A Question about Mylot Etiquette!

I think you're right on the money. Even though you started the discussion, it's polite to let the person that got commented on to respond first.

I would not jump in as long as they are not attacking the person directly, or being rude. If they are peacefully debating this person's view, I would leave it to that person to debate. This place is the spirit of healthy debate, so to interfere would go against the spirit of MyLot. Although further debate would probably entice me to join in this section of discussion, I would not jump in first if someone responded to them.

I suppose it depends how you look at the word "discussion". If you were in a room, which dozens of other people, discussing an issue, you would hold your hand up for turn of opinion, right? Then, the person who was in charge of the discussion would give you permission to put your view. Now, because Mylot is done in a different way, this cannot happen, so I would say that if somebody put their opinion in on another response, which was directed at the person who started the discussion, then the person who started the discussion should be able to decide whether he answers before the respondent answers the previous opinion. In other words, if you own the discussion, then you can choose to speak when you like, and nobody should argue with that. It's not rude... you're controlling your discussion as is the guy in the live discussion. Brightest Blessings.

If the question was meant for a specific person , then I wouldn't answer. But if it is an open question, a question for anyone to answer, I would answer it.I have had a great three way conversation.it was started by a friend. There was a question that was open but it was in a comment box.Another friend answer it. She started her post asking if it was okay if she step into the discussion. Of course I said yes and all three of us had a great discussion.So as long as you are not butting in, you should post your comment.

I usually let the second responder get answered by the first, first, if you know what I mean. lol I would only comment before if I knew both people really well and knew it wouldn't cause any problems. Some of my best discussions get going in totally new directions when more than one responder goes in under a comment.

Well, I might respond if I thought I wouldn't be back soon. It's easy to reply to two comments at once, I just go: - NAME Response - NAME Response It's not a perfect system, but it works :).

I am the type of person to tell people what I think and why. Not to start a word fight or anything, but to show their are many different beliefs. I will tell them what I think of any issue that I start. I also have a bad habit of doing it in others peoples discussions too. To me its all about getting people to think about things in a different way. I avoid religous topics for the most part, because they always get offended with what I have to say, then they stalk me and rate me with a negative rating just because they don't like my opinion on something. We use to refer to those as mylot stalkers. I went inactive for a while because of it, was getting sick of it. Seems they have stopped, but I stay away from those topics now....

it depends Kamran. Sometimes when I am scrolling down responses, I come across some very interesting responses and comments and I understand that a series of comments is going on between two people. Sometimes I think better of barging in but sometimes the comments have stopped at such a stage and where the first responder has not commented back. I generally see the time lapse i.e. if the last comment was made say 10 minutes back, then I don’t jump in and leave my comments as it is expected that the first responder would comment back maybe. But if say 1 or 2 days have passed, then I usually drop in my own comments as I feel that the original responder may no longer be interested in continuing the discussion. So my comment then is aimed mainly at the person to responded last and to his/her point of views.

As long as the responder is appropriate I leave the right of first response to the person whom the post is directed to. I will only respond first if the user is inappropriate. Usually I'll write something along the lines of, "If you do that again I'll report you to myLot. But after first response I feel like as a discussion starter I have the right to say whatever I want.

sometimes i answer before the person who started teh discsussion gets a chance to, if i feel i need to answer the person, or if the person whom answered is my friend ;) lately i have just been struggling to catch up and stay caught up with my friends discussion that i havent had time though!

Under debating interest, I believe I give some pinch of my opinion on the opening of the discussion. As the discussion goes and the replies add up, I'll express my opinion according to each of the responses. Of course, I'll be open to different perspectives and opinions too but I'll also try to defend my own opinion. Who knows, I might change my opinion once I encountered something more powerful that what I am thinking of? I think I've been liking this discussions lately. :) They challenge me and I reflect on what I really believe. It makes me see the real me. :)

You are very courteous if you are like that my friend. There are times that I really just butt in and doesn't think twice of expressing myself. I guess I am just not that polite. LOL! If I have something to say, I really couldn't hold myself and wait for the person to respond.