Would you marry a man/woman for convinience?
By gabrielle47
@gabrielle47 (1219)
Philippines
April 1, 2008 11:50am CST
If you know that your life would get better and easier for you and be able to get some of your dreams, would you marry a man or woman even if you don't feel anything for him/her? There are a lot of marriage like this but would you? Did you know any and how did it go?
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11 responses
@hypemaster (24)
• Jamaica
6 Apr 08
NO!! I am independed young man. I hate taking things from people. Would never married someone for money and possession, if I don't love the person, I won't her.
@tops76 (289)
• India
6 Apr 08
No I will not marry anyone just for convenience. And yes, I don't know about any marriage of this kind. If there is any, it actually not an marriage, its contract, its adjustment, its superficial..........
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
2 Apr 08
I was going to do that at one time because I was in such a terrible state of mind at the time. You see, my fiance was killed when our house burnt to the ground. I felt that love hurt too much so I didn't want to marry for love but for money and security. A couple of months later, I met my husband and married him 6 months later and we've been together for almost 17 years, come this August and I couldn't be happier! I tell him all the time in a joking way that I must love him because he surely doesn't have any money! lol
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Apr 08
I would never marry for money solely.I would marry a man I loved even if he did have money but it would be for love not his money. I have to be inlove to marry anyone and they have to love me or it is not fair to either.
@manaoagmemoirs (912)
• Philippines
2 Apr 08
I dont think it is really that bad to chose convenience initially rather than love. I have known a couple who were married for convenience and they are living together for almost 45 years now -conveniently and IN-LOVED. I think man is a flexible being and emotion can be as flexible.
The couple that I know are the ones I call DAD and MOM.
@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
1 Apr 08
There are a few couples I know that I sometimes wonder if they married for love or not... but then, that would be their choice if they did or did not :) For me personally, I could never marry for convenience. I believe I need to be a whole person on my own and then bring that whole me into a relationship. I couldn't marry someone as a means to them completing parts of me that I know I should take care of on my own.
@UBiquitous (195)
• Pakistan
1 Apr 08
hello gabrielle47 :)
how are you ? thanks for adding me in :0
well! this question actually depends on every other individual.
like if u r single then its ok that you are choosing an ideal person for you without having any attachment with him/her but you are choosing him/her for your secure future and knowing that you will be happy for sure wth that person with no worries at all.
But this thing doesnt go with when you are committed to someone,inshort you are involved in some other person and if you think that,that person aint that much derserving for you than the one you think will be better by all means then i guess it varies with me you and everyone.
It depends,like sometimes the person you like is not financially good with instead of this you have a choice of having another person with good financial position then it depends on you that wether you want luxuries or affection ?
but if you think you can get both of them with the person you dont love actually then i guess you should go with him/her.
Affection will be created automatically after marriage,i dunt believe on love that if you aint like someone and you have got married with the person.you will definately fall in love someday and with the passage of time obviously one needs a secure and peaceful life,affection will be generated with time.
But if you think the person you like but you wont get all the necessities which you want to have from your spouse and still you want to go with him/her then thats a bit risky because after few years affection will be there obvioulsy but when there comes necessities then you cannot fulfil them with only affection.
So the choice is all yours.
But personally if i get in to this kind a situation,well first of all i wont go for all these troubles at all,i dont belivein love and all that,once you are married love and understanding will be there automatically so no need to be worried about that,but still if this sitution comes to me,i will definately got with the person who is my ideal instead of the one i started liking or you can say a bit infatuation.
obviously one needs a easy life to be lived.
well,that was a big note indeed,i dont know wether i got your question properly or not,but this was the most i can write right now about that.
Take care.:)
@heart143 (1202)
• Philippines
1 Apr 08
I have heard of this marriages for convenience before but I haven't known anyone personally. But for me, I think I can never marry for convenience. You may laugh at me but I think I'm a hopeless romantic. I would rather spend my life with the man I love than with riches but with a man I don't love. I don't think I can survive waking up each morning beside a man I don't love.
I would like to dream, live and love with the one I love. Together, we will make plans and reach for our dreams. We will build our family and make it strong. Together we will fight all obstacles. We will strive hard to achieve our goals. Our inspiration will be our love for each other.
@chazsgirl (256)
• United States
2 Apr 08
yeah I would, love isn't much for me anymore, I am in a crappy marriage but would have married if there were cute and rich just to have a decent life!
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
1 Apr 08
I would never marry another person solely for convenience, money or other material things. Love is sacred and kind and should be left the way it is meant to be : Found.