What makes a friend?
By lisa_jane
@lisa_jane (39)
March 31, 2008 10:58am CST
I have some fantastic friends who are absolutely brilliant. They arranged my hen night for this Saturday just gone and it was absolutely brill! I really enjoyed it but the best thing of the whole night was that all my friends got together. There were girls there who I had known for seventeen years and one for my whole life (though she's more like family). However I was upset that a couple of my friends didn't come. They've been my friends for over five years but when I got together with my hubbie two years ago they started getting really funny. Obviously I started seeing my new man more and as a result my girlies less. I wasn't trying to ignore them but I could no longer see them 24/7. They wrote me some hurtful letters saying what a bad friend I was and I haven't spoken to them much since. It upset me a lot because I don't make friends easily, I'm quite shy, and cherish the ones I have. Would anyone say this is the way true friends behave? Has any of your friends let you down before? Am I just actually a horrible friend? What do you think?
1 response
@TriciaW (2441)
• United States
31 Mar 08
I have to admit I had to laugh cause I have no clue what a hen night is and no clue what brill means but I got what you were asking. A true friend will always be there. You may have your ups and downs but the friendship will always be there no matter what. Friends don't send nasty emails to each other it just isn't right. You are not a horrible friend for being upset at their behavior. We all meet men and we spend more time with them but our friends understand that they don't become mean. Maybe some day they will see what they did and tell you they are sorry then you can renew that friendship but until then I would just let it go.
@lisa_jane (39)
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31 Mar 08
I have to admit I laughed too! :-) A hen night is the party you have before you get married. An all girls occasion where you generally get very drunk and kiss goodbye to freedom! Lol! And Brill=Brilliant. Soz, I do talk a little commonly! Lol! ;-) Thanks for that response. It's nice to have some reassurance from a neutral source (i.e. not a relative/friend who will tell you nice things no matter what you say!) I appreciate it. You sound like a lovely person with some real sense. Shame not everyone's like that! Lisa. Xxx.
