When should you stop cuddling your kids?

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I have two kids, one is 5 years old and the other one is 7 months old. As much as possible, we don't wanna let them get used to being cuddled and carried all the time. My eldest is used to being independent, she sat in her chair when she was learning I was weaning her and never followed my grandma that she should at least be cuddled while my partner feed her. She knows she is loved even we don't hold her that often. Though at times, she would gladly be cuddled but two years ago, we cannot just ask her to sit on our lap and be hugged while watching TV so now we are trying to ponder if we would do the same to our youngest. I believe in the power of touch but babies must also learn that even when they are crying upon waking up, a simple soothing "Wait honey, I'm coming to get you" would be enough for the mean time and to teach her that you are indeed present even when you are not near her. When we bottle fed our baby, we don't cuddle them often but we make sure that even if they are propped on a pillow or they are in their carrier, we still hold their bottle or we are within their sight. Now, I am beginning to wonder because now as much as we wanna cuddle our eldest, she don't wanna get near us anymore and tells us that she is already big to be cuddled and I might not be able to carry her because I am small. Ok, fine, I am petite so she is sounding logically bu I am still her mom. She acts this way even to her daddy. She is so conscious already to think that she is only 5. Now, how old was your child when she/he suddenly doesn't want to be cuddled? how did you deal with it?