it is now, I wouldnt change my life for anything, but thats because I have worked at it, and built it for 25 years. Who knows the person I would be if I had a different foundation. I couldn't miss what I never knew I could have had.
Thank you for the brain exersise this morning :)
Tee
@moneyandgc (3428)
• United States
1 Apr 08
Wow.
No, I don't believe I would. I don't personally think that being homosexual is "wrong". You are who you are.
This being said, I am not a gay person. I have never had to walk in your shoes.
You, being a gay man living your life...one with people thinking they have the right to bash your "lifestyle" (for lack of a better word). Would you change it?
Playing devils advocate. What if my son or daughter grows up and while facing this predjudice is mad at me because I could have changed it? That would make me feel terrible too!
I still don't think I would though. I wouldn't want to change something that I don't even perceive as "broken." What if I did it and really did damage my baby? That I couldn't live with.
Ok...after rambling on and on; basically typing my thoughts.
No. I wouldn't do it.
I would still like to know though. Would you have wanted to be "changed"? Would you want your child changed?
@haleyandalliesmommy (20)
• United States
1 Apr 08
no i would not change it, if he/she was meant to be gay then gay they shall be. Who am I to play God? Same thing goes if they did the test and showed my child had downs syndrome I would not abort, and actually refused those tests when they asked while i was pregnant, i don't see any point in knowing if i won't do anything about it anyway.
