Even time -out doesnt work for my child.....

India
April 2, 2008 5:37am CST
My son is almost 3 yrs and he doesnt listen to what any one in my family has to say. Whether it b do not throw ur toys down, or pick up the crayons, or do not throw ur shoes all over the house, or anything. He just wants to do what he wants to do. He now wants to play with the screw drivers and scissors coz he saw some1 repair his own cycle and wants to do the same. I mean it cud b dangerous. I have read few discussions on mylot and time-outs have been suggested.So I tried them, but he all the more cries and falls down the chair and crawls like some 1 has spanked him mercilessly, but NO WAY! And i wud try that once more and then more with the same outcome, he wants to do what he wants to do. I do spank him which is rare, but its just like the time-out behaviour-screams.....I do talk to him gently getting down to his level, but he just doesnt seem to understand.But i c no differece in his behaviour. Any thing else cud be suggested?
2 responses
@jimbelle (485)
• Philippines
2 Apr 08
Your son is still 3 year old. From 2 years of age to about 6 years old they are usually like that. It is difficult to handle them at times when you do not give in to what they like to do. At this time we really cannot expect him to keep his toys after playing though it would be good if you can help him keep his toys after playing. The approach should always be positive.
• India
3 Apr 08
Thanx 4 ur response. I lll keep that in mind....
• United States
2 Apr 08
I was lucky with my kids, I gave them the count of three, starting at a very young age, and if they hadnt stopped the bad behavior by then, I would whack them on the butt. They learned after about the 3rd time that I was serious. Its funny because now they are 12 and 15 and I never have to make it past 1 usually and they stop whatever they are doing wrong. I know what you are thinking, that I beat them into submission when they were just babies. That is just the opposite of what actually happened. The first whack came when they had about an inch of padding (diapers) on, and it wasnt hard at all. If they learn from an early age that there are limits, it stays with them. I was watching Supernanny one night, she told this couple with wild children to put the timeout chair in a corner away from all toys, tvs, etc, and give them a time limit, say 5 minutes. Getting the child into the chair was about an hour process, but eventually it worked for them. Sorry to run on so long, good luck.
• India
2 Apr 08
Thanx 4 ur response. I was thinking if spanking wud do any gud, and in your case it did. I just might try that out too.And yeah getting him into that is okay, but he never stays in that chair, hez all over the floor crying...