Sharing Custody of you child
By h_shields
@h_shields (67)
Canada
October 31, 2006 12:50pm CST
I currently share custody of my 5 year old son. Man it's been really tuff. My X doesn't tell me anything that happens while he has him in his care and I'm really frustrated by this. It's been 3 years and now it's only getting worse. My son is now in Kindergarden and the X is keeping him home 2 to 3 days a week when the school ciriculum is 5 days a week all day. My son is now falling behind and I'm not to sure what to do about it. My thought is to go back to court and go for full custody. There is so much more than just the school thing and I'm at wits end with the X from Hell. Anyone who can give me advice it would be great
4 responses
@newmama412 (590)
• United States
1 Nov 06
I would strongly consider suing for full custody. You may also want to contact the school and see if they will notify you any time your son is absent. That way you at least have the chance to get him from your ex and get him to school yourself, even if it's only for part of the day. And make sure you document EVERYTHING! If you do go back to court, you'll want his attendance records with dates missed and the dates that he is with your ex. Documentation is everything in the eyes of the courts. I would make it very clear to the ex that if he isn't willing to be a responsible parent, that you're willing to do whatever it takes to give your son the care he needs, with or without his father. Good luck, and thanks for the friend request:)
@h_shields (67)
• Canada
2 Nov 06
I'm working on the papers right now for full custody and Thanks for your advice on Documentation! The lawyer I spoke to told me that too!
Thanks for the encouragement! and I look forward to chatting with you more!
Bye for now!
@chebel82 (417)
• United States
1 Nov 06
I agree with you; you should go back to court, and explain the situation,and maybe file for full custody, cuz even though he's not as responsible as you'd like him to be at least he's spending time with him and that does make a small difference.
@h_shields (67)
• Canada
2 Nov 06
Thanks for the advice and I agree that it is great that his dad want's to be a part of his life and does spend time with him. I just wish he could be more responsible!
@BellasmamaTiff (2544)
• United States
31 Oct 06
I understand your frustrations, but also, I have my own with this topic. Most mothers who share custody, or have sole custody of their children ALWAYS try to make the father out to be the BAD guy. This makes me sick. I do understand that some guys really are deadbeat dads, or no good. But, at least your sons father is in the picture, at least he tries to be there, at least he has a relationship with his son. Look at that. Stand back an look at that, and at all the kids that would LOVE to have a daddy, but don't. And, at all the mothers that WISH their child had a daddy in their life. Trust me. If you look at all this, and truly think about it, it won't be so bad at all.
@h_shields (67)
• Canada
1 Nov 06
I can totally relate to what your saying however, in my case he's done that all on his own! Like they say, "you think you know someone then you break up and they turn into monsters!" You know what, I'm somewhat glad that his dad is around for him, however his father makes some pretty bad decisions when it comes to his son. (That's my opinion and I'm sticking to it) He constantly puts himself before his child and that is not just coming from me. I've heard plenty of his friends say the same thing! I can sympathize with those moms and children that wish that Daddy was around. However in my case I wish he would just spontaniously combust....and just disappear. I think my son could do without the constant heartache, dissappointment and his constant need for control, and his very bad, non-thought out decisions.(But, that's just my opinion)
@april444 (1341)
• United States
1 Nov 06
yes I would take him back to court. Your son needs to go to school everyday. You should consider to file an emergency hearing or just not let him have your son. Good luck and im sorry its been tuff but hang in there your son needs a strong mommy :)
@h_shields (67)
• Canada
1 Nov 06
Thanks alot for the advice! And kind words! Don't worry I'm hanging in there! I have a great fiance who is very supportive and he's behind me 100% when it comes to my son!
Have a great day!
