How do you control your child when tantrums occur?

Hi there, Well my children didn't have tantrums. You see I am of the old school. I got spankings when I was young if I got out of control and it certainly helped me. My parents were never embarrassed to bring me anywhere or do anything with me. I have three children, 22, 18 and 14. I have never had anyone say anything but positive things about my children throughout their lives. I rarely had to spank, they just knew that that was one of their options. I truly believe this is one of the biggest problems with our world today. These kids have just been running wild. You know you need a license to catch a fish, but any idiot can raise a child. Well there are a lot of idiots out there. Kids have to be not afraid, but know that there are consequences for their actions. A child who is out of control, believe me, is asking for control. For you to be in tears is just unacceptable. This means you have lost control. I am no expert, but having three children and being such a proud mother tells me that I did do something right. So if you have maybe been following those self help books on raising children. Take the book once in a while when there is no control and use it on their butt. Just to end. There is a difference between controlling and beating. If you don't know the difference, then you need more than advice from myLot. Sincerely, Cheryl

I just ignore my daughter and eventually she figures out that she isnt getting any attention and stops.

i have four children and they are all teens already. thank God i dont have anyone who throws tantrums when they were till in their toodler years. i always talk to them and tell them that they cant get what they want if they will cry to me like wild. maybe bribing him is one way i can say. and if he is in a good mood talk to him about his tantrums. you will give him something good in return if he will control his tantrums. how old is he? welcome to mylot nila happy posting

My baby has just starting having these tantrums... and they can drain all my energy and even my husbands... but i found out that the best way to control it is to divert her attention... like turning the tv on... and setting it to a cartoon channel... or to put her favorite hi-5 video on... But before... i would just ignore her... and that would make her scream louder and louder... good thing the ever reliable tv is there...

I can tell you what I did with my first grandchild. I wish I had know about this when my boys were young. She was 4yrs.old and was visiting with me. She wanted to go to MacDonalds for lunch. I said, "Sure, we can go to MacDonald's, after you get all the blocks picked up." She got really mad and said as she stomped off,"that makes me so mad!" She sat there for a while with a mean face, while I got my swiffer and started to clean my floors. I said, "That's ok, we don't have to go to MacDonalds. It's your choice." I walked out of the room and continued to clean. Every so often I would glance in to see her and she started putting the blocks in the bucket. Later, she came to me in a VERY different tone of voice and said, "Nannie, I have picked up all the blocks, even the ones under the couch. Can we go to MacDonald's now?" I said, "Sure, Madison, you made a good choice." We never had another problem like that. She is 10 now and a wonderful grandchild! I can't promise that it will work quite like that for you, but it is worth a try. As long as they have a choice in the consequences, it seems to make sense to them. Nanikj

Ugh! Tantrums are fun ;) My son isnt horrible when it comes to tantrums. He dosent do it often but when he does they are bad! He has autism though so Im kind of used to it. I just try to keep a juice box or some kind of treat in my purse so I have that to distract him with